Simple on Purpose https://simpleonpurpose.ca Do you feel cluttered in your home, heart and life? Do you feel like you are living life on autopilot? This podcast is for moms who want to simplify their home hearts and lives and SHOW UP for their life with purpose and passion! Simple Saturdays is a coffee break with your Nerdy Girlfriend and mom of three, Shawna from Simple on Purpose. She is here to give you tips, encouragement and insights into decluttering, minimalism, motherhood, mindsets, simple living, and living life on purpose (aka intentional living). Shawna is a writer and life coach and minimalist mom. She offers life coaching to moms that incorporates the Enneagram, goal setting and self-awareness. @simpleonpurpose.ca Fri, 29 May 2020 21:26:23 +0000 en-CA hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.4.1 Do you feel cluttered in your home, heart and life? Do you feel like you are living life on autopilot?<br /> This podcast is for moms who want to simplify their home hearts and lives and SHOW UP for their life with purpose and passion! <br /> Simple Saturdays is a coffee break with your Nerdy Girlfriend and mom of three, Shawna from Simple on Purpose. She is here to give you tips, encouragement and insights into decluttering, minimalism, motherhood, mindsets, simple living, and living life on purpose (aka intentional living). <br /> Shawna is a writer and life coach and minimalist mom. She offers life coaching to moms that incorporates the Enneagram, goal setting and self-awareness.<br /> @simpleonpurpose.ca Simple on Purpose clean episodic Simple on Purpose shawnascafe@gmail.com shawnascafe@gmail.com (Simple on Purpose) Shawna Scafe of Simple on Purpose by Simple on Purpose Simple on Purpose https://simpleonpurpose.ca/wp-content/uploads/powerpress/Simple_on_Purpose_podcast_for_moms_to_show_up_and_live_with_purpose-725.jpg https://simpleonpurpose.ca TV-G Canada Bi-Weekly 62. Marriage, Love Languages, Emotional Outsourcing https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode62/ Fri, 22 May 2020 08:51:32 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=11352 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode62/#respond https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode62/feed/ 0 Today’s bonus episode comes after I showed pictures of my pantry on Instagram and mentioned love languages and got a lot of comments about it.    While we're in isolation, my wonderful husband, when he's home from work for the week, has been doing the grocery shopping and the meal prep while I work. But when he puts away the groceries, he does not appreciate my pantry system at all. There's onions and potatoes together. There's nuts in the grain section. It's just madness!   I could get upset or I could choose to see it another way.    Prefer to read this episode? See the blog post for it right here.  There are five main ways that we like to receive love and that we like to express love. The way you receive and express love can be different. Same thing goes for your spouse. Having different love languages means having different expectations of love.    So often we tie our emotions to our expectations of our spouses. When we're outsourcing that job of meeting our emotional needs to others, it sets us up for disappointment. It also sets us up for not learning the skills to do it ourselves, for not taking responsibility for doing it ourselves.    We can start showing up with a new frame of mind with new thoughts. We can start showing up from a place where we're meeting our own emotional needs already and it's not our spouse’s responsibility to do it.    We can look at how our spouse is loving us and our family and not how we think they need to show us love or meet our criteria of love.  In marriage every single day, we need to look for the ways that someone is expressing their love to us.    Links mentioned: Instagram post of the pantry (in this highlight reel) The Five Love Languages for Children by Gary Chapman  Life on Purpose Academy  Learn more about life coaching one on one with Shawna    Today’s bonus episode comes after I showed pictures of my pantry on Instagram and mentioned love languages and got a lot of comments about it. 

 

While we’re in isolation, my wonderful husband, when he’s home from work for the week, has been doing the grocery shopping and the meal prep while I work. But when he puts away the groceries, he does not appreciate my pantry system at all. There’s onions and potatoes together. There’s nuts in the grain section. It’s just madness!

 

I could get upset or I could choose to see it another way. 

Prefer to read this episode? See the blog post for it right here. 

There are five main ways that we like to receive love and that we like to express love. The way you receive and express love can be different. Same thing goes for your spouse. Having different love languages means having different expectations of love. 

 

So often we tie our emotions to our expectations of our spouses. When we’re outsourcing that job of meeting our emotional needs to others, it sets us up for disappointment. It also sets us up for not learning the skills to do it ourselves, for not taking responsibility for doing it ourselves. 

 

We can start showing up with a new frame of mind with new thoughts. We can start showing up from a place where we’re meeting our own emotional needs already and it’s not our spouse’s responsibility to do it. 

 

We can look at how our spouse is loving us and our family and not how we think they need to show us love or meet our criteria of love.  In marriage every single day, we need to look for the ways that someone is expressing their love to us. 

 

Links mentioned:

Instagram post of the pantry (in this highlight reel)

The Five Love Languages for Children by Gary Chapman 

Life on Purpose Academy 

Learn more about life coaching one on one with Shawna 

 

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Today’s bonus episode comes after I showed pictures of my pantry on Instagram and mentioned love languages and got a lot of comments about it.  -   - While we're in isolation, my wonderful husband, when he's home from work for the week,
 

While we're in isolation, my wonderful husband, when he's home from work for the week, has been doing the grocery shopping and the meal prep while I work. But when he puts away the groceries, he does not appreciate my pantry system at all. There's onions and potatoes together. There's nuts in the grain section. It's just madness!

 

I could get upset or I could choose to see it another way. 

 
Prefer to read this episode? See the blog post for it right here. 
There are five main ways that we like to receive love and that we like to express love. The way you receive and express love can be different. Same thing goes for your spouse. Having different love languages means having different expectations of love. 

 

So often we tie our emotions to our expectations of our spouses. When we're outsourcing that job of meeting our emotional needs to others, it sets us up for disappointment. It also sets us up for not learning the skills to do it ourselves, for not taking responsibility for doing it ourselves. 

 

We can start showing up with a new frame of mind with new thoughts. We can start showing up from a place where we're meeting our own emotional needs already and it's not our spouse’s responsibility to do it. 

 

We can look at how our spouse is loving us and our family and not how we think they need to show us love or meet our criteria of love.  In marriage every single day, we need to look for the ways that someone is expressing their love to us. 

 
Links mentioned:
Instagram post of the pantry (in this highlight reel)

The Five Love Languages for Children by Gary Chapman 

Life on Purpose Academy 

Learn more about life coaching one on one with Shawna 

 







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61. Saturday Morning Chores( housework for kids) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode61/ Fri, 15 May 2020 18:00:23 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=11306 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode61/#respond https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode61/feed/ 0 I was asked to share some of our experience with kids doing chores.  I think it is a great subject because a lot of us want to raise kids who know the discipline and skill of chores, but we don't want it to be this big huge fight that ends up creating a tense and stressful situation for us and our kids.  In this episode, I'm sharing our strategies, tips and mindset for how we handle kid chores in our home. It doesn't mean it is always happy, or easy - but we are focussing on the process more than the outcome and it makes a difference.   Some main points we covered: we need to let go of the need to make our kids constantly happy  know you why - why do you want your kids to do chores? how we got started with Saturday Morning Chores how we have built on starting with one task introducing chores, delivery matters helping kids through the overwhelm motivating kids to do chores that fulfill their vision teaching the attitude and culture of chores in the home  enjoying it thought traps you might get stuck in (expecting perfect/obedience/happiness) falling into the comparison trap You can read the full post right here.  Ways to connect The Facebook Community Instagram The Simple Saturdays Email    Get life coaching, from one mom to another! One on One coaching The Life on Purpose Academy    NOW AVAILABLE The Stress Lessons The Hard Things Lessons   I was asked to share some of our experience with kids doing chores.  I think it is a great subject because a lot of us want to raise kids who know the discipline and skill of chores, but we don’t want it to be this big huge fight that ends up creating a tense and stressful situation for us and our kids. 

In this episode, I’m sharing our strategies, tips and mindset for how we handle kid chores in our home. It doesn’t mean it is always happy, or easy – but we are focussing on the process more than the outcome and it makes a difference.


 

Some main points we covered:

  • we need to let go of the need to make our kids constantly happy 
  • know you why – why do you want your kids to do chores?
  • how we got started with Saturday Morning Chores
  • how we have built on starting with one task
  • introducing chores, delivery matters
  • helping kids through the overwhelm
  • motivating kids to do chores that fulfill their vision
  • teaching the attitude and culture of chores in the home 
  • enjoying it
  • thought traps you might get stuck in (expecting perfect/obedience/happiness)
  • falling into the comparison trap

You can read the full post right here. 

Ways to connect

 

Get life coaching, from one mom to another!

 

NOW AVAILABLE

 
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I was asked to share some of our experience with kids doing chores.  I think it is a great subject because a lot of us want to raise kids who know the discipline and skill of chores, but we don't want it to be this big huge fight that ends up creating ...
In this episode, I'm sharing our strategies, tips and mindset for how we handle kid chores in our home. It doesn't mean it is always happy, or easy - but we are focussing on the process more than the outcome and it makes a difference.


 
Some main points we covered:

* we need to let go of the need to make our kids constantly happy 
* know you why - why do you want your kids to do chores?
* how we got started with Saturday Morning Chores
* how we have built on starting with one task
* introducing chores, delivery matters
* helping kids through the overwhelm
* motivating kids to do chores that fulfill their vision
* teaching the attitude and culture of chores in the home 
* enjoying it
* thought traps you might get stuck in (expecting perfect/obedience/happiness)
* falling into the comparison trap

You can read the full post right here. 
Ways to connect
The Facebook Community
Instagram
The Simple Saturdays Email 
 
Get life coaching, from one mom to another!
One on One coaching
The Life on Purpose Academy 
 
NOW AVAILABLE
The Stress Lessons
The Hard Things Lessons
 
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60. Doing Chores You Want to Avoid (how I life coached myself to do the dishes) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode60/ Fri, 15 May 2020 17:33:51 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=11300 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode60/#respond https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode60/feed/ 0 Raise your hand if you think dishes are dumb. And maybe you've googled 'disposable clothing for kids' in a desperate hope you could avoid the constant laundry. I know that there are women out there who are rocking chores, and there are women who aren't', and there are a lot of us between.  We know that a clean house makes us FEEL peaceful and happy. But we also know that we have more motivation to click 'keep watching' than we do to get on the third load of dishes for the day.  If this has been you, then this episode is for you.  I've always been tidy, but I would definitely be someone to put off chores for far longer than necessary.  About a year ago I decided I wanted to become a 'CHORE DOER' and I life coached myself through the mindset and strategy to become someone who does chores without the emotional negativity I had attached to it over the years Life coaching myself to become a chore doer Here are the topics covered in this episode: my scientific analysis of what Pinterest says will give you a clean home the mindsets that were holding me back  some real talk with myself about how I was spending my time (*cough, screen time) the strategies I used to build up the habit of chores in my daily life the stereotypes of motherhood that can hold us back with how we show up in our homes the importance of reclaiming the art of homemaking If you find that doing chores is something does matter to you and you want to get UNSTUCK with something as simple as chores then get yourself a life coach to help you pay attention to the mindsets that hold you back and the strategy that will help you move forward and get the outcome you want! -- CLICK HERE IF YOU PREFER TO READ THIS AS A BLOG POST -- Fun and helpful links Housewife Hacks (Pinterest board) (Type 9) The Enneagram (blog post) Mom Martyr (blog post) Live your values (blog post and free worksheets) Live your vision (blog post and free worksheets) (one small habit) Strategies to put your goals into action (blog post) Minimum baseline (episode 3) 15 practical tips to get stuff done (blog post)   Ways to connect The Facebook Community Instagram The Simple Saturdays Email    Get life coaching, from one mom to another! One on One coaching The Life on Purpose Academy    NOW AVAILABLE The Stress Lessons The Hard Things Lessons   Raise your hand if you think dishes are dumb. And maybe you’ve googled ‘disposable clothing for kids’ in a desperate hope you could avoid the constant laundry. I know that there are women out there who are rocking chores, and there are women who aren’t’, and there are a lot of us between. 

We know that a clean house makes us FEEL peaceful and happy. But we also know that we have more motivation to click ‘keep watching’ than we do to get on the third load of dishes for the day. 

If this has been you, then this episode is for you. 

I’ve always been tidy, but I would definitely be someone to put off chores for far longer than necessary.  About a year ago I decided I wanted to become a ‘CHORE DOER’ and I life coached myself through the mindset and strategy to become someone who does chores without the emotional negativity I had attached to it over the years

Life coaching myself to become a chore doer

Here are the topics covered in this episode:

  • my scientific analysis of what Pinterest says will give you a clean home
  • the mindsets that were holding me back 
  • some real talk with myself about how I was spending my time (*cough, screen time)
  • the strategies I used to build up the habit of chores in my daily life
  • the stereotypes of motherhood that can hold us back with how we show up in our homes
  • the importance of reclaiming the art of homemaking

If you find that doing chores is something does matter to you and you want to get UNSTUCK with something as simple as chores then get yourself a life coach to help you pay attention to the mindsets that hold you back and the strategy that will help you move forward and get the outcome you want!

CLICK HERE IF YOU PREFER TO READ THIS AS A BLOG POST

Fun and helpful links

Housewife Hacks (Pinterest board)

(Type 9) The Enneagram (blog post)

Mom Martyr (blog post)

Live your values (blog post and free worksheets)

Live your vision (blog post and free worksheets)

(one small habit) Strategies to put your goals into action (blog post)

Minimum baseline (episode 3)

15 practical tips to get stuff done (blog post)

 

Ways to connect

 

Get life coaching, from one mom to another!

 

NOW AVAILABLE

 
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Raise your hand if you think dishes are dumb. And maybe you've googled 'disposable clothing for kids' in a desperate hope you could avoid the constant laundry. I know that there are women out there who are rocking chores,
We know that a clean house makes us FEEL peaceful and happy. But we also know that we have more motivation to click 'keep watching' than we do to get on the third load of dishes for the day. 

If this has been you, then this episode is for you. 



I've always been tidy, but I would definitely be someone to put off chores for far longer than necessary.  About a year ago I decided I wanted to become a 'CHORE DOER' and I life coached myself through the mindset and strategy to become someone who does chores without the emotional negativity I had attached to it over the years
Life coaching myself to become a chore doer
Here are the topics covered in this episode:

* my scientific analysis of what Pinterest says will give you a clean home
* the mindsets that were holding me back 
* some real talk with myself about how I was spending my time (*cough, screen time)
* the strategies I used to build up the habit of chores in my daily life
* the stereotypes of motherhood that can hold us back with how we show up in our homes
* the importance of reclaiming the art of homemaking

If you find that doing chores is something does matter to you and you want to get UNSTUCK with something as simple as chores then get yourself a life coach to help you pay attention to the mindsets that hold you back and the strategy that will help you move forward and get the outcome you want!

-- CLICK HERE IF YOU PREFER TO READ THIS AS A BLOG POST --
Fun and helpful links
Housewife Hacks (Pinterest board)

(Type 9) The Enneagram (blog post)

Mom Martyr (blog post)

Live your values (blog post and free worksheets)

Live your vision (blog post and free worksheets)

(one small habit) Strategies to put your goals into action (blog post)

Minimum baseline (episode 3)

15 practical tips to get stuff done (blog post)

 
Ways to connect
The Facebook Community
Instagram
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59. What are we really in control of? (Concern, influence, control) BONUS EPISODE https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode59/ Mon, 11 May 2020 18:41:24 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=11281 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode59/#respond https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode59/feed/ 0 What would make your life better right now?  It is a wonderful thing to long for change, we can listen closely to that part of us that sees room to explore another way, maybe a better way.  We all have change in our lives - some of it is a change we don't want, some change we do want, some changes we want but we don't know how to accomplish.  Our relationship to change can look a lot of ways but it will always be met by this hurdle: knowing and accepting what is in our POWER to change?    THE MAKING CHANGE CHALLENGE Today’s bonus episode is part of the free Making Change Challenge that I started in February. You can still join in at any time and get those lessons emailed right out to you. There’s a lesson emailed each week for four weeks. This lesson is on what you can control, what you can influence and what is your concern. It's really important that we pay attention to the things we're trying to change, but we actually don’t have control over. A huge hurdle many women have every single day is that we want to change things we really don't have control over. So I want to talk about this more today - how to come alongside things that we want to change. It's so important for us to know what we have control over and what we don't.    And if we want to be proactive about making changes, we need to interrupt our brain.   Stephen Covey’s circles of concern and influence from his book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People plus one more circle  - the circle of control, can help us distinguish what areas of our lives to focus on when it comes to change we can actually control.   Concern - Everything that concerns you or worries you goes into your circle of concern. Things like the education system, your nation’s laws, traffic, the health of your family, etc. The key is to become proactive, instead of reactive (expending lots of emotional energy in worry and anxiety). Redirect your energy into practical actions you could take to improve your situation. You then get these areas into your circle of influence.  Influence - We cannot control what other people think, feel or do. But we can influence those things. If we are nagging, steamrolling, stonewalling or complaining, these are a very poor use of our influence. If we want to influence change over things we can't control, all we have at our disposal is how we show up: Ask how you can be supportive Praise efforts and reinforce positives rather than grumble on the negative Listen more in order to learn about their side Pick your battles Stay in your own lane and do my own work Change the subject Set boundaries Step back   Control -  We can come from a belief that everything is out of our control which makes it really hard to take responsibility for what is actually in our control - our mindsets and behaviours. Both our mindsets and habits can be stuck on autopilot. It’s hard to see where we can change because we don’t question our thoughts and our behaviours have become habits. However, you have the responsibility and right to take control of your thoughts and your actions.    On the flip side, you can feel stressed about managing all the things and all the people in all the situations and feeling like nothing you do works. In this case, you have to work on separating what you can control from what you can influence. And again, the only things you can control are YOUR thoughts and actions.    In the worksheets for this week, you're going to be led through listing the things that are in your circles of control, influence and concern. And there will be some places for you to reflect on how you've been showing up and acting when it comes to these different areas, and then setting a new direction on how you want to show up and act.    I hope that was helpful to you guys.   The Life on Purpose Academy is my monthly group coaching program for moms who want to show up for their actual lives.    What would make your life better right now? 

