If you are a new mom (like I was) you probably had a bazillion questions and concerns about your newborn. You might have even written desperate emails during midnight feedings asking your mom friends and family what you are doing wrong. Why aren’t they sleeping/eating/burping/babbling/doing long division??
Then maybe you have another kid or two and you become that person your friends with fresh bambinos come asking questions to. When you answer their questions I bet you no longer scour to the end of Google for the solution. You probably give some empathetic, all-encompassing response like ‘as long as they are gaining weight…babies are hard, I hear ya…just give it time’. Because you know now, sometimes there are no answers or solutions. Just patience, and grace, and lots of coffee.
I recently read a book called the BABY COMPANION. It was written by author Jess Wolstenholm (of Grace For Moms), Pediatrician Dr. Andrea Johnston and OBGYN Dr. Heather Rupe. I was given this book by Jess and asked to post my honest review of the book, so I’m gonna give you a run down of my views on what this book and what it isn’t.
From the time we find out we are pregnant all through the baby stage we are consumed by ‘baby’. We are constantly assessing sleep, feedings, diapers, the ‘next steps’, and milestones. We almost live with blinders on for their first year and suddenly they are 18 months and running naked through the house searching for crackers that fell under the couch and we wonder why we stressed so much and had such a narrow focus.
I’ve said before that I didn’t always enjoy the baby stage. I just wanted someone to tell me what to do as a new mom, fix all the problems and get on with showering and housework. That’s a recipe for a burnt-out, insecure mother, and will slowly make you think you aren’t capable of mothering.
This book is a way to simplify motherhood, to empower you in motherhood, to take you from survival mode to being spirit-led. This book is practical and is literary breathing room into parenting with peace rather than the stresses of pursuing unattainable perfection.
WHAT IS IN THE BABY COMPANION
The book has the facts you need, the stuff your girlfriend would tell you over a glass of wine, the basic facts you would get from your doctors, the quiet whispers of God in your tired ears:
– Formatted to go month by month from newborn to one year (which is my favourite format)
– Run down of basic medical issues (from doctors, not some random googled page)
– Development checklists (and not an exhaustive overwhelming list, just the important stuff)
– Facts and realistic tips on sleep, schedules, vaccines, feeding, diapers, clothes shopping etc. at each month
– Mommy care tips (some of the most practical I’ve read)
– Real mom stories
– Truth for the journey (scripture and dialogue around parenting through God, with God. This was my favourite portion as they were all slow, hard and true lessons I had to learn (am learning) as a mom)
WHAT IS NOT IN THE BABY COMPANION
Judgment. Fear-based advice. Pressure to parent a certain way. Instructions to adhere to ideologies around what your baby ought to be doing at each month. Laundry lists of medical and development charts.
WHY I LOVE THIS BOOK
This book empowers your mothering because it doesn’t give you the answers, but the facts and the counsel you need to make decisions as a mother. This book is drenched in the lessons I was slow to learn over three and a half years and two kids under two. Particularly that I couldn’t rely on finding all the answers online, but that I had to surrender to the grace of God in my parenting (and that fact really spreads it’s roots into all aspects of my life).
THE BABY COMPANION FOR NEW MOMS (and really all moms)
This book was written for new moms, oh how I wish I had this in my insecure little paws when I was a new mom. I truly believe it would have made me more laid back (which my whole family would have appreciated), less of a mom martyr and allow me to more confidently enjoy motherhood to babies. Simply because it is based on facts and faith. And that’s all you have as a mom – sometimes you just waste time wading through all the other distraction and chaos to realize that’s all you have.
I read the book from the perspective of having one very adaptable happy baby, and one very high needs GERD baby and I found it covered all the issues I faced with both children. I know I will be referring to this book again with my third baby!! I also know I will be encouraging all my mom friends to read it.
Jess and Dr. Rupe have also written the PREGNANCY COMPANION, you can check out a sample chapter here Also check out some free printables (I mean, who doesn’t love free printables?!) from the Baby Companion here
YOU CAN WIN YOURSELF (or gift to a mom) A COPY OF THE BABY COMPANION OR THE PREGNANCY COMPANION (your choice!).
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