Sometimes you feel that wave deep in your heart. Little ripples sending urges into the intentions of your hands and the meandering of your thoughts.
You know change is going to happen. Exciting, transformative change.
I feel it happening right now. And not just for me, but for those around me.
I’ve got some top-shelf women in my life, both friends and family. They are passionate, they are persistent, they are dreaming big dreams and, most importantly, chasing those dreams – sometimes with kids in tow.
I grin at them over tea and late-night snacking. I want to hug them hard and tell them they kick ass and then grip their hands tight and run after their dreams with them.
What I really need is to hold my candle up to theirs and get my sputter up to a good steady flicker.
After becoming a stay at home mom
I nestled into the slot of ‘homemaker’ and found the simplest creative outlet I could, blogging. I can’t say I’m ever bored. I have contentment in the day to day. I have hobbies and passions and five loads of laundry always waiting in my basement. But I don’t have many dreams beyond not botching up marriage and motherhood and doing a handstand by age 40.
SETTING SOME VISION
So, I did what most wives do, took an inopportune time to bombard my husband with unwelcome soul-probing Q&A on his dreams. After some sarcastic remarks, he agreed to entertain a conversation about it. So I made us some Old Fashioned Tom Collins. Got out the pen and paper and wrote down everything we could brainstorm before he figured out I was tricking him into a vision-planning session.
HOW DID WE WANT TO RAISE OUR KIDS?
We talked about the qualities we want our kids to have, things we want to do with our kids, what our own dreams and goals were around ourselves, our careers and our relationship with each kid.
Stats say you are way more likely to actually do things when you write them down. I think achieving your goals is important (I mean, it is called a ‘goal’ not an ‘it would be nice if’). What might be even more important is actually identifying them.
I don’t want to look back twenty years later and think I wasn’t mindful of the days I had to teach and guide my kids. I want to be mindful of how I spend my days and how each week that goes by could be a drop in the bucket on who and where I want to be. Where do I want to be? (Other than doing a killer handstand with my World’s Best Mom mug hosting coffee freshly made by my husband.)
My ‘Dreamin Big’ page is still a little light on the grit part but each day I have more to commit to paper. You could say I’m still brainstorming my dreams. A practice that should hopefully lead to the formal art of ‘Getting A Life’ and not just ‘Living the Days’.
So, if you are in for this ride with me, I’d love to hear what kinds of dreams you have for you and your family. What kinds of questions do you think are important to ask when making goals or dreaming up big ideas?
Yours Truly, Shawna
Your Big-Dreamin Girlfriend With No Upper-Body-Strength (yet)
FIVE YEARS AGO I wrote this post. I had just woken up to how much of my life had been on autopilot. I knew I wanted something different, something more inspiring. So I started this journey to live my life ON PURPOSE.
I have shared this journey here along the way. You can read all the lessons I have learned about living your life on purpose RIGHT HERE
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