It is a wonderful thing to long for change, we can listen closely to that part of us that sees room to explore another way, maybe a better way. 

We all have change in our lives – some of it is a change we don’t want, some change we do want, some changes we want but we don’t know how to accomplish. 

Our relationship to change can look a lot of ways but it will always be met by this hurdle: knowing and accepting what is in our POWER to change? 

THE MAKING CHANGE CHALLENGE

Today’s bonus episode is part of the free Making Change Challenge that I started in February. You can still join in at any time and get those lessons emailed right out to you. There’s a lesson emailed each week for four weeks.

This lesson is on what you can control, what you can influence and what is your concern. It’s really important that we pay attention to the things we’re trying to change, but we actually don’t have control over.

A huge hurdle many women have every single day is that we want to change things we really don’t have control over. So I want to talk about this more today – how to come alongside things that we want to change. It’s so important for us to know what we have control over and what we don’t. 

 

And if we want to be proactive about making changes, we need to interrupt our brain.

 

Stephen Covey’s circles of concern and influence from his book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People plus one more circle  – the circle of control, can help us distinguish what areas of our lives to focus on when it comes to change we can actually control.

 

Concern – Everything that concerns you or worries you goes into your circle of concern. Things like the education system, your nation’s laws, traffic, the health of your family, etc. The key is to become proactive, instead of reactive (expending lots of emotional energy in worry and anxiety). Redirect your energy into practical actions you could take to improve your situation. You then get these areas into your circle of influence. 

Influence – We cannot control what other people think, feel or do. But we can influence those things. If we are nagging, steamrolling, stonewalling or complaining, these are a very poor use of our influence.

If we want to influence change over things we can’t control, all we have at our disposal is how we show up:

  • Ask how you can be supportive
  • Praise efforts and reinforce positives rather than grumble on the negative
  • Listen more in order to learn about their side
  • Pick your battles
  • Stay in your own lane and do my own work
  • Change the subject
  • Set boundaries
  • Step back

 

Control –  We can come from a belief that everything is out of our control which makes it really hard to take responsibility for what is actually in our control – our mindsets and behaviours. Both our mindsets and habits can be stuck on autopilot. It’s hard to see where we can change because we don’t question our thoughts and our behaviours have become habits. However, you have the responsibility and right to take control of your thoughts and your actions. 

 

On the flip side, you can feel stressed about managing all the things and all the people in all the situations and feeling like nothing you do works. In this case, you have to work on separating what you can control from what you can influence. And again, the only things you can control are YOUR thoughts and actions. 

 

In the worksheets for this week, you’re going to be led through listing the things that are in your circles of control, influence and concern. And there will be some places for you to reflect on how you’ve been showing up and acting when it comes to these different areas, and then setting a new direction on how you want to show up and act. 

 

I hope that was helpful to you guys.

 

The Life on Purpose Academy is my monthly group coaching program for moms who want to show up for their actual lives. 

 

Maybe you want a taste of what it’s like to be in the program. I am offering the monthly topic lessons as a little mini-course that you can buy to get an idea of the lessons that we’re teaching. We talk about thought traps, we talk about mindsets. We talk about the myths that we believe when it comes to these topics. 

 

Links mentioned:

 

 

]]> What would make your life better right now?  - It is a wonderful thing to long for change, we can listen closely to that part of us that sees room to explore another way, maybe a better way.  - We all have change in our lives - some of it is a change...
It is a wonderful thing to long for change, we can listen closely to that part of us that sees room to explore another way, maybe a better way. 

We all have change in our lives - some of it is a change we don't want, some change we do want, some changes we want but we don't know how to accomplish. 

Our relationship to change can look a lot of ways but it will always be met by this hurdle: knowing and accepting what is in our POWER to change? 

 

THE MAKING CHANGE CHALLENGE

Today’s bonus episode is part of the free Making Change Challenge that I started in February. You can still join in at any time and get those lessons emailed right out to you. There’s a lesson emailed each week for four weeks.

This lesson is on what you can control, what you can influence and what is your concern. It's really important that we pay attention to the things we're trying to change, but we actually don’t have control over.

A huge hurdle many women have every single day is that we want to change things we really don't have control over. So I want to talk about this more today - how to come alongside things that we want to change. It's so important for us to know what we have control over and what we don't. 

 

And if we want to be proactive about making changes, we need to interrupt our brain.
 
Stephen Covey’s circles of concern and influence from his book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People plus one more circle  - the circle of control, can help us distinguish what areas of our lives to focus on when it comes to change we can actually control.
 
Concern - Everything that concerns you or worries you goes into your circle of concern. Things like the education system, your nation’s laws, traffic, the health of your family, etc. The key is to become proactive, instead of reactive (expending lots of emotional energy in worry and anxiety). Redirect your energy into practical actions you could take to improve your situation. You then get these areas into your circle of influence. 

Influence - We cannot control what other people think, feel or do. But we can influence those things. If we are nagging, steamrolling, stonewalling or complaining, these are a very poor use of our influence.

If we want to influence change over things we can't control, all we have at our disposal is how we show up:

Ask how you can be supportive
Praise efforts and reinforce positives rather than grumble on the negative
Listen more in order to learn about their side
Pick your battles
Stay in your own lane and do my own work
Change the subject
Set boundaries
Step back

 
Control -  We can come from a belief that everything is out of our control which makes it really hard to take responsibility for what is actually in our control - our mindsets and behaviours. Both our mindsets and habits can be stuck on autopilot. It’s hard to see where we can change because we don’t question our thoughts and our behaviours have become habits. However, you have the responsibility and right to take control of your thoughts and your actions. 
 
On the flip side, you can feel stressed about managing all the things and all the people in all the situations and feeling like nothing you do works. In this case, you have to work on separating what you can control from what you can influence. And again, the only things you can control are YOUR thoughts and actions. 
 
In the worksheets for this week, you're going to be led through listing the things that are in your circles of control, influence and concern.]]>
Simple on Purpose 14:23 58. Isolation life vs simple on purpose life (marriage, motherhood, working from home, mental health) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode58/ Fri, 01 May 2020 20:03:59 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=11258 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode58/#respond https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode58/feed/ 0 We have all been taking stock of what isolation life looks like in comparison on how our life used to look. Sometimes this experience can be painful and disempower us as we move through these days of staying at home.  Going through a lot of things we 'don't want to' can really highlight the things that we DO want and crave.  This episode is part two about the things I'm learning while in isolation and how I'm contrasting my current experience with what I want to move into in my post-pandemic life.  This conversation will help you see some different mindsets and habits you might be having as a mom in isolation and give you some space to consider what it tells you about what you want your simple on purpose life to look like.    In the last episode, we talked about this topic in the beauty, wellness, shopping, friendships, routines parts of life.  In this episode we cover: Working from home, remember the days when we could spend part of our workday online window shopping kitchen appliances and creeping on the local MLS listings? Marriage in isolation, can your combined stress behaviours possibly level each other out? And why is my husband baking all this bread?? Motherhood in isolation, all I can say is Jesus Take The Wheel Mental health, denial is a good form of dealing with stress, until it's not    FUN LINKS MENTIONED  The Enneagram - what it is and how it has helped my marriage How to have a weekly calendar meeting with your spouse Sibling Rivalry from Lessons From the Playroom - the episode that transformed how I view and handle the sibling spats amongst my kids Parenting books that changed my parenting (including How to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child) Episode 55 - Tips to move out of the stress response and into resilience   Ways to connect The Facebook Community Instagram The Simple Saturdays Email    Get life coaching, from one mom to another! One on One coaching The Life on Purpose Academy    NOW AVAILABLE The Stress Lessons The Hard Things Lessons   We have all been taking stock of what isolation life looks like in comparison on how our life used to look. Sometimes this experience can be painful and disempower us as we move through these days of staying at home. 

Going through a lot of things we ‘don’t want to’ can really highlight the things that we DO want and crave. 

This episode is part two about the things I’m learning while in isolation and how I’m contrasting my current experience with what I want to move into in my post-pandemic life. 

This conversation will help you see some different mindsets and habits you might be having as a mom in isolation and give you some space to consider what it tells you about what you want your simple on purpose life to look like. 

In the last episode, we talked about this topic in the beauty, wellness, shopping, friendships, routines parts of life. 

In this episode we cover:

  • Working from home, remember the days when we could spend part of our workday online window shopping kitchen appliances and creeping on the local MLS listings?
  • Marriage in isolation, can your combined stress behaviours possibly level each other out? And why is my husband baking all this bread??
  • Motherhood in isolation, all I can say is Jesus Take The Wheel
  • Mental health, denial is a good form of dealing with stress, until it’s not 

 

FUN LINKS MENTIONED 

The Enneagram – what it is and how it has helped my marriage
Sibling Rivalry from Lessons From the Playroom – the episode that transformed how I view and handle the sibling spats amongst my kids
Parenting books that changed my parenting (including How to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child)
Episode 55 – Tips to move out of the stress response and into resilience
 

Ways to connect

 

Get life coaching, from one mom to another!

 

NOW AVAILABLE

 
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We have all been taking stock of what isolation life looks like in comparison on how our life used to look. Sometimes this experience can be painful and disempower us as we move through these days of staying at home.  -
Going through a lot of things we 'don't want to' can really highlight the things that we DO want and crave. 

This episode is part two about the things I'm learning while in isolation and how I'm contrasting my current experience with what I want to move into in my post-pandemic life. 

This conversation will help you see some different mindsets and habits you might be having as a mom in isolation and give you some space to consider what it tells you about what you want your simple on purpose life to look like. 

 

In the last episode, we talked about this topic in the beauty, wellness, shopping, friendships, routines parts of life. 
In this episode we cover:

* Working from home, remember the days when we could spend part of our workday online window shopping kitchen appliances and creeping on the local MLS listings?
* Marriage in isolation, can your combined stress behaviours possibly level each other out? And why is my husband baking all this bread??
* Motherhood in isolation, all I can say is Jesus Take The Wheel
* Mental health, denial is a good form of dealing with stress, until it's not 

 
FUN LINKS MENTIONED 
The Enneagram - what it is and how it has helped my marriage
How to have a weekly calendar meeting with your spouse
Sibling Rivalry from Lessons From the Playroom - the episode that transformed how I view and handle the sibling spats amongst my kids
Parenting books that changed my parenting (including How to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child)
Episode 55 - Tips to move out of the stress response and into resilience
 
Ways to connect
The Facebook Community
Instagram
The Simple Saturdays Email 
 
Get life coaching, from one mom to another!
One on One coaching
The Life on Purpose Academy 
 
NOW AVAILABLE
The Stress Lessons
The Hard Things Lessons
 
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57. What Isolation is Teaching Me About My Simple on Purpose Life (shopping, wellness, friends, routine) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode57/ Fri, 01 May 2020 19:47:48 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=11239 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode57/#respond https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode57/feed/ 0 I've been hearing this sentiment a lot lately: when we all get back to normal, decide what you want your 'normal' to be.  Even if you are someone who pays attention to your life and tries to make it intentional and simple, this time in isolation has changed our routines and patterns enough that we are able to learn new things about how we had been showing up for our lives.  In these next two episodes, I am going to run through the different areas of my life that I am paying attention to right now. In terms of how I am showing up during COVID isolation and what I mindsets/learnings I want to bring with me into my post-pandemic life. In this episode, I talk about Routines, is it worth keeping Saturday morning chores and Friday Night Treats? Beauty, is anyone else still wearing the good eyeliner with their sweats? Wellness, the truth as told by my FitBit Shopping, is isolation a good time to buy a bra to replace the one you have been wearing almost daily for the past five years? Homemaking, if a mom cleans a bathroom while in isolation and her kid pees on the floor five minutes later, did she even clean the bathroom? Friends, are you sitting around wondering why nobody is texting you? Or are you part of all the group chats and zoom calls?   The FUN LINKS! Scheduling your day with kids at home (read it here, listen to it here) Dirty Hair, Don't Care (if you are interested in weaning your hair off daily shampoos) My favourite dry shampoo (see My Faves, under 'Lady Stuff') The Ordinary Retinol Serum (the price point is so great!), (also in My Faves under Lady Stuff) Scarcity Mentality (read it here, listen to it here)   Tips on getting things done (read it here)   Ways to connect The Facebook Community Instagram The Simple Saturdays Email    Get life coaching, from one mom to another! One on One coaching The Life on Purpose Academy    NOW AVAILABLE The Stress Lessons The Hard Things Lessons     I’ve been hearing this sentiment a lot lately: when we all get back to normal, decide what you want your ‘normal’ to be. 

Even if you are someone who pays attention to your life and tries to make it intentional and simple, this time in isolation has changed our routines and patterns enough that we are able to learn new things about how we had been showing up for our lives. 

In these next two episodes, I am going to run through the different areas of my life that I am paying attention to right now. In terms of how I am showing up during COVID isolation and what I mindsets/learnings I want to bring with me into my post-pandemic life.

In this episode, I talk about

  • Routines, is it worth keeping Saturday morning chores and Friday Night Treats?
  • Beauty, is anyone else still wearing the good eyeliner with their sweats?
  • Wellness, the truth as told by my FitBit
  • Shopping, is isolation a good time to buy a bra to replace the one you have been wearing almost daily for the past five years?
  • Homemaking, if a mom cleans a bathroom while in isolation and her kid pees on the floor five minutes later, did she even clean the bathroom?
  • Friends, are you sitting around wondering why nobody is texting you? Or are you part of all the group chats and zoom calls?

 

The FUN LINKS!

Scheduling your day with kids at home (read it here, listen to it here)

Dirty Hair, Don’t Care (if you are interested in weaning your hair off daily shampoos)

My favourite dry shampoo (see My Faves, under ‘Lady Stuff’)

The Ordinary Retinol Serum (the price point is so great!), (also in My Faves under Lady Stuff)

Scarcity Mentality (read it here, listen to it here)
 
Tips on getting things done (read it here)
 

Ways to connect

 

Get life coaching, from one mom to another!

 

NOW AVAILABLE

 
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I've been hearing this sentiment a lot lately: when we all get back to normal, decide what you want your 'normal' to be.  - Even if you are someone who pays attention to your life and tries to make it intentional and simple,
Even if you are someone who pays attention to your life and tries to make it intentional and simple, this time in isolation has changed our routines and patterns enough that we are able to learn new things about how we had been showing up for our lives. 


In these next two episodes, I am going to run through the different areas of my life that I am paying attention to right now. In terms of how I am showing up during COVID isolation and what I mindsets/learnings I want to bring with me into my post-pandemic life.
In this episode, I talk about

* Routines, is it worth keeping Saturday morning chores and Friday Night Treats?
* Beauty, is anyone else still wearing the good eyeliner with their sweats?
* Wellness, the truth as told by my FitBit
* Shopping, is isolation a good time to buy a bra to replace the one you have been wearing almost daily for the past five years?
* Homemaking, if a mom cleans a bathroom while in isolation and her kid pees on the floor five minutes later, did she even clean the bathroom?
* Friends, are you sitting around wondering why nobody is texting you? Or are you part of all the group chats and zoom calls?

 
The FUN LINKS!
Scheduling your day with kids at home (read it here, listen to it here)

Dirty Hair, Don't Care (if you are interested in weaning your hair off daily shampoos)

My favourite dry shampoo (see My Faves, under 'Lady Stuff')

The Ordinary Retinol Serum (the price point is so great!), (also in My Faves under Lady Stuff)
Scarcity Mentality (read it here, listen to it here)
 
Tips on getting things done (read it here)
 
Ways to connect
The Facebook Community
Instagram
The Simple Saturdays Email 
 
Get life coaching, from one mom to another!
One on One coaching
The Life on Purpose Academy 
 
NOW AVAILABLE
The Stress Lessons
The Hard Things Lessons
 

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56. How to make a daily routine that works for you + your family https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode56/ Sat, 18 Apr 2020 01:35:09 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=11209 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode56/#respond https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode56/feed/ 0 What day is it anymore? We don't know. But we know we are hungry.....probably...I'm pretty sure. Or bored. Maybe. What day is it again? Imagine this conversation being had by every person in your home. Cause our brain is melting a little bit without some sort of schedule and agenda.  Rather than stay in this fog of wiping chip crumbs off our devices and smelling which sweats are clean enough to wear, perhaps it might help to give your day some framework that works for you and your kids at home. After all, isolation has created this blank space that is being filled with homeschooling (crisis schooling), meals on repeat and tiger king memes. Let's take command of things we CAN control, like when snacks happen and when we binge-watch tv.  *controlling the things you CAN!*, like Olaf said, and maybe Jesus, definitely Steven Covey.  Here are some tips on how to schedule out your daily routine in a way that works for you and your family.  Make the mega list Theme your days Apply a framework, as vague or specific as you like Leave wiggle room Pay attention to what isn't working, trial and error Include your kids The boredom busters Make your own plans too Mom! You can read this all as a full blog post right here.    Links mentioned Dude Perfect on Youtube Mega list of simple easy fun to have with your kids (that are learning opportunities and games) Family rhythms The Life on Purpose Academy - My monthly group life coaching program for moms who want to show up for their lives with more peace, presence and purpose.    Want to message me? Find me on Instagram or respond to a Simple Saturdays email (sign up for those right here).    What day is it anymore? We don’t know. But we know we are hungry…..probably…I’m pretty sure. Or bored. Maybe. What day is it again?

