Over a decade ago I was a girl madly in love with a boyfriend who lived hours away.
As I finished my Environmental Health degree I looked desperately for a job near his town so we could be together. The outlook wasn’t good.
We feared that we were destined for a few more years of long-distance love before I could get my rookie bacteria-battling foot into the door in his town. (That’s a Health Inspector joke, I know, it’s horrible….but so is Campylobacter)
The day would come when I would get an opportunity to interview for a job in the town he lived in – this was the door opening to us finally being together.
I wanted to share this news with him in a very special way, so I made him a crossword puzzle, revealing this news in one of the clues.
This year for Valentine’s I wanted to relive this memory of ‘the crossword‘ that we sometimes talk about. (He still has it amongst all our love letters).
So I made my husband this crossword for Valentines. Now, don’t let me fool you – I just thought of the clues and answers and that put that into a free crossword generator and printed it out. (Just google free crossword generator).
I used clues that touched on all the different phases and highlights of the past decade together. Then I got all crazy craft lady and added hearts with the lyrics to songs that have special meaning to us.
Why make a DIY custom crossword for your LUH-VAH?
These are pictures from about five years back when I last gave Conor a DIY crossword puzzle. We put the kids down for a nap, made some nice lattes and just sat and chatted about the puzzle.
The songs and clues in the crossword tell a story, our story. And I’m sure science would agree with me that the act of recalling amazing, heart-warming, love-growing moments can really add some intimacy-cement to a relationship. It is where we have been, what we have been through, how we have grown together.
It is the highlight reel we don’t always give mental space too – especially if we are in a rut of focussing on the hardships in our relationship.
This crossword seemed fun and simple, but it caused us to just stop and think. It prompted us to recall the spectacular moments and the simple everyday things that have bonded us closer to one another’s hearts.
I know it’s a dork move (I won’t tell you about the Dundie I gave him too then). Either way, he loves dorky me and my dorky crossword.
I think this would be a great gift for anyone: kid, parent, bestie.
Here are some tips on how to make your own DIY custom crossword for your loved one:
- places you have vacationed (that hotel with $17 margaritas, first camping trip)
- movie and tv (quotes, characters, plot lines)
- your favourite spots (restaurants, parks, lakes, etc.)
- weird habits, sayings, inside jokes between the two of you
- song lyrics
- places where something major happened (new job, big news, professions of love, etc.)
- dates you’ve been on, dates you are planning