67. Making motherhood harder than it needs to be (Mom Martyr)

Motherhood is hard, but sometimes we make it harder than it needs to be by becoming a Mom Martyr. 

I would know, I was one. 

I was knee-deep in the work and struggles of motherhood and I needed everyone to know it. However, the way I was showing up and handling life and motherhood was actually making my life harder (cue the marriage counselling!)

Reflecting back on where I was at, what I see I actually needed was to address my own personal doubts and fears and lack of enjoyment in motherhood. 

I am sharing 15 ways that mom martyrdom can show up for you.

As you are listening keep in mind that these are extreme examples and I don’t think everyone will be doing all these things – though I felt like I sure way. These points may be hard to hear and that is ok, I felt the same way when these things were pointed out to me. 

But, I want to encourage you that there are steps you can take if you want to try something new. 

Read the related blog post: How to know if you are a Mom Martyr and what you can do about it. 

What to do about being a mom martyr?

  1. Ask yourself what you do want in motherhood, what do you want it to look like?
  2. Focus on relationships that help you thrive in motherhood 
  3. Practice self- awareness to see how you are showing up. I love to use the Enneagram for this
  4. Get proactive – plan your day to make more peace and purpose for yourself. 
  5. Get some support – counselling or life coaching (the Life on Purpose Academy is a great and affordable option for this)


Other links mentioned

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The Moms30for30 wardrobe challenge

When Did I Stop Enjoying Motherhood

Life on Purpose Academy

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