Imagine this conversation being had by every person in your home. Cause our brain is melting a little bit without some sort of schedule and agenda. 

Rather than stay in this fog of wiping chip crumbs off our devices and smelling which sweats are clean enough to wear, perhaps it might help to give your day some framework that works for you and your kids at home.

After all, isolation has created this blank space that is being filled with homeschooling (crisis schooling), meals on repeat and tiger king memes. Let’s take command of things we CAN control, like when snacks happen and when we binge-watch tv.  *controlling the things you CAN!*, like Olaf said, and maybe Jesus, definitely Steven Covey. 

Here are some tips on how to schedule out your daily routine in a way that works for you and your family. 

  1. Make the mega list
  2. Theme your days
  3. Apply a framework, as vague or specific as you like
  4. Leave wiggle room
  5. Pay attention to what isn’t working, trial and error
  6. Include your kids
  7. The boredom busters
  8. Make your own plans too Mom!

You can read this all as a full blog post right here. 

 

Links mentioned

Dude Perfect on Youtube

Mega list of simple easy fun to have with your kids (that are learning opportunities and games)

Family rhythms

The Life on Purpose Academy – My monthly group life coaching program for moms who want to show up for their lives with more peace, presence and purpose. 

 

Want to message me? Find me on Instagram or respond to a Simple Saturdays email (sign up for those right here)

 

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What day is it anymore? We don't know. But we know we are hungry.....probably...I'm pretty sure. Or bored. Maybe. What day is it again? - Imagine this conversation being had by every person in your home. Cause our brain is melting a little bit without...
Imagine this conversation being had by every person in your home. Cause our brain is melting a little bit without some sort of schedule and agenda. 

Rather than stay in this fog of wiping chip crumbs off our devices and smelling which sweats are clean enough to wear, perhaps it might help to give your day some framework that works for you and your kids at home.

After all, isolation has created this blank space that is being filled with homeschooling (crisis schooling), meals on repeat and tiger king memes. Let's take command of things we CAN control, like when snacks happen and when we binge-watch tv.  *controlling the things you CAN!*, like Olaf said, and maybe Jesus, definitely Steven Covey. 


Here are some tips on how to schedule out your daily routine in a way that works for you and your family. 

* Make the mega list
* Theme your days
* Apply a framework, as vague or specific as you like
* Leave wiggle room
* Pay attention to what isn't working, trial and error
* Include your kids
* The boredom busters
* Make your own plans too Mom!

You can read this all as a full blog post right here. 

 
Links mentioned
Dude Perfect on Youtube

Mega list of simple easy fun to have with your kids (that are learning opportunities and games)

Family rhythms

The Life on Purpose Academy - My monthly group life coaching program for moms who want to show up for their lives with more peace, presence and purpose. 

 

Want to message me? Find me on Instagram or respond to a Simple Saturdays email (sign up for those right here)

 

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55. Tips to move out of the stress response and into resilience https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode55/ Sat, 04 Apr 2020 04:07:57 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=11160 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode55/#respond https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode55/feed/ 0 I've had requests to talk about resilience and endurance during this time where moms are home with their kids in isolation.  ENDURANCE Endurance is responding to stress for a duration of time. We can endure a certain amount of stress but eventually we burn out.  RESILIENCE Then we turn to resilience: the ability to bounce back from stress. I think this is the place a lot of us moms are in right now.  We have endured the first two weeks of isolation and now we realize that this is how things will stay for a while. Now we need to move out of stress mode and into a more intentional mode.  Resilience has three steps: Recover How can you take care of yourself rather than comfort yourself? (self-care vs self-comfort) Recenter What are your values and how can you make a plan for yourself? The importance of compassion and acceptance Gifts in Disguise from The Usable Life by Leslie Broseh Family Culture (blog post and worksheets) Live your Values (blog post and worksheets) Tips to schedule a daily plan for your family during isolation Re-enter With awareness and support Be a team with yourself, with your partner, with your family, with your community The episode on Family meetings   (blog post)   NEXT STEPS The Making Change Challenge The Life Evaluation Quiz The Life on Purpose Academy   GET CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group Simple Saturdays Email I’ve had requests to talk about resilience and endurance during this time where moms are home with their kids in isolation. 

ENDURANCE

Endurance is responding to stress for a duration of time. We can endure a certain amount of stress but eventually we burn out. 

RESILIENCE

Then we turn to resilience: the ability to bounce back from stress.

I think this is the place a lot of us moms are in right now. 

We have endured the first two weeks of isolation and now we realize that this is how things will stay for a while. Now we need to move out of stress mode and into a more intentional mode. 

Resilience has three steps:

Recover

How can you take care of yourself rather than comfort yourself? (self-care vs self-comfort)

Recenter

What are your values and how can you make a plan for yourself?

The importance of compassion and acceptance

Gifts in Disguise from The Usable Life by Leslie Broseh

Family Culture (blog post and worksheets)

Live your Values (blog post and worksheets)

Tips to schedule a daily plan for your family during isolation

Re-enter

With awareness and support

Be a team with yourself, with your partner, with your family, with your community

The episode on Family meetings   (blog post)

 

NEXT STEPS

The Making Change Challenge

The Life Evaluation Quiz

The Life on Purpose Academy

 

GET CONNECTED

Instagram

Facebook Group

Simple Saturdays Email

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I've had requests to talk about resilience and endurance during this time where moms are home with their kids in isolation.  - ENDURANCE Endurance is responding to stress for a duration of time. We can endure a certain amount of stress but eventu...


ENDURANCE
Endurance is responding to stress for a duration of time. We can endure a certain amount of stress but eventually we burn out. 
RESILIENCE
Then we turn to resilience: the ability to bounce back from stress.

I think this is the place a lot of us moms are in right now. 

We have endured the first two weeks of isolation and now we realize that this is how things will stay for a while. Now we need to move out of stress mode and into a more intentional mode. 
Resilience has three steps:
Recover
How can you take care of yourself rather than comfort yourself? (self-care vs self-comfort)
Recenter
What are your values and how can you make a plan for yourself?

The importance of compassion and acceptance

Gifts in Disguise from The Usable Life by Leslie Broseh

Family Culture (blog post and worksheets)

Live your Values (blog post and worksheets)

Tips to schedule a daily plan for your family during isolation
Re-enter
With awareness and support

Be a team with yourself, with your partner, with your family, with your community

The episode on Family meetings   (blog post)

 
NEXT STEPS
The Making Change Challenge

The Life Evaluation Quiz

The Life on Purpose Academy

 
GET CONNECTED
Instagram

Facebook Group

Simple Saturdays Email]]>
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54. 7 Tips for dealing with anxiety https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode54/ Mon, 23 Mar 2020 19:47:44 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10926 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode54/#respond https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode54/feed/ 0 Stepping back to look at your anxiety from a life coaching point of view and tools to help you accept and work through it. Advice from a life coach and mom of three.   What is anxiety? What causes it? The way we react to it, and how it makes the struggle even harder How can we react to it instead: acknowledge it is there  accept that it is with you, without running off with it calm the nervous system unpack the mental narration unburden the mental clutter decide how you want to show up (with your own values) start paying attention to what is in your control and what is not Mentioned in this episode Colleen from Lemon Thistle A Minute to Be Mindful (free pdf of mindfulness questions) Episode on being mindful in marriage Brain Dump Live your Values (free worksheets) Live your Vision (free worksheets) The Making Change Challenge The Freebies Library John Mayer IGTV, The Gentle Hours (the first 15 minutes and last 5 minutes are packed full of great insight on anxiety) The Life on Purpose Academy (read more and sign up for the quick information session on March 27th)   Find me on Instagram  Join the Simple Saturdays email (bi-weekly email of encouragement, tips and ideas) Stepping back to look at your anxiety from a life coaching point of view and tools to help you accept and work through it. Advice from a life coach and mom of three.

 

What is anxiety?

What causes it?

The way we react to it, and how it makes the struggle even harder

How can we react to it instead:

  1. acknowledge it is there 
  2. accept that it is with you, without running off with it
  3. calm the nervous system
  4. unpack the mental narration
  5. unburden the mental clutter
  6. decide how you want to show up (with your own values)
  7. start paying attention to what is in your control and what is not

Mentioned in this episode

Colleen from Lemon Thistle

A Minute to Be Mindful (free pdf of mindfulness questions)

Episode on being mindful in marriage

Brain Dump

Live your Values (free worksheets)

Live your Vision (free worksheets)

The Making Change Challenge

The Freebies Library

John Mayer IGTV, The Gentle Hours (the first 15 minutes and last 5 minutes are packed full of great insight on anxiety)

The Life on Purpose Academy (read more and sign up for the quick information session on March 27th)

 

Find me on Instagram 

Join the Simple Saturdays email (bi-weekly email of encouragement, tips and ideas)

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Stepping back to look at your anxiety from a life coaching point of view and tools to help you accept and work through it. Advice from a life coach and mom of three. -   What is anxiety? What causes it? The way we react to it,


 
What is anxiety?
What causes it?
The way we react to it, and how it makes the struggle even harder
How can we react to it instead:

* acknowledge it is there 
* accept that it is with you, without running off with it
* calm the nervous system
* unpack the mental narration
* unburden the mental clutter
* decide how you want to show up (with your own values)
* start paying attention to what is in your control and what is not

Mentioned in this episode
Colleen from Lemon Thistle

A Minute to Be Mindful (free pdf of mindfulness questions)

Episode on being mindful in marriage

Brain Dump

Live your Values (free worksheets)

Live your Vision (free worksheets)

The Making Change Challenge

The Freebies Library

John Mayer IGTV, The Gentle Hours (the first 15 minutes and last 5 minutes are packed full of great insight on anxiety)

The Life on Purpose Academy (read more and sign up for the quick information session on March 27th)

 
Find me on Instagram 
Join the Simple Saturdays email (bi-weekly email of encouragement, tips and ideas)
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53. Change your motherhood experience by changing how you make memories https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode53/ Sat, 21 Mar 2020 04:35:36 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10872 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode53/#respond https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode53/feed/ 0 Think back on this past week, what kind of memories do you have from your motherhood experience? I recently listened to Meik Wiking talk about the Art of Making Memories and it got me thinking about how we treat our memories and how they can impact our motherhood experience in positive or negative ways.  RELATED LINKS Read this episode as a blog post When did I stop enjoying my kids (podcast episode) (blog post) Life on Purpose Workbook The Perfect Moments Project Posts on hygge The Art of Making Memories Meik Wiking on the Ultimate Health Podcast Episode 330 How we view ourselves Mom Martyr Mom on Purpose Posts the Life on Purpose Academy (monthly life coaching membership) Sign up for Simple Saturdays The Simple on Purpose Facebook community Simple on Purpose on Instagram   Studies related to this episode: https://science.howstuffworks.com/life/remember-bad-times-better-than-good1.htm https://www.cbc.ca/natureofthings/m_blog/we-change-our-memories-each-time-we-recall-them-but-that-doesnt-mean-were-l https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4254527/   Think back on this past week, what kind of memories do you have from your motherhood experience?

I recently listened to Meik Wiking talk about the Art of Making Memories and it got me thinking about how we treat our memories and how they can impact our motherhood experience in positive or negative ways. 

RELATED LINKS

Read this episode as a blog post

When did I stop enjoying my kids (podcast episode) (blog post)

Life on Purpose Workbook

The Perfect Moments Project

Posts on hygge

The Art of Making Memories

Meik Wiking on the Ultimate Health Podcast Episode 330

How we view ourselves

Mom Martyr

Mom on Purpose Posts

the Life on Purpose Academy (monthly life coaching membership)

Sign up for Simple Saturdays

The Simple on Purpose Facebook community

Simple on Purpose on Instagram

 

Studies related to this episode:

https://science.howstuffworks.com/life/remember-bad-times-better-than-good1.htm

https://www.cbc.ca/natureofthings/m_blog/we-change-our-memories-each-time-we-recall-them-but-that-doesnt-mean-were-l

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4254527/

 

mom making memories with kid

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Think back on this past week, what kind of memories do you have from your motherhood experience? - I recently listened to Meik Wiking talk about the Art of Making Memories and it got me thinking about how we treat our memories and how they can impact ...
I recently listened to Meik Wiking talk about the Art of Making Memories and it got me thinking about how we treat our memories and how they can impact our motherhood experience in positive or negative ways. 




RELATED LINKS
Read this episode as a blog post

When did I stop enjoying my kids (podcast episode) (blog post)

Life on Purpose Workbook

The Perfect Moments Project

Posts on hygge

The Art of Making Memories

Meik Wiking on the Ultimate Health Podcast Episode 330

How we view ourselves

Mom Martyr

Mom on Purpose Posts

the Life on Purpose Academy (monthly life coaching membership)

Sign up for Simple Saturdays

The Simple on Purpose Facebook community

Simple on Purpose on Instagram

 

Studies related to this episode:

https://science.howstuffworks.com/life/remember-bad-times-better-than-good1.htm

https://www.cbc.ca/natureofthings/m_blog/we-change-our-memories-each-time-we-recall-them-but-that-doesnt-mean-were-l

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4254527/

 

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52. How minimalism changed my marriage, homemaking and life https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode52/ Sat, 07 Mar 2020 07:00:15 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10833 A look at the before and after of how minimalism changed my marriage, my homemaking and my life.  In the last episode (#51) I shared specifically how minimalism changed my motherhood.    IN THIS EPISODE How minimalism has changed my marriage: respect + responsibility, shared vision for our home, being at home How minimalism has changed my homemaking: more manageable, better 'flow' for homemaking, calmer, reclaimed my role as Homemaker How minimalism has changed my life: more proactive. doing things I enjoy, more mindful, more secure, becoming the editor of my life.  READ THE FULL POST HERE   THE STEPS THAT GOT ME HERE (relevant links) (type nine reference) What is the Enneagram  Life on Purpose with Conor Bring hygge into your everyday life Organization mistakes I made  the Life on Purpose Page Identity Clutter the Simplify Your Home Page I stopped calling myself a lazy mom The quickest way to simplify your life The perfect moments project Why minimalism works at changing your life   OTHER LINKS  Instagram  the community Facebook Group Sign up for Simple Saturdays here Sign up for the Making Change Challenge here A look at the before and after of how minimalism changed my marriage, my homemaking and my life.  - In the last episode (#51) I shared specifically how minimalism changed my motherhood.  -   IN THIS EPISODE -
In the last episode (#51) I shared specifically how minimalism changed my motherhood. 



 


IN THIS EPISODE

How minimalism has changed my marriage: respect + responsibility, shared vision for our home, being at home

How minimalism has changed my homemaking: more manageable, better 'flow' for homemaking, calmer, reclaimed my role as Homemaker

How minimalism has changed my life: more proactive. doing things I enjoy, more mindful, more secure, becoming the editor of my life. 

READ THE FULL POST HERE

 

THE STEPS THAT GOT ME HERE (relevant links)

(type nine reference) What is the Enneagram 

Life on Purpose with Conor

Bring hygge into your everyday life

Organization mistakes I made 

the Life on Purpose Page

Identity Clutter

the Simplify Your Home Page

I stopped calling myself a lazy mom

The quickest way to simplify your life

The perfect moments project

Why minimalism works at changing your life

 
OTHER LINKS 
Instagram 

the community Facebook Group

Sign up for Simple Saturdays here

Sign up for the Making Change Challenge here]]>
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51. How Minimalism Changed My Motherhood (+ weird stuff I’m googling) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode51/ Sat, 07 Mar 2020 06:52:44 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10810 What is different in my mothering since I have decluttered my home.  A reader (Hi Melissa!) asked me to share on this topic. In this episode I'll share FOUR WAYS minimalism has changed my motherhood.  (In the next one I'll share how it has changed my marriage, homemaking and life).    IN THIS EPISODE Weird things I am googling: fancy coffees, hot 90s country, celebrity family trees, the contestants from extreme makeover and currency inflation How minimalism has changed my mothering: a family culture of creativity vs consumption, being a mom who does stuff, creating their childhood home, having space to DO LIFe together, making memories instead of buying more stuff.  READ THE FULL POST HERE   THE STEPS THAT GOT ME HERE (relevant links) The habit of consumption Family culture On being a mom who tries new things Restless in motherhood Basement playroom BEFORE + AFTER Fun family stuff Giving experiences instead of gifts What happened when I took half my kids' toys away   OTHER LINKS  Vitamin water (on my faves page) The Joy of Less (linked in this post on mindsets to shift for decluttering) Instagram  the community Facebook Group Sign up for Simple Saturdays here Sign up for the Making Change Challenge here What is different in my mothering since I have decluttered my home.  A reader (Hi Melissa!) asked me to share on this topic. In this episode I'll share FOUR WAYS minimalism has changed my motherhood.  - (In the next one I'll share how it has changed m...
(In the next one I'll share how it has changed my marriage, homemaking and life). 

