We are that dorky family that does family meetings. And I am ok with it because sometimes cool things happen when you do dorky things like have family meetings, or keep a lot of lists, or wear matching tracksuits as your husband when you are in your senior years! SOMETIMES! We don’t do them at […]
There is a cliche saying ‘get comfortable with discomfort’ A few years ago I would roll my eyes at this saying that OBVIOUSLY does not apply to me. Now this saying is like a daily reminder about how I want to LIVE life. About four years ago it hit me that I was living […]
Last night we had friends over for hotdogs and chips. It was simple, laid back and enjoyable. A far cry from the hosting I used to try to accomplish. I used to be a stressball hostess. When I think of all the times I’ve been a stressed out hostess, I know it is because I […]
Traditions are the bonding goop in families. They are ‘understood’ by the family, like an inside joke or secret handshake. They are a constant to rely on, a marker for special events. Traditions are a display of family pride, like team colours or an anthem. And the BEST thing about traditions is that they can be aaaaannnnything […]
So we have a new tradition this year. Adventing (oh yes, in this house it’s a verb). This year I had felt overcome by the meaning of Advent. Suddenly the weeks leading to Christmas seem so precious to me. Give me ten years max and I will become ‘that weird Christmas lady’ because I am […]
We all feel the tension. The commercialization versus the simple joy of togetherness. The presents versus the presence. Of course, I’d like to raise charitable kids over entitled kids but I don’t want them to think there is anything wrong with presents. I like presents! To me, the perfect gift is one that has thought […]
About four years back we found ourselves sitting together on New Years and having this conversation about how we wanted to raise our family. What things did we want to do with our three small kids? What things did we want to teach them? What kind of character did we want to nurture in them? […]
I’ve been thinking a lot about the time in my life where everything seemed to suck. Parenting was depleting all my resources, I felt in over my head on a daily basis. My marriage was bookended with resentment on both sides, I knew we were both so lost and angry. I felt restless and unproductive […]
alternate post title: LET ME FEEL MY FEELINGS!! Let’s open with a hypothetical conversation I may or may not have had with my husband recently (but probably totally did)….. The scene is this. It is 9pm. I’m curled up at the dining room table in my pajamas, hypothetically drinking tea (but probably the nice whiskey I […]
Anxiety in motherhood took over my parenting, my marriage and my happiness I came across this really interesting article. It lists five types of mothering styles: perfectionist(she is hypercritical and controlling), unpredictable (she parents based on the mood she’s in), best friend (she avoids taking on the ‘parent’ role), me-first (her kid’s job is to make her ‘shine’) and […]