 


IN THIS EPISODE

Weird things I am googling: fancy coffees, hot 90s country, celebrity family trees, the contestants from extreme makeover and currency inflation

How minimalism has changed my mothering: a family culture of creativity vs consumption, being a mom who does stuff, creating their childhood home, having space to DO LIFe together, making memories instead of buying more stuff. 

READ THE FULL POST HERE

 

THE STEPS THAT GOT ME HERE (relevant links)

The habit of consumption

Family culture

On being a mom who tries new things

Restless in motherhood

Basement playroom BEFORE + AFTER

Fun family stuff

Giving experiences instead of gifts

What happened when I took half my kids' toys away

 
OTHER LINKS 
Vitamin water (on my faves page)

The Joy of Less (linked in this post on mindsets to shift for decluttering)

Instagram 

the community Facebook Group

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50. Things I never thought I would do, until I became a parent (also, cheese) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode50/ Sat, 22 Feb 2020 06:42:40 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10740 This is a super FUN episode!  I asked the FB group and Instagram friends for the topics they want to hear me talk about on the 50th episode. I have a couple of great topics I'll be sharing on today.  The first, and major one, is the topic of things I have done as a mom that I never expected to do. I think we all have those 'WHAT IS MY ACTUAL LIFE??? moments' as moms where we are wiping up pee with our sock and rolling out to the grocery store with a head full of kid barrettes.  So, I rolled through a lot of these moments in my own years of mothering smaller kids.  I was also asked to talk about CHEESE, so I share a few of my fave ways to eat my fave cheeses.    Here are the links I've mentioned in the episode: Style for the reluctant mom That time I took away half of my kids' toys What moms of toddlers need to hear God's grace through difficult parenting  Mom on purpose My c-section and the feelings I was ashamed to admit A mom no matter what (for the mom who has had a hard labour, delivery and early years in motherhood) Fun stuff to do with kids My fave cheesy biscuit recipe The Simple on Purpose Community Facebook Group Instagram   This is a super FUN episode!  - I asked the FB group and Instagram friends for the topics they want to hear me talk about on the 50th episode. I have a couple of great topics I'll be sharing on today.  - The first, and major one,
I asked the FB group and Instagram friends for the topics they want to hear me talk about on the 50th episode. I have a couple of great topics I'll be sharing on today. 

The first, and major one, is the topic of things I have done as a mom that I never expected to do.

I think we all have those 'WHAT IS MY ACTUAL LIFE??? moments' as moms where we are wiping up pee with our sock and rolling out to the grocery store with a head full of kid barrettes.  So, I rolled through a lot of these moments in my own years of mothering smaller kids. 

I was also asked to talk about CHEESE, so I share a few of my fave ways to eat my fave cheeses. 


 
Here are the links I've mentioned in the episode:
Style for the reluctant mom

That time I took away half of my kids' toys

What moms of toddlers need to hear

God's grace through difficult parenting 

Mom on purpose

My c-section and the feelings I was ashamed to admit

A mom no matter what (for the mom who has had a hard labour, delivery and early years in motherhood)

Fun stuff to do with kids

My fave cheesy biscuit recipe

The Simple on Purpose Community Facebook Group

Instagram

 

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49. Facing change and uncertainty with a growth mindset https://simpleonpurpose.ca/episode49/ Sat, 08 Feb 2020 05:58:39 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10687 Change will always be part of our lives. Whether we want it, don't want, know what to do with it, or how to make the next step - we are always faced with change in and around us.  So how can we move from feeling like a victim, or stuck, or confused - to being proactive with how we show up and handle change in our lives? The growth mindset is something that can really impact our ability to embrace and learn from the change in our lives.  When we can spot where we might have the opposite (fixed mindset) we can start to see the ways our MINDSET is limiting our ability to move forward.  Read the blog post version of this episode right here.    THE MAKING CHANGE CHALLENGE This episode is part of a lesson from the Making Change Challenge. If you want to join and get the 4 weekly lessons and worksheets, then simply sign up here.    THE FACEBOOK GROUP If you want to join the Simple on Purpose community, click here - and make sure to answer the entry questions.    INSTAGRAM Want to send me a message? Or see my laundry piles and thoughts on hospitality and Netflix shows? Then find me on Instagram    THE LIFE EVALUATION QUIZ Use this quiz to help you find the ONE AREA of your life to start paying more attention to and focus your energy on being a #changemaker in this area.      Change will always be part of our lives. Whether we want it, don't want, know what to do with it, or how to make the next step - we are always faced with change in and around us.  - So how can we move from feeling like a victim, or stuck,
So how can we move from feeling like a victim, or stuck, or confused - to being proactive with how we show up and handle change in our lives?

The growth mindset is something that can really impact our ability to embrace and learn from the change in our lives.  When we can spot where we might have the opposite (fixed mindset) we can start to see the ways our MINDSET is limiting our ability to move forward. 

Read the blog post version of this episode right here


 



THE MAKING CHANGE CHALLENGE

This episode is part of a lesson from the Making Change Challenge.

If you want to join and get the 4 weekly lessons and worksheets, then simply sign up here. 

 

THE FACEBOOK GROUP

If you want to join the Simple on Purpose community, click here - and make sure to answer the entry questions. 

 

INSTAGRAM

Want to send me a message? Or see my laundry piles and thoughts on hospitality and Netflix shows? Then find me on Instagram 

 

THE LIFE EVALUATION QUIZ

Use this quiz to help you find the ONE AREA of your life to start paying more attention to and focus your energy on being a #changemaker in this area. 

 



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48. Being Brave With Your Life (Part 4 of the Show Up For Your Life Series) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss48/ Sat, 25 Jan 2020 05:51:20 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10632 How to be brave with your life when you a mom who sometimes goes a whole day before realizing your shirt is on inside out.    Welcome to the Simple Saturdays Podcast. I’m Shawna, mom of three living in small-town Canada. I have been blogging for about seven years on my journey to simplify my home and life - and to live my life on purpose.  I have been writing about the journey and life coaching other women who want to show up for their lives with more purpose, passion and peace.    Today we are talking about how to show up for your life, and we are in Part 4, Being brave with your life   BE BRAVE WITH YOUR LIFE This is step THREE in showing up for your life (see the entire series here)   LIFE WITHOUT BRAVERY When we aren’t living with bravery we feel this discomfort of not living a life that is inline with our values, with who we want to be.    To know your personal values, use these free worksheets   WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE BRAVE? Social media may have given us a shinier image of what bravery is. But there is as real quiet, messier grit to it.    DEFINITION OF BRAVERY The consistent forward motion in doing what is right, against resistance.    HOW TO BE BRAVE You can’t just give yourself affirmations, you need new tools that allow your heart and mind to show up with bravery.    You need: Direction  Commitment/Ownership Challenge the autopilot Support  Humility Integrity Compassion Hope/Faith/Trust Willingness   WHAT ARE SIMPLE WAYS YOU CAN BE BRAVE TODAY?   LINKS MENTIONED Show up for your life STEP ONE (Pay Attention) Show up for your life STEP TWO (Listen Closer) ‘Do the opposite’ Instagram post Life on Purpose Workbook  Live your values free worksheet Live your vision free worksheet Future Self  episode 21 (time stamp 8:45) Mindful Marriage episode 29 (time stamp 7:38) Wear lipstick today (on Fashion and Feeling Like You Are Too Much) Simple Saturdays Email Newsletter SIGN UP HERE The Simple on Purpose Community Facebook Group (please answer the entry questions) The Reader Feedback Survey   HEADS UP In the next couple weeks, the Simple Saturdays podcast will be renamed to Simple on Purpose - in order to differentiate it from the Simple Saturdays email newsletter   Email Shawna here      How to be brave with your life when you a mom who sometimes goes a whole day before realizing your shirt is on inside out.  -   - Welcome to the Simple Saturdays Podcast. - I’m Shawna, mom of three living in small-town Canada.
 

Welcome to the Simple Saturdays Podcast.

I’m Shawna, mom of three living in small-town Canada. I have been blogging for about seven years on my journey to simplify my home and life - and to live my life on purpose.  I have been writing about the journey and life coaching other women who want to show up for their lives with more purpose, passion and peace. 

 

Today we are talking about how to show up for your life, and we are in Part 4, Being brave with your life

 
BE BRAVE WITH YOUR LIFE
This is step THREE in showing up for your life (see the entire series here)

 
LIFE WITHOUT BRAVERY
When we aren’t living with bravery we feel this discomfort of not living a life that is inline with our values, with who we want to be. 

 

To know your personal values, use these free worksheets

 
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE BRAVE?
Social media may have given us a shinier image of what bravery is. But there is as real quiet, messier grit to it. 

 
DEFINITION OF BRAVERY
The consistent forward motion in doing what is right, against resistance. 

 
HOW TO BE BRAVE
You can’t just give yourself affirmations, you need new tools that allow your heart and mind to show up with bravery. 

 
You need:
Direction 

Commitment/Ownership

Challenge the autopilot

Support 

Humility

Integrity

Compassion

Hope/Faith/Trust

Willingness

 
WHAT ARE SIMPLE WAYS YOU CAN BE BRAVE TODAY?
 
LINKS MENTIONED
Show up for your life STEP ONE (Pay Attention)

Show up for your life STEP TWO (Listen Closer)

‘Do the opposite’ Instagram post

Life on Purpose Workbook 

Live your values free worksheet

Live your vision free worksheet

Future Self  episode 21 (time stamp 8:45)

Mindful Marriage episode 29 (time stamp 7:38)

Wear lipstick today (on Fashion and Feeling Like You Are Too Much)

Simple Saturdays Email Newsletter SIGN UP HERE

The Simple on Purpose Community Facebook Group...]]>
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47. Couples planning life on purpose, together (featuring my husband) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss47/ Sat, 18 Jan 2020 04:03:52 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10543 Want to live life with more purpose? 5 years ago we stumbled upon our first 'life on purpose' conversation and since then we spend time each New Year to talk about how the year went and what we want in the year to come.   I asked Conor if we could have some of this conversation in front of the microphone and share it on the podcast. . . .    Things we covered on this episode: How Life on Purpose has changed for us over the years Reflecting on the goals we have had over the years The experience of using the Life on Purpose workbook last January  Reviewed our home and family vision mottos from the past year Discussed a few priorities we are setting for the year ahead for our home and family life   HOME Our home vision for 2019 was 'less piles, more renoing' How decluttering has changed our space and home His decluttering process with the kids' toys (as requested by our 8 year old)   FAMILY Our family motto for 2019 was 'be a family that is present and proactive' Our plans for our family this summer Being a 'yes' parent   PLANNING TOGETHER The power of planning together Who is the natural action-taker in the relationship (hint, not the type nine!) The surprising reason Conor agreed to start this process with me five years ago How to take a simple step to get started with planning life on purpose together with your partner   Helpful Links That first time we sat down for Life on Purpose conversations on NYE 2015 Our basement decluttering before and after Enjoying our kids  More on the hard times of marriage Live your vision worksheets and live your values worksheets Life on Purpose workbook (amazon.ca | amazon.com) Join the Simple on Purpose community Facebook Group   Want to live life with more purpose? 5 years ago we stumbled upon our first 'life on purpose' conversation and since then we spend time each New Year to talk about how the year went and what we want in the year to come.   -
I asked Conor if we could have some of this conversation in front of the microphone and share it on the podcast. . . . 

 

Things we covered on this episode:
How Life on Purpose has changed for us over the years

Reflecting on the goals we have had over the years

The experience of using the Life on Purpose workbook last January 

Reviewed our home and family vision mottos from the past year

Discussed a few priorities we are setting for the year ahead for our home and family life

 
HOME
Our home vision for 2019 was 'less piles, more renoing'

How decluttering has changed our space and home

His decluttering process with the kids' toys (as requested by our 8 year old)

 
FAMILY
Our family motto for 2019 was 'be a family that is present and proactive'

Our plans for our family this summer

Being a 'yes' parent

 
PLANNING TOGETHER
The power of planning together

Who is the natural action-taker in the relationship (hint, not the type nine!)

The surprising reason Conor agreed to start this process with me five years ago

How to take a simple step to get started with planning life on purpose together with your partner

 
Helpful Links
That first time we sat down for Life on Purpose conversations on NYE 2015

Our basement decluttering before and after

Enjoying our kids 

More on the hard times of marriage

Live your vision worksheets and live your values worksheets

Life on Purpose workbook (amazon.ca | amazon.com)

Join the Simple on Purpose community Facebook Group



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46. Listening to your life (part 3 of SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss46/ Sat, 04 Jan 2020 05:45:49 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10445 Do you long to be more present, more mindful, more intentional in your life? A major step in this is listening to your life, to your heart and to others in your life. This is the third part of the SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE SERIES Step one: Pay attention Step two: Listen closer Step three: Be brave   Today we are talking about: what it means to LISTEN to your life, to those around you, to your heart how to assess the listening landscape of your home and family seek first to understand, then to understand when you feel like nobody listens to you things that keep us from listening well See the full post here.  DO THE LIFE EVALUATION HERE   Books or products recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you click through and take action I will be compensated at no additional cost to you. I only recommend products I love or feel would benefit your simple, on purpose life. LINKS MENTIONED The Untethered Soul 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child John Gottman's 'bids for connection' Enneagram 101 The Life on Purpose workbook The Life Evaluation  Instagram  Join the Simple Saturdays email newsletter Life Coaching with Shawna     Do you long to be more present, more mindful, more intentional in your life? A major step in this is listening to your life, to your heart and to others in your life. - This is the third part of the SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE SERIES -
This is the third part of the SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE SERIES

Step one: Pay attention

Step two: Listen closer

Step three: Be brave

 

Today we are talking about:

* what it means to LISTEN to your life, to those around you, to your heart
* how to assess the listening landscape of your home and family
* seek first to understand, then to understand
* when you feel like nobody listens to you
* things that keep us from listening well

See the full post here. 

DO THE LIFE EVALUATION HERE

 

Books or products recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you click through and take action I will be compensated at no additional cost to you. I only recommend products I love or feel would benefit your simple, on purpose life.
LINKS MENTIONED
The Untethered Soul

7 Habits of Highly Effective Families

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

John Gottman's 'bids for connection'

Enneagram 101

The Life on Purpose workbook

The Life Evaluation 

Instagram 

Join the Simple Saturdays email newsletter

Life Coaching with Shawna

 

 

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45. Paying attention to your life (Part 2 of SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss45/ Sat, 28 Dec 2019 04:40:17 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10414 Dear mama, do you feel like you are on autopilot, overwhelmed, and losing passion for your life? How would it change things if you decided to SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE? You know, the life you DO have.  I want to give you some guidance and strategies to help you do this.  This is PART TWO to the Show Up For Your Life Series.  In the first part, we talked about what it means to show up for your life, how to know if you are doing it and what it looks like.  There are three steps to showing up for your life: pay attention listen closer be brave Today we are talking about paying attention. To read the full post transcript, go here.    LINKS MENTIONED The Life on Purpose workbook The Life Evaluation  Instagram  Join the Simple Saturdays email newsletter Life Coaching with Shawna     Dear mama, do you feel like you are on autopilot, overwhelmed, and losing passion for your life? How would it change things if you decided to SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE? You know, the life you DO have.  - I want to give you some guidance and strategies to ...
I want to give you some guidance and strategies to help you do this. 



This is PART TWO to the Show Up For Your Life Series. 

In the first part, we talked about what it means to show up for your life, how to know if you are doing it and what it looks like. 
There are three steps to showing up for your life:

*
pay attention

*
listen closer

*
be brave


Today we are talking about paying attention.

To read the full post transcript, go here. 

 
LINKS MENTIONED
The Life on Purpose workbook

The Life Evaluation 

Instagram 

Join the Simple Saturdays email newsletter

Life Coaching with Shawna

 



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44. Showing up for your life (part 1 of the Show Up For Your Life Series) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss44/ Sat, 14 Dec 2019 06:16:04 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10342 From one mom to another, showing up for our life is the hard work of being present, proactive and purposeful.  I'm sharing my journey in showing up for my own life and giving you steps and insights to use that will help you SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE.  Read the full post here on Showing Up For Your Life   LINKS MENTIONED Subscribe to Simple Saturdays Marriage [When they tell me I'm lucky to have him]  I stopped enjoying my kids [blog post] [podcast episode] Plan your day Workbook bonuses (sign up if you have purchased a Life on Purpose workbook) My Faves List   Find me on Instagram @simpleonpurpose.ca   From one mom to another, showing up for our life is the hard work of being present, proactive and purposeful.  - I'm sharing my journey in showing up for my own life and giving you steps and insights to use that will help you SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE.
I'm sharing my journey in showing up for my own life and giving you steps and insights to use that will help you SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE. 

Read the full post here on Showing Up For Your Life



 
LINKS MENTIONED
Subscribe to Simple Saturdays

Marriage [When they tell me I'm lucky to have him

I stopped enjoying my kids [blog post] [podcast episode]

Plan your day

Workbook bonuses (sign up if you have purchased a Life on Purpose workbook)

My Faves List

 

Find me on Instagram @simpleonpurpose.ca

 

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43. Simplify Your Christmas (kids, clutter, traditions, hosting, festivities). https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss43/ Sat, 23 Nov 2019 05:30:24 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10055 Do you want to simplify your Christmas? In this installment of Simple Saturdays, we're talking about strategies to both simplify Christmas and make it special season for you and your family. This is part two of a two-part episode on this topic. Missed part one? Listen to Simplify Christmas (gifts, decor, mindsets). Episode 42 Simplify Your Christmas (kids, clutter, traditions, hosting, festivities) Kids We feel this tension of longing to make a magical christmas and spoil our kids, while being mindful of the money, the excess and the culture of entitlement we might be contributing to. We try to consider the type of culture we want to create in our family when it comes to gifts. The excess from others We worry about the influx of gifts from friends and family. On the other side of this, is a gift giver who longs to express their love and their love language might be gifts. They are still trying to show up and love you and your family and we can always be more open to the different ways people are expressing love to us. Focus on quality gifts over quantity I like the four gift rule (something they want, something they need, something to wear, something to read). It is also satisfying to buy them toys that encourage engagement rather than just entertainment. Hosting Make hosting more about sharing life together and focussing on what is happening for them rather than all your own anxieties. Plan for the things that will be stressful for you (meals, activities, cleaning). Festivities We don’t have all the time, money and energy, so we have to choose how we spend it. Bring it back to your values and vision for the season and choose the things that are most in line with that. You can’t do everything, so choose what is the best for this year. All of these topics are covered in the Simple Christmas Planner After all, this is why I made it. To be a roadmap through how to simplify your Christmas, and how to identify and make Christmas a season that you and your family long to have. I know many of you have got your copy already—and some of you have printed off the pages that will best serve you. Whether you use it all, or the parts you need, I think the biggest benefit is having one space to walk through it all—and come back to it next year. Links mentioned: Why and How to Make Unique Christmas Traditions for your Family The 'Not-Enough' Mindset. Episode 40 Our Minimalist Family Home: Basement Before and After The Simple Christmas Planner Simple on Purpose Community Since there has been interested in starting a community group for the Simple on Purpose readers I’ve set up our community Facebook group. BUT, ONLY JOIN IF you want to be engaged in the conversations. In the spirit of keeping your life simple, don’t add another Facebook group to your digital life if you are just going to sit on the sidelines and not take part. If you are ready to join in, then we would love to chat with you there! TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook, or email me here.   Do you want to simplify your Christmas? In this installment of Simple Saturdays, we're talking about strategies to both simplify Christmas and make it special season for you and your family. This is part two of a two-part episode on this topic.

Missed part one? Listen to Simplify Christmas (gifts, decor, mindsets). Episode 42
Simplify Your Christmas (kids, clutter, traditions, hosting, festivities)
Kids
We feel this tension of longing to make a magical christmas and spoil our kids, while being mindful of the money, the excess and the culture of entitlement we might be contributing to. We try to consider the type of culture we want to create in our family when it comes to gifts.
The excess from others
We worry about the influx of gifts from friends and family. On the other side of this, is a gift giver who longs to express their love and their love language might be gifts. They are still trying to show up and love you and your family and we can always be more open to the different ways people are expressing love to us.
Focus on quality gifts over quantity
I like the four gift rule (something they want, something they need, something to wear, something to read). It is also satisfying to buy them toys that encourage engagement rather than just entertainment.
Hosting
Make hosting more about sharing life together and focussing on what is happening for them rather than all your own anxieties. Plan for the things that will be stressful for you (meals, activities, cleaning).
Festivities
We don’t have all the time, money and energy, so we have to choose how we spend it. Bring it back to your values and vision for the season and choose the things that are most in line with that. You can’t do everything, so choose what is the best for this year.
All of these topics are covered in the Simple Christmas Planner
After all, this is why I made it. To be a roadmap through how to simplify your Christmas, and how to identify and make Christmas a season that you and your family long to have. I know many of you have got your copy already—and some of you have printed off the pages that will best serve you. Whether you use it all, or the parts you need, I think the biggest benefit is having one space to walk through it all—and come back to it next year.
Links mentioned:

* Why and How to Make Unique Christmas Traditions for your Family
* The 'Not-Enough' Mindset. Episode 40
* Our Minimalist Family Home: Basement Before and After
* The Simple Christmas Planner

Simple on Purpose Community
Since there has been interested in starting a community group for the Simple on Purpose readers I’ve set up our community Facebook group. BUT, ONLY JOIN IF you want to be engaged in the conversations. In the spirit of keeping your life simple, don’t add another Facebook group to your digital life if you are just going to sit on the sidelines and not take part. If you are ready to join in, then we would love to chat with you there!
TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME
Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook,]]>
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42. Simplify Christmas (gifts, decor, mindsets). https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss42/ Sat, 23 Nov 2019 05:00:13 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=10050 What issues do you have when you attempt to simplify Christmas? I asked this question in the Facebook group and on Instagram and was sent so many thoughtful questions—which tells me that I have the best readers, women who can feel the changes they want to make and see it right there and will take steps to get there! This is part one of a two-part episode addressing these issues. Simplify Your Christmas (Mindsets, Gifts, Decor) Christmas stress + expectations Christmas may have been magical as a child, but now we are adults and we feel the stress of all the activities, gifts, budgets, travel, etc. Just like we work at living our LIFE ON PURPOSE, we can get mindful and make a plan to have our CHRISTMAS ON PURPOSE. Planning is so important because it lets you make mindful decision ahead of time, so all that mental and prep work is done and you can just show up and enjoy the special days ahead. Gifts What sorts of expectations do you have when it comes to gift-giving? VS What are your values with gifts, what do gifts mean to you? When you are looking at your gift lists and thinking of what to buy people, it can help to consider how you want to express your love to them. How can you make them feel seen? Decor Christmas decor should be whatever you like. If you don’t know what you like, make a vision board on Pinterest and look for themes. Have/keep/buy decor that you LOVE and have room for. Listen to part two of Simplify Your Christmas. Links mentioned: My Faves The Simple Christmas Planner TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook, or email me here. What issues do you have when you attempt to simplify Christmas? I asked this question in the Facebook group and on Instagram and was sent so many thoughtful questions—which tells me that I have the best readers, Facebook group and on Instagram and was sent so many thoughtful questions—which tells me that I have the best readers, women who can feel the changes they want to make and see it right there and will take steps to get there! This is part one of a two-part episode addressing these issues.


Simplify Your Christmas (Mindsets, Gifts, Decor)
Christmas stress + expectations
Christmas may have been magical as a child, but now we are adults and we feel the stress of all the activities, gifts, budgets, travel, etc. Just like we work at living our LIFE ON PURPOSE, we can get mindful and make a plan to have our CHRISTMAS ON PURPOSE. Planning is so important because it lets you make mindful decision ahead of time, so all that mental and prep work is done and you can just show up and enjoy the special days ahead.
Gifts
What sorts of expectations do you have when it comes to gift-giving? VS What are your values with gifts, what do gifts mean to you? When you are looking at your gift lists and thinking of what to buy people, it can help to consider how you want to express your love to them. How can you make them feel seen?
Decor
Christmas decor should be whatever you like. If you don’t know what you like, make a vision board on Pinterest and look for themes. Have/keep/buy decor that you LOVE and have room for.

Listen to part two of Simplify Your Christmas.
Links mentioned:

* My Faves
* The Simple Christmas Planner

TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME
Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook, or email me here.

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41. Overwhelm in mom life: Life coaching advice on how to manage overwhelm. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss41/ Sat, 09 Nov 2019 05:23:35 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=9860 Overwhelm in motherhood is often part of the role. There is so much to keep track of, manage, plan for, do.  When we feel overwhelmed we often think we are doing something wrong, or we need to try harder, or our life is just too hard.  Often the overwhelm causes us to stress and act from this stress response which gives us a negative outcome in our lives and homes.  But overwhelm is a FEELING we have about the mental clutter in our brain. So, what do we do about the mental clutter? We need to lay it out, sort through it and make decisions on what to do next.    FOUR STEPS TO DEAL WITH OVERWHELM Calm your nervous system Unpack and inventory  - link- How to do a brain dump Prioritize like you mean it - links - Knowing Your Values free worksheet Knowing Your Vision free worksheet When you don't know what you want out of life (podcast episode 32) Take Action   SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER Over the past few years, I have shared the Simple Christmas Series to help you prepare for Christmas (everything from gift-giving, to advent, to party food). I am taking this information and giving it legs so you can put it INTO ACTION.  The Simple Christmas Planner will be released in the next two weeks. It will take you through the mindsets, expectations, simplifying, gift lists, planning and preparing the Christmas that YOU WANT for you and your family! Stay tuned to the Simple Saturdays email for more info! Subscribe to the Simple Saturdays email     Overwhelm in motherhood is often part of the role. There is so much to keep track of, manage, plan for, do.  - When we feel overwhelmed we often think we are doing something wrong, or we need to try harder, or our life is just too hard.  -
When we feel overwhelmed we often think we are doing something wrong, or we need to try harder, or our life is just too hard. 

Often the overwhelm causes us to stress and act from this stress response which gives us a negative outcome in our lives and homes. 

But overwhelm is a FEELING we have about the mental clutter in our brain. So, what do we do about the mental clutter?

We need to lay it out, sort through it and make decisions on what to do next. 

 
FOUR STEPS TO DEAL WITH OVERWHELM

* Calm your nervous system
* Unpack and inventory 

- link-
How to do a brain dump


* Prioritize like you mean it

- links -
Knowing Your Values free worksheet
Knowing Your Vision free worksheet
When you don't know what you want out of life (podcast episode 32)


* Take Action

 

SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER

Over the past few years, I have shared the Simple Christmas Series to help you prepare for Christmas (everything from gift-giving, to advent, to party food). I am taking this information and giving it legs so you can put it INTO ACTION. 

The Simple Christmas Planner will be released in the next two weeks. It will take you through the mindsets, expectations, simplifying, gift lists, planning and preparing the Christmas that YOU WANT for you and your family! Stay tuned to the Simple Saturdays email for more info!

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40. The ‘Not-Enough’ Mindset (scarcity + abundance in motherhood and life) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss40/ Sat, 02 Nov 2019 03:30:15 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=9830 In this episode we're talking about the 'not-enough' mindset. AKA how to spot a scarcity mindset and shift it to an abundance mindset. The 'not-enough' mindset believes there is not enough to go around Not enough... Money Time Food Energy Attention Readers Friends Spotlight Praise Etcetera 'Not-enough' mindset says if they have some, there must be less in the world for me Scarcity mindset also believes things need to be 'right' to be acceptable and it puts us in a victim mentality. In contrast to the scarcity mindset is the abundance mindset Here are some ways to see when a scarcity mindset is taking place of an abundance mindset. Feeling jealousy/comparison vs celebrating others and yourself Feeling worry/fixation vs being present and peaceful Getting overwhelmed/burnt out vs managing your energy and making time for rest Hustling/Hoarding vs setting healthy boundaries and limits for yourself Complaining/Gossiping vs having an open mind and speaking positively Feeling discontented/frustrated vs acknowledging where you are growing and moving forward What an abundance mindset offers I am enough. There is enough. If I don't get this—it wasn't for me. Life happens for me not against me. Abundance mindset allows us to see our present life with gratitude, to trust in ourselves, and to bring peace into our relationships. If scarcity mindset is something you struggle with and you would like more guidance on it, schedule a free 30-minute life coaching session with me and I will help you walk through it. Learn more about life coaching with me. Links mentioned: Simple Saturdays newsletter sign up The Perfect Moments Project The 'Not-Enough' Mindset (How to Spot a Scarcity Mindset and Shift it Into an Abundance Mindset) [blog post] Simple on Purpose Community Since there has been interested in starting a community group for the Simple on Purpose readers I’ve set up our community Facebook group. BUT, ONLY JOIN IF you want to be engaged in the conversations. In the spirit of keeping your life simple, don’t add another Facebook group to your digital life if you are just going to sit on the sidelines and not take part. If you are ready to join in, then we would love to chat with you there! TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook, or email me here. In this episode we're talking about the 'not-enough' mindset. AKA how to spot a scarcity mindset and shift it to an abundance mindset. The 'not-enough' mindset believes there is not enough to go around Not enough... Money Time Food

The 'not-enough' mindset believes there is not enough to go around
Not enough...

* Money
* Time
* Food
* Energy
* Attention
* Readers
* Friends
* Spotlight
* Praise
* Etcetera

'Not-enough' mindset says if they have some, there must be less in the world for me
Scarcity mindset also believes things need to be 'right' to be acceptable and it puts us in a victim mentality.
In contrast to the scarcity mindset is the abundance mindset
Here are some ways to see when a scarcity mindset is taking place of an abundance mindset.

* Feeling jealousy/comparison vs celebrating others and yourself
* Feeling worry/fixation vs being present and peaceful
* Getting overwhelmed/burnt out vs managing your energy and making time for rest
* Hustling/Hoarding vs setting healthy boundaries and limits for yourself
* Complaining/Gossiping vs having an open mind and speaking positively
* Feeling discontented/frustrated vs acknowledging where you are growing and moving forward

What an abundance mindset offers
I am enough.

There is enough.

If I don't get this—it wasn't for me.

Life happens for me not against me.
Abundance mindset allows us to see our present life with gratitude, to trust in ourselves, and to bring peace into our relationships.
If scarcity mindset is something you struggle with and you would like more guidance on it, schedule a free 30-minute life coaching session with me and I will help you walk through it.
Learn more about life coaching with me.
Links mentioned:

* Simple Saturdays newsletter sign up
* The Perfect Moments Project
* The 'Not-Enough' Mindset (How to Spot a Scarcity Mindset and Shift it Into an Abundance Mindset) [blog post]

Simple on Purpose Community
Since there has been interested in starting a community group for the Simple on Purpose readers I’ve set up our community Facebook group. BUT, ONLY JOIN IF you want to be engaged in the conversations. In the spirit of keeping your life simple, don’t add another Facebook group to your digital life if you are just going to sit on the sidelines and not take part. If you are ready to join in, then we would love to chat with you there!
TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME
Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook, or email me here.

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39. Coaching Session with Adeline on Kitchen Clutter. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss39/ Sat, 26 Oct 2019 03:42:25 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=9667 How to handle a cluttered kitchen, starting with addressing your mindsets   The Facebook community voted on the BIRTHDAY EPISODE for the podcast. They chose a coaching call. So I asked the group for a volunteer to do a coaching call for the podcast and Adeline offered to participate. So, thank you Adeline! I often coach on different subjects more related to motherhood, work, personal growth, relationships, etc so this call was something fun for me as it focussed mainly on decluttering.  But as you will hear, it wasn't JUST DECLUTTERING. It always comes back to your THOUGHTS and mindsets about it! And I can really pick up on the scarcity and abundance mindsets at play here (see more about that in these Instagram stories)   What you will hear in this coaching call: CHALLENGES The kitchen feels disorganized and there is clutter on the counters. Every day it needs to be cleaned, it feels defeating. It is a big source of stress when she thinks about it in the morning. It is a source of stress to spend the end of the day cleaning it when you feel done with the day.  The kitchen is used for her home use and her Montessori school where she teaches 6 children.  Montessori is a unique way of setting up space and teaching independence in children. VIDEOS: The Montessori Toddler, Montessori at home   ISSUES WE COACHED ON What her vision would be for her kitchen  The challenges of keeping a clutter-free, clean kitchen when it is used so often for so many uses How her mindset affects how she feels about her kitchen (what is the story she is telling herself about the state of her kitchen) Being motivated by negative emotions (hustling, rushing) when you are judging and shaming yourself. VS being motivated by positive emotions (taking your time, practising gratitude) when you are tapping into WHY this matters to you and why you want it Honouring what she IS building (a business, a school, a community) and knowing this will be hard and uncomfortable at times Assuming what others think about her kitchen because it is rooted in her own judgements of herself rather than actually knowing what they think  Shifting her mindsets WHEN her kitchen is cluttered or untidy Taking small steps to refine the space, how it is used, and how it is maintained Measuring the success of her day in how much everyone learned rather than the dishes on the counter TIME STAMPS FOR SPECIFIC TOPICS 14:30 - The mindsets she experiences when her kitchen is cluttered and how it makes her feel 20:50 - How her kitchen usage has changed over the years - now she has a clash on how it was used (simple, low usage) to how it is now (many uses, frequent usage) 25:00 - Assumptions on what others think about her kitchen and how we judge others by our own struggles/standards 26:22  - How the story we tell ourselves about what our house says about us can cause us feelings of stress and we act out from that place of stress 26:40 - Being led/motivated from the beautiful positive things that she is working towards vs being motivated from that place of shame, guilt and frustration 32: 15 - When building into a vision (for business or home) and it feels defeating, we need to remember WHY we are doing it - even when it is uncomfortable and hard and needs lots of small steps to 'get there' 33:30 - Setting up an action step of setting her mindset in the morning before she starts her day, so she can start things on a positive note 34: 35 - Deciding how she will show up when it IS cluttered (because it will be cluttered from time to time) 35:50 - Shifting the focus on the stress and mess, to the beautiful things that happened in the making of the mess 38:38 - Shaming ourselves for having 'clutter' prevents us from showing up well for our life 39:35 - Adeline brainstorms strategies to address the problem, and you can hear the shift in her approach to problem-solving (compared with the beginn... How to handle a cluttered kitchen, starting with addressing your mindsets   The Facebook community voted on the BIRTHDAY EPISODE for the podcast. They chose a coaching call. So I asked the group for a volunteer to do a coaching call for the podca...  


The Facebook community voted on the BIRTHDAY EPISODE for the podcast. They chose a coaching call. So I asked the group for a volunteer to do a coaching call for the podcast and Adeline offered to participate. So, thank you Adeline!

I often coach on different subjects more related to motherhood, work, personal growth, relationships, etc so this call was something fun for me as it focussed mainly on decluttering. 

But as you will hear, it wasn't JUST DECLUTTERING. It always comes back to your THOUGHTS and mindsets about it! And I can really pick up on the scarcity and abundance mindsets at play here (see more about that in these Instagram stories)

 
What you will hear in this coaching call:
CHALLENGES
The kitchen feels disorganized and there is clutter on the counters. Every day it needs to be cleaned, it feels defeating.

It is a big source of stress when she thinks about it in the morning. It is a source of stress to spend the end of the day cleaning it when you feel done with the day. 

The kitchen is used for her home use and her Montessori school where she teaches 6 children. 

* Montessori is a unique way of setting up space and teaching independence in children.

* VIDEOS: The Montessori Toddler, Montessori at home



 
ISSUES WE COACHED ON

* What her vision would be for her kitchen 
* The challenges of keeping a clutter-free, clean kitchen when it is used so often for so many uses
* How her mindset affects how she feels about her kitchen (what is the story she is telling herself about the state of her kitchen)
* Being motivated by negative emotions (hustling, rushing) when you are judging and shaming yourself. VS being motivated by positive emotions (taking your time, practising gratitude) when you are tapping into WHY this matters to you and why you want it
* Honouring what she IS building (a business, a school, a community) and knowing this will be hard and uncomfortable at times
* Assuming what others think about her kitchen because it is rooted in her own judgements of herself rather than actually knowing what they think 
* Shifting her mindsets WHEN her kitchen is cluttered or untidy
* Taking small steps to refine the space, how it is used, and how it is maintained
* Measuring the success of her day in how much everyone learned rather than the dishes on the counter

TIME STAMPS FOR SPECIFIC TOPICS
14:30 - The mindsets she experiences when her kitchen is cluttered and how it makes her feel

20:50 - How her kitchen usage has changed over the years - now she has a clash on how it was used (simple, low usage) to how it is now (many uses, frequent usage)

25:00 - Assumptions on what others think about her kitchen and how we judge others by our own struggles/standards

26:22  - How the story we tell ourselves about what our house says about us can cause us feelings of stress and we act out from that place of stress

26:40 - Being led/motivated from the beautiful positive things that she is working towards vs being motivated from that place of shame, guilt and frustration

32: 15 - When building into a vision (for business or home) and it feels defeating, we need to remember WHY we are doing it - even when it is uncomfortable and hard and needs lots of small steps to 'get there'

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38. Hygge and Minimalism (how they compare, how to hygge this fall/winter). https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss38/ Tue, 22 Oct 2019 18:53:16 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=9739 Hygge is a Danish word describing the atmosphere of connection, contentment and coziness.  Once I had decluttered my house, I felt really drawn to bringing hygge into my home and life.  In reading about it, I learned that there are some differences between hygge and minimalism. Knowing the difference helps me see where I am directing my intentions on how I set up my space and life.    In this podcast I'm covering: How hygge compares with minimalism (read the full post here) Three mindsets to bring hygge into your everyday life (read the full post here) Thirty ways you can hygge in the colder months (see the list here) I am basing a lot of my discussion on hygge from these books: Any books or products recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you click through and take action I will be compensated at no additional cost to you. I only recommend products I love or feel would benefit your simple, on purpose life. The Book of Hygge by Louisa Thomsen Brits The Little Book of Hygge by Miek Wiking   To get connected: Join the facebook community group Share your thoughts on Instagram  Hygge is a Danish word describing the atmosphere of connection, contentment and coziness.  - Once I had decluttered my house, I felt really drawn to bringing hygge into my home and life.  - In reading about it,
Once I had decluttered my house, I felt really drawn to bringing hygge into my home and life. 

In reading about it, I learned that there are some differences between hygge and minimalism. Knowing the difference helps me see where I am directing my intentions on how I set up my space and life. 

 

In this podcast I'm covering:

* How hygge compares with minimalism (read the full post here)
* Three mindsets to bring hygge into your everyday life (read the full post here)
* Thirty ways you can hygge in the colder months (see the list here)

I am basing a lot of my discussion on hygge from these books:

Any books or products recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you click through and take action I will be compensated at no additional cost to you. I only recommend products I love or feel would benefit your simple, on purpose life.

The Book of Hygge by Louisa Thomsen Brits

The Little Book of Hygge by Miek Wiking

 

To get connected:

Join the facebook community group

Share your thoughts on Instagram 

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37. Three mindset shifts to help you declutter your home + the tool of visualization. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss37/ Sat, 12 Oct 2019 05:30:11 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=9648 Today on the podcast we're talking about visualization (it's really wild) and three mindset shifts to help you declutter your home. I'm also giving you a sneak peek of my upcoming masterclass! Simple Life Visualization. The practice of sitting there, thinking about what you want, imagining how it feels and smells and looks, getting very detailed, running yourself through the space and process of being there. All of these things are wiring new thought patterns in your brain and your brain thinks they are legit! VISUALIZATION WORKS AT CHANGING OUR BRAIN’S THOUGHT PATTERNS SO when you are preparing to DO THE THING whether it is run a race, or have turkey with your crazy family, or declutter your basement—you get more success at figuring out HOW to do and more success achieving your vision BECAUSE your brain has started laying the groundwork. Action for today Science is telling us that visualization is your mental dress rehearsal that increases your likelihood of achieving the outcome you visualize. The main reason it works is because we FIND WHAT WE ARE LOOKING FOR. When we are preparing for the worst, that is all we will see. When we are preparing for the best then our brain looks for evidence that it is true. So often we go about our day getting anxiety over the worst possible outcomes that COULD HAPPEN. We are still using visualization but in a negative way. So, take something in your future and consider the best possible outcome you want from it. Then start to use visualization to imagine and practice it. THREE MINDSETS TO SHIFT BEFORE DECLUTTERING YOUR HOME I think what we miss when we look at checklists of things to remove from our home is the MINDSET that is required to make it effective. We need to investigate what we think about getting started, why we want to do it, how much believe we have in ourselves to accomplish it and so on. In my experience with life coaching women on this topic and decluttering my own home—I think there are three mindsets that can be very common hurdles to getting started with decluttering. I want to break down some of them here and offer you a mindset shift you can try for each one. 1. Decluttering is a chore I don't have time for In the past, I had always viewed decluttering as a chore. It was work to go through all those boxes in the basement, and there was other ‘more important’ work I could do instead. So it wasn’t getting done. I had no motivation to declutter until I had a vision and a ‘why’ for myself. My ‘why’ was this drive to rehaul how I was living in my home with my ‘stuff’. My ‘why’ was to create an atmosphere in my home where my kids had SPACE to play, create, imagine. My ‘why’ was to create a place that was inviting to anyone who came to our door. mindset shift: decluttering is an action i take to create the space i want to live in 2. I already have enough of everything, I don’t really need to declutter. When I started decluttering and was face to face with how much stuff I had bought that I didn’t like or didn’t need or never have used – I got this achy knot in my stomach. All that money that I spent, all the time I spent shopping, all those things I thought I needed. I have more than enough. I have enough clothes (that I never wear), and kitchen gadgets (I never use), and books (I never read), and why do I have like seven half-used conditioners and four curling irons in the bathroom??…you get the idea. mindset shift: decluttering will help me determine what i do have enough of and where there is excess i can let go of 3. I'm a victim of my home When I started decluttering, my big goal was to clear space, and then once that space was clear it felt like a clean slate to create the home we wanted. We have invested in the long game of decluttering and creating spaces that we love and our kids love. I will say now, that I truly love my home (the same home I was so eager to move out of so many times). Today on the podcast we're talking about visualization (it's really wild) and three mindset shifts to help you declutter your home. I'm also giving you a sneak peek of my upcoming masterclass! Simple Life Visualization.

Simple Life
Visualization. The practice of sitting there, thinking about what you want, imagining how it feels and smells and looks, getting very detailed, running yourself through the space and process of being there. All of these things are wiring new thought patterns in your brain and your brain thinks they are legit!
VISUALIZATION WORKS AT CHANGING OUR BRAIN’S THOUGHT PATTERNS
SO when you are preparing to DO THE THING whether it is run a race, or have turkey with your crazy family, or declutter your basement—you get more success at figuring out HOW to do and more success achieving your vision BECAUSE your brain has started laying the groundwork.
Action for today
Science is telling us that visualization is your mental dress rehearsal that increases your likelihood of achieving the outcome you visualize. The main reason it works is because we FIND WHAT WE ARE LOOKING FOR. When we are preparing for the worst, that is all we will see. When we are preparing for the best then our brain looks for evidence that it is true.

So often we go about our day getting anxiety over the worst possible outcomes that COULD HAPPEN. We are still using visualization but in a negative way. So, take something in your future and consider the best possible outcome you want from it. Then start to use visualization to imagine and practice it.
THREE MINDSETS TO SHIFT BEFORE DECLUTTERING YOUR HOME
I think what we miss when we look at checklists of things to remove from our home is the MINDSET that is required to make it effective.

We need to investigate what we think about getting started, why we want to do it, how much believe we have in ourselves to accomplish it and so on.

In my experience with life coaching women on this topic and decluttering my own home—I think there are three mindsets that can be very common hurdles to getting started with decluttering.
I want to break down some of them here and offer you a mindset shift you can try for each one.
1. Decluttering is a chore I don't have time for
In the past, I had always viewed decluttering as a chore. It was work to go through all those boxes in the basement, and there was other ‘more important’ work I could do instead. So it wasn’t getting done. I had no motivation to declutter until I had a vision and a ‘why’ for myself.

My ‘why’ was this drive to rehaul how I was living in my home with my ‘stuff’. My ‘why’ was to create an atmosphere in my home where my kids had SPACE to play, create, imagine. My ‘why’ was to create a place that was inviting to anyone who came to our door.
mindset shift: decluttering is an action i take to create the space i want to live in
2. I already have enough of everything, I don’t really need to declutter.
When I started decluttering and was face to face with how much stuff I had bought that I didn’t like or didn’t need or never have used – I got this achy knot in my stomach. All that money that I spent, all the time I spent shopping, all those things I thought I needed.

I have more than enough. I have enough clothes (that I never wear), and kitchen gadgets (I never use), and books (I never read), and why do I have like seven half-used conditioners and four curling irons in the bathroom??…you get the idea.
mindset shift: decluttering will help me determine what i do have enough of and where there is excess i can let go of
3. I'm a victim of my home
When I started decluttering, my big goal was to clear space, and then once that space was clear it felt like a clean slate to create the home we wanted. We have invested in the long game of decluttering and creating spaces that ...]]>
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36. 5 common home organization mistakes and what to do about them https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss36/ Sat, 05 Oct 2019 03:03:04 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=9607 Do you tell yourself that you suck at organizing? And you will never get organized? Being mindful of the story we tell about ourselves of the story we tell ourselves about how we suck at organizing - and being mindful of the mistakes we might be making that trip us up.  I have decluttered my home and worked on finding systems, routines and ways to organize our home that doesn't require me to buy one of everything from IKEA and have hourly training sessions with my family on how to use the pantry.  Get the TOP TEN MISTAKES CHEATSHEETS     LINKS Five Common Mistakes We Might Make When Organizing Our Home View the full blog post here (with pictures I talked about of our closet, the hutch) Instagram Stories (MomOffice Stories) The Simple on Purpose Community Facebook Group Instagram    Do you tell yourself that you suck at organizing? And you will never get organized? - Being mindful of the story we tell about ourselves of the story we tell ourselves about how we suck at organizing - and being mindful of the mistakes we might be mak...
Being mindful of the story we tell about ourselves of the story we tell ourselves about how we suck at organizing - and being mindful of the mistakes we might be making that trip us up. 

I have decluttered my home and worked on finding systems, routines and ways to organize our home that doesn't require me to buy one of everything from IKEA and have hourly training sessions with my family on how to use the pantry. 


Get the TOP TEN MISTAKES CHEATSHEETS
 
 
LINKS
Five Common Mistakes We Might Make When Organizing Our Home View the full blog post here (with pictures I talked about of our closet, the hutch)

Instagram Stories (MomOffice Stories)

The Simple on Purpose Community Facebook Group

Instagram 

 

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35. Ways to Simplify MomLife (part 2) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss35/ Sat, 28 Sep 2019 03:19:26 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=9535 Ways to simplify momlife is part two of the wrap up for the You Can Simplify Your Life series. Did you miss part one? Listen to 5 things that make my life simpler. Simple Life There are so many demands on our resources (time, space, energy, money)—this makes it feel like our life is not simple. But how do we do that as moms? How do we manage our own resources when everyone is demanding them 25 hours a day? The best way to simplify your life is to find what feels simple TO YOU. BUT, I know that as part of that process it is helpful to get ideas on how other moms are simplifying. So I will share some of the things I've done to simplify momlife and maybe some of them will work in your own life. 6 Ways to Simplify MomLife Taking time to slow down and be at home We will always think our lives are too busy when we feel like there isn’t enough time. If we fill our days going from place to place or chore to chore then we will feel the tension of living a life that has no time for the things we want and need. And we all need time to rest, and that time isn’t just given to us by some time fairy. We need to schedule in time to rest and recharge. Operating the household with a calendar and planner Planning is a game changer in motherhood! When I have a plan I feel in control, more relaxed and things get done that are supposed to get done. Knowing what needs to happen, preparing for it, and making sure everyone knows the plan makes my life a lot easier. Using technology to keep me on task I set calendar alarms for almost everything. From signing school forms at night to stops I need to make on the way to school pick up tomorrow, to a text message I want to make in a week. I put it all in my phone calendar and set two alarms to go off at different intervals so I don’t miss it. Limiting the number of extracurricular activities we have as a family I know this is a very personal issue so I am not saying that our way is right. This is what works for us, right now. I appreciate being at home with the kids after school and giving them downtime to play with the neighbourhood kids, and play lego, and read, and whatever. I know these days won’t always be here and they will be teenagers and we will be signing them up for ALL the activities. Keeping celebrations simple, but meaningful There are so many birthdays and holidays in a year that it can drain our resources fast to keep up a high level with each of them. But if we can keep them simple and thoughtful it feels much more manageable and purposeful. We can pay attention to what the best activity or experience or gift might be for someone and make them feel seen and special in so many ways. We don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. Here is your permission slip! Planning out the upcoming year/season I love doing this because it lets us get clear on where to focus our efforts, time and money. We can work together (“teamwork makes the dream work”) and because I know we will do it again next time, I don’t feel the pressure to DO ALL THE THINGS in one summer, or one holiday. You can see all of these things are about planning how we will use our resources—they help me get very intentional about where I allocate my time, money, energy and space. Simplifying your life and planning how to use your resources is also a way of being intentional with the years you have with your kids at home. It means asking what kind of family culture you want to have, what things you want to make sure are top priority for the years your kids are in your house, and still making space for you to live your life too. Simple on Purpose Community Since there has been interest in starting a community group for the Simple on Purpose readers I’ve set up our community Facebook group. BUT, ONLY JOIN IF you want to be engaged in the conversations. In the spirit of keeping your life simple, don’t add another Facebook group to your digital life if you are just going to sit on the sidelines and not ta... Ways to simplify momlife is part two of the wrap up for the You Can Simplify Your Life series. - Did you miss part one? Listen to 5 things that make my life simpler. Simple Life There are so many demands on our resources (time, space, energy,
Did you miss part one? Listen to 5 things that make my life simpler.
Simple Life
There are so many demands on our resources (time, space, energy, money)—this makes it feel like our life is not simple.
But how do we do that as moms? How do we manage our own resources when everyone is demanding them 25 hours a day?
The best way to simplify your life is to find what feels simple TO YOU. BUT, I know that as part of that process it is helpful to get ideas on how other moms are simplifying.
So I will share some of the things I've done to simplify momlife and maybe some of them will work in your own life.
6 Ways to Simplify MomLife

* Taking time to slow down and be at home
We will always think our lives are too busy when we feel like there isn’t enough time. If we fill our days going from place to place or chore to chore then we will feel the tension of living a life that has no time for the things we want and need. And we all need time to rest, and that time isn’t just given to us by some time fairy. We need to schedule in time to rest and recharge.
* Operating the household with a calendar and planner
Planning is a game changer in motherhood! When I have a plan I feel in control, more relaxed and things get done that are supposed to get done. Knowing what needs to happen, preparing for it, and making sure everyone knows the plan makes my life a lot easier.
* Using technology to keep me on task
I set calendar alarms for almost everything. From signing school forms at night to stops I need to make on the way to school pick up tomorrow, to a text message I want to make in a week. I put it all in my phone calendar and set two alarms to go off at different intervals so I don’t miss it.
* Limiting the number of extracurricular activities we have as a family
I know this is a very personal issue so I am not saying that our way is right. This is what works for us, right now. I appreciate being at home with the kids after school and giving them downtime to play with the neighbourhood kids, and play lego, and read, and whatever. I know these days won’t always be here and they will be teenagers and we will be signing them up for ALL the activities.
* Keeping celebrations simple, but meaningful
There are so many birthdays and holidays in a year that it can drain our resources fast to keep up a high level with each of them. But if we can keep them simple and thoughtful it feels much more manageable and purposeful. We can pay attention to what the best activity or experience or gift might be for someone and make them feel seen and special in so many ways. We don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. Here is your permission slip!
* Planning out the upcoming year/season
I love doing this because it lets us get clear on where to focus our efforts, time and money. We can work together (“teamwork makes the dream work”) and because I know we will do it again next time, I don’t feel the pressure to DO ALL THE THINGS in one summer, or one holiday.

You can see all of these things are about planning how we will use our resources—they help me get very intentional about where I allocate my time, money, energy and space.
Simplifying your life and planning how to use your resources is also a way of being intentional with the years you have with your kids at home. It means asking what kind of family culture you want to have, what things you want to make sure are top priority for the years your kids are in your house, and still making space for you to live your life too.
Simple on Purpose Community
Since there has been interest in starting a community group for the Simple on Purpose readers I’ve set up our clean 15:53
34. Ways to Simplify MomLife (part 1) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss34/ Sat, 14 Sep 2019 03:32:39 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=9373 I wanted to wrap up my You Can Simplify Your Life series with things that make my life simpler. Simple Life Living simple and on purpose is a very personalized thing. It means taking the time to find out what simple looks and feels like to you. It means setting your own vision and values and prioritizing your life/time/home/energy/money according to your vision and values.   When life is simpler we can SHOW UP AND ENJOY IT! These are things that make my life simpler and I hope there are some tips and strategies in there for you to try. 5 things that make my life simpler Decluttering my space Clearing the clutter from my home allowed me see I could have control over how I use my space. I saw the benefits of creating space for the home life I wanted. Decluttering helped me learn where and how to take control and make space in my life too. Meal planning for me and my people Feeding myself well hasn’t come naturally and I’ve had to learn how to feed myself and my people, everyday, many times a day. I’m a big fan of planning what makes your life easier and meal planning makes my life easier. Creating a capsule wardrobe Mornings are easier when I have fewer clothes, because they are the clothes I love to wear and feel like myself in. Having buffer time in the mornings Mornings matter. I want to give everyone space and time to have a smooth morning where they have found the one sweater they are willing to wear, ate food, and where they feel emotionally ready for the day. Having a weekly rhythm for my family I really love family rhythms because they give me peace of mind that there is time and space for everything to happen this week. Also, it gives the kids a lot of security to know what is routinely expected of them and what to expect from us. SIMPLIFYING IS WORTH THE WORK Simplifying is worth it because when our life feels simple, we feel in control. We don’t scramble around putting out fires, we feel like there is time and space for what we need and want in life. The Facebook group is live! If you are part of any Facebook groups you know they are a great place to ask questions, find support, share your wins and get accountability with your goals. Since there has been interest in starting a community group for the Simple on Purpose readers I’ve set up our community Facebook group. BUT, ONLY JOIN IF you want to be engaged in the conversations. In the spirit of keeping your life simple, don’t add another Facebook group to your digital life if you are just going to sit on the sidelines and not take part. If you are ready to join in, then we would love to chat with you there! Links mentioned: You Can Simplify Your Life Series Why Minimalism Works at Changing Your Life A Simple Hack to Make Meal Planning Easy 6 Unexpected Ways That Having Less Clothes Has Made Life Easier Family Rhythms + Free Worksheet Simple on Purpose Community TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook, or email me here. I wanted to wrap up my You Can Simplify Your Life series with things that make my life simpler. - Simple Life Living simple and on purpose is a very personalized thing. It means taking the time to find out what simple looks and feels like to you.
Simple Life
Living simple and on purpose is a very personalized thing. It means taking the time to find out what simple looks and feels like to you. It means setting your own vision and values and prioritizing your life/time/home/energy/money according to your vision and values.


 
When life is simpler we can SHOW UP AND ENJOY IT!
These are things that make my life simpler and I hope there are some tips and strategies in there for you to try.
5 things that make my life simpler

* Decluttering my space
Clearing the clutter from my home allowed me see I could have control over how I use my space. I saw the benefits of creating space for the home life I wanted. Decluttering helped me learn where and how to take control and make space in my life too.
* Meal planning for me and my people
Feeding myself well hasn’t come naturally and I’ve had to learn how to feed myself and my people, everyday, many times a day. I’m a big fan of planning what makes your life easier and meal planning makes my life easier.
* Creating a capsule wardrobe
Mornings are easier when I have fewer clothes, because they are the clothes I love to wear and feel like myself in.
* Having buffer time in the mornings
Mornings matter. I want to give everyone space and time to have a smooth morning where they have found the one sweater they are willing to wear, ate food, and where they feel emotionally ready for the day.
* Having a weekly rhythm for my family
I really love family rhythms because they give me peace of mind that there is time and space for everything to happen this week. Also, it gives the kids a lot of security to know what is routinely expected of them and what to expect from us.

SIMPLIFYING IS WORTH THE WORK
Simplifying is worth it because when our life feels simple, we feel in control. We don’t scramble around putting out fires, we feel like there is time and space for what we need and want in life.
The Facebook group is live!
If you are part of any Facebook groups you know they are a great place to ask questions, find support, share your wins and get accountability with your goals.

Since there has been interest in starting a community group for the Simple on Purpose readers I’ve set up our
community Facebook group.

BUT, ONLY JOIN IF you want to be engaged in the conversations. In the spirit of keeping your life simple, don’t add another Facebook group to your digital life if you are just going to sit on the sidelines and not take part.

If you are ready to join in, then we would love to chat with you there!
Links mentioned:

* You Can Simplify Your Life Series
* Why Minimalism Works at Changing Your Life
* A Simple Hack to Make Meal Planning Easy
* 6 Unexpected Ways That Having Less Clothes Has Made Life Easier
* Family Rhythms + Free Worksheet
* Simple on Purpose Community

TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME
Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on clean 12:36 33. How to simplify your life (Part 4 of the You Can Simplify Your Life Series) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss33/ Sat, 24 Aug 2019 01:29:41 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=9148 We're into part four of the You Can Simplify Your Life Series. Let’s take all this work and oozing self-awareness and make a plan on how to move forward.   Part Four of the YOU CAN SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE SERIES​ Read part one here Listen to part one here Read part two here Listen to part two here Read part three here Listen to part three here Simple life Today we are also wrapping up the YOU CAN SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE series! I want to tell you what has worked for me and offer it to you as a way you might simplify your own life. You can include as many/as little waffles, ugly cries in the tub, and outlander episodes as you see fit! How to simplify your life, step by step 1. Clear the clutter Once I decluttered my home I started decluttering my life. I could do this BECAUSE space was now created for the home and life I wanted. What distractions and clutter need to be cleared out to make space for the life you want? 2. Prioritize how you will use your resources Use your life vision and values to be a compass and a filter for you in the choices you want to make about how to use your resources. Commit to those choices even when they are against the grain. 3. Plan things that make your life easier Becoming a mom made me see how much more in control I am when I have a plan for my day or week. When there is a framework of what is happening and how, then I can have more freedom to fill my time and energy with fun things. What can you plan that will make your life easier? 4. Set rhythms to get things done We are actually in control of how our day and our week flows, so make sure to put some intention into the rhythms you DO want in your life. 5. Small steps, on purpose I’ve learned that it is more effective and lasting to focus on the little steps you can make. Through minimum baseline (give yourself a small task you can’t say no to), and to doing one thing a day your future self will thank you for—you can slowly and consistently readjust your life course to your new destination. Start small and move along, on purpose. 6. Enjoy it. I will say this point until the day the good Lord calls me home to where streets are lined with waffles: It is not WHAT you do, it is HOW you do it! What matters most is HOW YOU SHOW UP! If you simplify your life, declutter your home, print all the printables and check all the boxes but you are still complaining about your husband, grumbling about your life and stressed to the max by your kids, then what is this all even for? It is FOR YOU, so show up for it! I say this with love and understanding for what it is like to feel exhausted and frustrated and lost and messy. It is hard work to show up, with contentment and mindfulness. It takes a lot of work and practice. But it is always available to you! If you want some guidance through showing up for your life in better ways that reach out for a quick life coaching consult call to see if we would be a good fit together. I have some spaces opening up for the fall. Get the worksheets for PART FOUR of YOU CAN SIMPLIFY YOUR HOME   Links mentioned: You Can Simplify Your Life Series Part One (blog post) You Can Simplify Your Life Series Part One (podcast episode 30) You Can Simplify Your Life Series Part Two (blog post) You Can Simplify Your Life Series Part Two (podcast episode 31) You Can Simplify Your Life Series Part Three (blog post) You Can Simplify Your Life Series Part Three (podcast episode 32) Identity Clutter Plan Your Day, Change Your Life A Simple Hack to Make Meal Planning Easier How to Plan Your Summer on Purpose Brain Dump, Kid’s Clothes Storage, Minimum Baseline to Change Babits. Episode 3 parenting books that changed my mothering, your future self, #mayonpurpose instagram challenge. episode 21 Pre-Coaching Consult TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook, We're into part four of the You Can Simplify Your Life Series. Let’s take all this work and oozing self-awareness and make a plan on how to move forward.   Part Four of the YOU CAN SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE SERIES​ Read part one here

 
Part Four of the YOU CAN SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE SERIES​

*
Read part one here
* Listen to part one here
* Read part two here
* Listen to part two here
* Read part three here
* Listen to part three here

Simple life
Today we are also wrapping up the YOU CAN SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE series!
I want to tell you what has worked for me and offer it to you as a way you might simplify your own life. You can include as many/as little waffles, ugly cries in the tub, and outlander episodes as you see fit!
How to simplify your life, step by step
1. Clear the clutter
Once I decluttered my home I started decluttering my life. I could do this BECAUSE space was now created for the home and life I wanted. What distractions and clutter need to be cleared out to make space for the life you want?
2. Prioritize how you will use your resources
Use your life vision and values to be a compass and a filter for you in the choices you want to make about how to use your resources. Commit to those choices even when they are against the grain.
3. Plan things that make your life easier
Becoming a mom made me see how much more in control I am when I have a plan for my day or week. When there is a framework of what is happening and how, then I can have more freedom to fill my time and energy with fun things. What can you plan that will make your life easier?
4. Set rhythms to get things done
We are actually in control of how our day and our week flows, so make sure to put some intention into the rhythms you DO want in your life.
5. Small steps, on purpose
I’ve learned that it is more effective and lasting to focus on the little steps you can make. Through minimum baseline (give yourself a small task you can’t say no to), and to doing one thing a day your future self will thank you for—you can slowly and consistently readjust your life course to your new destination. Start small and move along, on purpose.
6. Enjoy it.
I will say this point until the day the good Lord calls me home to where streets are lined with waffles: It is not WHAT you do, it is HOW you do it! What matters most is HOW YOU SHOW UP!

If you simplify your life, declutter your home, print all the printables and check all the boxes but you are still complaining about your husband, grumbling about your life and stressed to the max by your kids, then what is this all even for?
It is FOR YOU, so show up for it!
I say this with love and understanding for what it is like to feel exhausted and frustrated and lost and messy. It is hard work to show up, with contentment and mindfulness. It takes a lot of work and practice. But it is always available to you!

If you want some guidance through showing up for your life in better ways that reach out for a quick life coaching consult call to see if we would be a good fit together. I have some spaces opening up for the fall.

Get the worksheets for PART FOUR of YOU CAN SIMPLIFY YOUR HOME


 
Links mentioned:

* You Can Simplify Your Life Series Part One (blog post)
* clean 15:44 32. When you don’t know what you want out of life (part 3 of You Can Simplify Your Life). https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss32/ Sat, 17 Aug 2019 01:20:26 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=9074 When you don't know how you want to show up in your daily life you won’t ever feel like you are being the person you WANT to be. You live with this tension like things aren’t right—like you aren’t enough. In part 3 of the You Can Simplify Your Life series we're pursuing life on purpose by working through what we want and deciding what kind of person we want to be along the way.   Part Three of the YOU CAN SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE SERIES​ Read part one here Listen to part one here Read part two here Listen to part two here Simple style Follow #moms30for30 I am really enjoying the 30for30 style challenge this summer. I needed it to give me some reminders that 30 items is A LOT OF CLOTHES! I don't think I've worn all 30 yet and we are halfway through. I have been sharing my outfits on Instagram if you want to follow along. Simple life When you don't know what you want in life This portion is my favourite because this is what really propelled me and Conor to really start setting out a vision for the life we wanted. This is the process of setting out your vision and values. I’ve been in this process for over five years, I life coach women on it, I think about it, I preach it, I wrote a book about it (the Life on Purpose workbook). WOMEN! FRIENDS! It is time to stop and ask yourself two things that will allow you to really start living the simpler, more purposeful life you crave. Question 1 WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE? Question 2 WHAT DO YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO FEEL LIKE? When we don’t know these things then we are at the mercy of our autopilot life. Autopilot is that rut we are in of the same thoughts, actions, reactions, and feelings we have each day. We aren’t working towards any bigger, empowering vision of the life we want to build into. We are just bobbing about in our daily life, hoping that our future self will somehow have it all figured out by then. I know when I started to ask these questions about what I wanted and who I wanted to be, with three small kids all at home, it felt daunting. But I had come to this point where I felt restless with my life, I felt like I was just surviving, I was tired, and just overwhelmed by looking at all the amazing things other women were doing with their lives. Over my years of pursuing life on purpose, I feel it has three steps: knowing what you want deciding what kind of person you want to be along the way making steps (from micro-steps to big goals) in that direction (we will cover this in PART FOUR!) So let's get started today with the first two This past spring I launched a workshop to guide you through this process of KNOWING YOUR VISION AND VALUES. Many of you had asked me to bring it back, so I'm happy to relaunch the replay as a freebie to help you with this portion of the YOU CAN SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE SERIES. This workshop is 45 minutes and it takes you through the entire vision and value setting process There are worksheets to follow along with or you can use the Life on Purpose Workbook This workshop is for those of you who are ready to TAKE THE TIME TO LISTEN TO YOURSELF The workshop includes time to actually put pen to paper so you will get the most out of it and end the session with your own values and vision laid out for you! To get access to the workshop and the worksheets, ​simply fill in the form below.   Links mentioned: #moms30for30 You Can Simplify Your Life Series Part One (blog post) You Can Simplify Your Life Series Part One (podcast episode 30) You Can Simplify Your Life Series Part Two (blog post) You Can Simplify Your Life Series Part Two (podcast episode 31) Getting Started with Intentional Living The Life on Purpose Workbook Parenting Books that Changed My Mothering, Your Future Self, #MayonPurpose Instagram Challenge, Episode 21 Choose Your Discomfort (Life Coach Advice on Making Uncomfortable Change in Your Life) When you don't know how you want to show up in your daily life you won’t ever feel like you are being the person you WANT to be. You live with this tension like things aren’t right—like you aren’t enough. -
In part 3 of the You Can Simplify Your Life series we're pursuing life on purpose by working through what we want and deciding what kind of person we want to be along the way.



 
Part Three of the YOU CAN SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE SERIES​

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Read part one here
* Listen to part one here
* Read part two here
* Listen to part two here

Simple style
Follow #moms30for30
I am really enjoying the 30for30 style challenge this summer. I needed it to give me some reminders that 30 items is A LOT OF CLOTHES! I don't think I've worn all 30 yet and we are halfway through. I have been sharing my outfits on Instagram if you want to follow along.
Simple life
When you don't know what you want in life
This portion is my favourite because this is what really propelled me and Conor to really start setting out a vision for the life we wanted. This is the process of setting out your vision and values.

I’ve been in this process for over five years, I life coach women on it, I think about it, I preach it, I wrote a book about it (the Life on Purpose workbook). WOMEN! FRIENDS! It is time to stop and ask yourself two things that will allow you to really start living the simpler, more purposeful life you crave.
Question 1
WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE?
Question 2
WHAT DO YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO FEEL LIKE?
When we don’t know these things then we are at the mercy of our autopilot life. Autopilot is that rut we are in of the same thoughts, actions, reactions, and feelings we have each day.

We aren’t working towards any bigger, empowering vision of the life we want to build into. We are just bobbing about in our daily life, hoping that our future self will somehow have it all figured out by then.

I know when I started to ask these questions about what I wanted and who I wanted to be, with three small kids all at home, it felt daunting. But I had come to this point where I felt restless with my life, I felt like I was just surviving, I was tired, and just overwhelmed by looking at all the amazing things other women were doing with their lives.
Over my years of pursuing life on purpose, I feel it has three steps:

* knowing what you want
* deciding what kind of person you want to be along the way
* making steps (from micro-steps to big goals) in that direction (we will cover this in PART FOUR!)

So let's get started today with the first two
This past spring I launched a workshop to guide you through this process of KNOWING YOUR VISION AND VALUES. Many of you had asked me to bring it back, so I'm happy to relaunch the replay as a freebie to help you with this portion of the YOU CAN SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE SERIES.

* This workshop is 45 minutes and it takes you through the entire vision and value setting process
* There are worksheets to follow along with or you can use the Life on Purpose Workbook
* This workshop is for those of you who are ready to TAKE THE TIME TO LISTEN TO YOURSELF
* The workshop includes time to actually put pen to paper so you will get the most out of it and end the session with your own values and vision laid out for you!

]]> Simple on Purpose clean 11:00 31. What is stopping you from having a simpler life? (Part 2 of You Can Simplify Your Life) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss31/ Sat, 03 Aug 2019 00:56:02 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8987 What hurdles are we up against that make having a simpler life difficult? In my years of pursuing LIFE ON PURPOSE, and in my experience life coaching women, I know that there can be a lot of "WHY NOTs" that pop up for us. They tell us a lot about our own limiting mindsets and obstacles that hold us back.   Follow #moms30for30 I am so excited that over 30 women have joined the challenge to wear 30 items for 30 days and learn about their style and their clothes and mindsets in it all. Some of these women are just posting pictures in our message group, some are sharing on Instagram. Catch my Instagram stories to see my epic Mid-30s Canadian Mom Outfit Selfies (almost always featuring a basket of laundry in the background).   Today we will focus on PART TWO of the You CAN Simplify Your Life series with the 10 Reasons Why Your Life is Not Simpler Read part one here Listen to part one here Simple Life Many of us want to have a simpler life, but we don't. What hurdles are we up against that make this change hard? REMEMBER, whatever is sticking out for you as a possible reason, that you aren't doing anything 'wrong'. You are just doing what you have always done and that is your brain's goal: Efficiency! Think what you've always thought, do what you've always done, live on auto-pilot and conserve energy. 10 Reasons Why Your Life is Not Simpler 1. We are buying into the glorification of "busy" We live in a culture of busy that tells us (moms!) that if you aren't busy you are "lazy." I think it all comes down to our motives for "being busy." I love to turn to a tool like the Enneagram for this because the Enneagram is so focused on our inner motives. 2. We don’t know what we want The day I realized I didn’t want this hand-me-down pre-fabricated template of what a successful life looks like, it felt like my life was a blank canvas. How many of us know what we REALLY want from our lives? (We will talk about this more next part of this series!) 3. We don’t know how to start If you have thought a lot about simplifying your life, you have probably also met a lot of internal resistance. What reasons are popping up for you about why it’s not the "right time"? In order to start something you need to feel willing, ready and able. 4. We don’t know how to maintain it I am the first one to advocate for making list and plans, but maintaining ANYTHING also needs motivation and strategy to maintain. (We will dig into this more in the final part of this series.) 5. We aren’t showing up well Our life will never ever feel simple or be simple until we can show up well for it: with feelings that are proactive, positive, and present. In all my experience as an adult woman, wife, life coach, friend, and mom I feel that everything comes down to this one thing: how we show up. (I will talk about this more in Part Three.) 6. We are making a statement If we say we want to make a change, but we almost live in a way that is the opposite we are probably making a statement to our own inner beliefs or to the expectations of others. 7. We don’t think our resources are important or precious We look at all our resources through a lens of how "renewable" or "precious" they are to us. Every resource is yours to be a good steward of, which resource feels most neglected? 8. We can’t say no to others Things feel noble when we are someone who "puts others first," but all this serving can still be a form of striving for security and acceptance. 9. We can’t say no to ourselves I’m not talking about "putting ourselves first." I am talking about having self-control and showing up for ourselves to actually follow through on the actions we know we want—the ones that give us life instead of distracting us from life. 10. We don’t see that we DO have control When we become aware that we actually DO have control, we also become aware that nobody else will ever do this for us. It is our responsibility, What hurdles are we up against that make having a simpler life difficult? In my years of pursuing LIFE ON PURPOSE, and in my experience life coaching women, I know that there can be a lot of "WHY NOTs" that pop up for us.


 
Follow #moms30for30
I am so excited that over 30 women have joined the challenge to wear 30 items for 30 days and learn about their style and their clothes and mindsets in it all. Some of these women are just posting pictures in our message group, some are sharing on Instagram. Catch my Instagram stories to see my epic Mid-30s Canadian Mom Outfit Selfies (almost always featuring a basket of laundry in the background).

 
Today we will focus on PART TWO of the You CAN Simplify Your Life series with the 10 Reasons Why Your Life is Not Simpler

* Read part one here
* Listen to part one here

Simple Life
Many of us want to have a simpler life, but we don't. What hurdles are we up against that make this change hard?
REMEMBER, whatever is sticking out for you as a possible reason, that you aren't doing anything 'wrong'. You are just doing what you have always done and that is your brain's goal: Efficiency! Think what you've always thought, do what you've always done, live on auto-pilot and conserve energy.

10 Reasons Why Your Life is Not Simpler
1. We are buying into the glorification of "busy"
We live in a culture of busy that tells us (moms!) that if you aren't busy you are "lazy." I think it all comes down to our motives for "being busy." I love to turn to a tool like the Enneagram for this because the Enneagram is so focused on our inner motives.
2. We don’t know what we want
The day I realized I didn’t want this hand-me-down pre-fabricated template of what a successful life looks like, it felt like my life was a blank canvas. How many of us know what we REALLY want from our lives? (We will talk about this more next part of this series!)
3. We don’t know how to start
If you have thought a lot about simplifying your life, you have probably also met a lot of internal resistance. What reasons are popping up for you about why it’s not the "right time"?
In order to start something you need to feel willing, ready and able.
4. We don’t know how to maintain it
I am the first one to advocate for making list and plans, but maintaining ANYTHING also needs motivation and strategy to maintain. (We will dig into this more in the final part of this series.)
5. We aren’t showing up well
Our life will never ever feel simple or be simple until we can show up well for it: with feelings that are proactive, positive, and present. In all my experience as an adult woman, wife, life coach, friend, and mom I feel that everything comes down to this one thing: how we show up. (I will talk about this more in Part Three.)
6. We are making a statement
If we say we want to make a change, but we almost live in a way that is the opposite we are probably making a statement to our own inner beliefs or to the expectations of others.
7. We don’t think our resources are important or precious
We look at all our resources through a lens of how "renewable" or "precious" they are to us. Every resource is yours to be a good steward of, which resource feels most neglected?
8. We can’t say no to others
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30. The core issue of making your life simpler (Part 1 of You Can Simplify Your Life) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss30/ Fri, 19 Jul 2019 20:09:15 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8931 Today's episode is part one of four about what simple living comes down to. It's a series about why we don’t have a simple life, how to determine what simple looks like to you and how to get started. By the way, I'm summarizing my post What Simple Living Really Comes Down To so if you want to dig into the details make sure to head over there once you're finished listening. Do you want to join in a #moms30for30? Read more about them here, see the Instagram hashtag, and message me on Instagram if you want to join in!   What Simple Living Comes Down To When you hear the term "a simple life," what springs to mind? I want to dig into WHAT IS simple living and how to know where your life is simple and where it isn’t. And, by the way, this isn’t all about moving the country, homeschooling and raising chickens. When you hear the term "a simple life" do you imagine a mom hanging laundry on the line and making homemade dinners foraged from her garden while her children read to each other in their screen-free home? This might be an ideal simple life to some, but let’s just bust that myth right now. That's not simple for everyone and YOU get to decide what simple is. What Would Make Your Life Simpler? Pay attention to how you answer this. Simple living comes down to is this one thing: How we manage our resources. Resources Time (your daily schedule, your family calendar, extracurricular activities, commitments, downtime, how do you TRULY spend your time?) Space (in your home, in your yard, in your cupboards, how is your space used?) Money (your regular household budget) Emotional energy (stressors, coping skills, mindfulness, self-awareness, relationships with others, relationship with yourself) Physical energy (running errands, driving people around, exercise, chores, social engagements, how do you fuel your body and how do you use your body?) Resources are those things we only have so much of. They are those things that are also the currency of our daily lives. They allow us to show up, and be, and do. What we crave is called "simple" but really it means we get to USE OUR RESOURCES in the ways we DESIRE TO LIVE. Simple living means removing the distractions and drains of our resources so we apply our resources to the life we truly want. why are we mismanaging our resources? So we can probably all see ways we that we are mismanaging our resources and left with not enough to live the life we want to live. I think there are a few reasons that lead up to this: We don't see we ARE in control of our lives and our resources We aren't listening to ourselves about what we want in life We don't really know how to get what we want In the coming weeks, we will dig into each of these points and walk through them together and hold hands and I'll whisper motivational messages to you. Yes, it will be meaningful and magical and hopefully, it will help you simplify your life. If you want to get emo and journal about this (you are my people!), then download the freebie journaling exercise to help you unpack some of this and reflect on how you are using your own resources. Links mentioned: What Simple Living Really Comes Down To Til We Have Just Enough Stuff Identity Clutter (How Clutter Prevents Our Personal Growth) Our Minimalist Family Home: Basement Before and After Real Reasons Why You Can't Finish Decluttering The Life on Purpose Workbook What is the Life You Want? How to Get that Feeling (Why Values Matter + Free Live Your Values Worksheet) TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook, or email me here.   Today's episode is part one of four about what simple living comes down to. It's a series about why we don’t have a simple life, how to determine what simple looks like to you and how to get started. By the way, What Simple Living Really Comes Down To so if you want to dig into the details make sure to head over there once you're finished listening.


Do you want to join in a #moms30for30?
Read more about them here, see the Instagram hashtag, and message me on Instagram if you want to join in!

 
What Simple Living Comes Down To
When you hear the term "a simple life," what springs to mind?

I want to dig into WHAT IS simple living and how to know where your life is simple and where it isn’t.
And, by the way, this isn’t all about moving the country, homeschooling and raising chickens.
When you hear the term "a simple life" do you imagine a mom hanging laundry on the line and making homemade dinners foraged from her garden while her children read to each other in their screen-free home?

This might be an ideal simple life to some, but let’s just bust that myth right now. That's not simple for everyone and YOU get to decide what simple is.
What Would Make Your Life Simpler?
Pay attention to how you answer this. Simple living comes down to is this one thing: How we manage our resources.
Resources

* Time (your daily schedule, your family calendar, extracurricular activities, commitments, downtime, how do you TRULY spend your time?)
* Space (in your home, in your yard, in your cupboards, how is your space used?)
* Money (your regular household budget)
* Emotional energy (stressors, coping skills, mindfulness, self-awareness, relationships with others, relationship with yourself)
* Physical energy (running errands, driving people around, exercise, chores, social engagements, how do you fuel your body and how do you use your body?)

Resources are those things we only have so much of. They are those things that are also the currency of our daily lives. They allow us to show up, and be, and do.
What we crave is called "simple" but really it means we get to USE OUR RESOURCES in the ways we DESIRE TO LIVE.

Simple living means removing the distractions and drains of our resources so we apply our resources to the life we truly want.
why are we mismanaging our resources?
So we can probably all see ways we that we are mismanaging our resources and left with not enough to live the life we want to live. I think there are a few reasons that lead up to this:

* We don't see we ARE in control of our lives and our resources
* We aren't listening to ourselves about what we want in life
* We don't really know how to get what we want

In the coming weeks, we will dig into each of these points and walk through them together and hold hands and I'll whisper motivational messages to you. Yes, it will be meaningful and magical and hopefully, it will help you simplify your life.
If you want to get emo and journal about this (you are my people!), then download the freebie journaling exercise to help you unpack some of this and reflect on how you are using your own resources.

Links mentioned:

* What Simple Living Really Comes Down To
* Til We Have Just Enough Stuff
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29. Birthdays on Purpose, Mindful in marriage, Love your summer wardrobe. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss29/ Sat, 06 Jul 2019 03:36:49 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8842 Thanks for joining me for another Simple Saturday. In this episode, I'm talking about how we approach birthdays on purpose, the time my husband and I forgot our anniversary (we were camping), how to be mindful about what's happening in your heart and mind and strategies to implement when you want to go buy all new clothes.   Simple Family | How we approach birthdays on purpose This past week was my daughter, Lenayah’s 7th birthday. I admire a mom who embraces the birthday theme, rents a space, and invites the whole class to come. I also have to respect the mom I am and know that this will turn me into a stress ball. But that is okay, we don't all have to do the same thing and I KNOW there are many ways I can make my kids feel celebrated and have a memorable birthday. We aim to give our kids gifts that are experiences, something homemade or something simple and exactly what they are interested in. For my daughter this year, we are sending her to horse camp. And since we KNOW that gifts and crafts are her love language, we made her a wooden horse (#notacraftblogger) and bought her some Spirit play horses. She loved it all. It's how we approach birthdays on purpose. I know we are a bit against the norm when it comes to birthdays, and it is not to say our way is correct and others are wrong. This is the way that is right for our family and I want to give all moms freedom to birthday from a place of peace and purpose because that allows you to show up and truly celebrate your loved one more freely and passionately. #bethemomyouare Simple Heart | Showing up in marriage means a truck load of mindfulness June is a very special month. It is the birth and marriage month of many friends. It is the birth month of Conor and Lenayah (birthdays on purpose). Also, it is our dating anniversary (15 years!) and our marriage anniversary (11 years). And it is when the peonies are blooming and we are contemplating if we will ever save up for air conditioning. How to be mindful about what is happening in your heart and mind This past week of us being on the road, camping and travelling with the kids have given me such underlying anxiety that it has been hard to enjoy the life in front of me. I could feel myself getting annoyed. This was me this week and I needed MINDFULNESS (I know it is a buzzword, but it is powerful) I had to take time alone and really drill down into what was happening in my brain. In fact, I had to coach myself. I asked things like: What am I feeling? When did I start feeling it? What am I making it mean? Is it true? (Very helpful on a bad day) What am I trying to get out of this situation? (Our motives are sneaky!) How is it making me act? (Probably not in a way that serves you well) What do I really want the most? (What do I value in my marriage—use the vision setting prompts to help you with this) How can I shift my thinking to empower myself and how I show up right now? If you are scared by this autopilot part of your brain that feels dark and musty and requiring some cleaning and restoration, know that you don’t need to run to therapy right now and fix it all. You just need to START WITH MINDFULNESS. Marriage is a topic that comes up with every single mom I coach, regardless of the other issues we are coaching on. If you want a free mini-session to work through a marriage struggle you are facing then book your call right here. Simple Style | How to love your summer wardrobe when you want to go buy all new clothes This past week I was packing for five days away. I put outfits in piles and put them into my bag. Then added a bit more, probably enough for double that now. I looked into my closet and realized I still lots left. I was taken back to the times I have done a #moms30for30 (30 items for 30 days) and how EVERY. SINGLE. TIME I re-learn that I do have so much already, I just need to get more creative with it. If you are feeling like your summer wardrobe needs t... Thanks for joining me for another Simple Saturday. In this episode, I'm talking about how we approach birthdays on purpose, the time my husband and I forgot our anniversary (we were camping), how to be mindful about what's happening in your heart and m...


 

Simple Family | How we approach birthdays on purpose
This past week was my daughter, Lenayah’s 7th birthday.

I admire a mom who embraces the birthday theme, rents a space, and invites the whole class to come. I also have to respect the mom I am and know that this will turn me into a stress ball. But that is okay, we don't all have to do the same thing and I KNOW there are many ways I can make my kids feel celebrated and have a memorable birthday.

We aim to give our kids gifts that are experiences, something homemade or something simple and exactly what they are interested in. For my daughter this year, we are sending her to horse camp. And since we KNOW that gifts and crafts are her love language, we made her a wooden horse (#notacraftblogger) and bought her some Spirit play horses. She loved it all.
It's how we approach birthdays on purpose.
I know we are a bit against the norm when it comes to birthdays, and it is not to say our way is correct and others are wrong. This is the way that is right for our family and I want to give all moms freedom to birthday from a place of peace and purpose because that allows you to show up and truly celebrate your loved one more freely and passionately.
#bethemomyouare
Simple Heart | Showing up in marriage means a truck load of mindfulness
June is a very special month. It is the birth and marriage month of many friends. It is the birth month of Conor and Lenayah (birthdays on purpose). Also, it is our dating anniversary (15 years!) and our marriage anniversary (11 years). And it is when the peonies are blooming and we are contemplating if we will ever save up for air conditioning.
How to be mindful about what is happening in your heart and mind
This past week of us being on the road, camping and travelling with the kids have given me such underlying anxiety that it has been hard to enjoy the life in front of me. I could feel myself getting annoyed. This was me this week and I needed MINDFULNESS (I know it is a buzzword, but it is powerful) I had to take time alone and really drill down into what was happening in my brain. In fact, I had to coach myself.
I asked things like:

* What am I feeling?
* When did I start feeling it?
* What am I making it mean?
* Is it true? (Very helpful on a bad day)
* What am I trying to get out of this situation? (Our motives are sneaky!)
* How is it making me act? (Probably not in a way that serves you well)
* What do I really want the most? (What do I value in my marriage—
use the vision setting prompts to help you with this)
* How can I shift my thinking to empower myself and how I show up right now?

If you are scared by this autopilot part of your brain that feels dark and musty and requiring some cleaning and restoration, know that you don’t need to run to therapy right now and fix it all. You just need to START WITH MINDFULNESS.
Marriage is a topic that comes up with every single mom I coach, regardless of the other issues we are coaching on. If you want a free mini-session to work through a marriage struggle you are facing then book your call right here.
Simple Style | How to love your summer wardrobe when you want to go buy all new clothes
This past week I was packing for five days away.]]> Simple on Purpose clean 16:35 28. How to plan your summer on purpose, family rhythms we have and how to set ones you love. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss28/ Sat, 22 Jun 2019 02:41:18 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8762 Part of the reason I'm planning my summer on purpose is I'm working on my efforts to ENJOY MY KIDS. And when there is a season change I know I need to take a hot minute and plan out a structure that makes sure fun is happening without me feeling overwhelmed or behind the ball. Ready to plan your summer on purpose? In this episode I'm sharing about the family rhythms we have in our house on a daily and weekly basis. I also have a worksheet for you! It will help you set rhythms for your family that are effective, fun and working towards the values and vision you have for your family. Simple Life | How to Plan Your Summer on Purpose My summer master plan is titled: “How To Summer With Kids and Enjoy This Time So You Aren’t Googling ‘How to petition for year-round school‘ After Two Weeks of Picking Up Popsicle Wrappers and Refereeing Sprinkler Fights.” Here's how I will put it into action without feeling like an understaffed kid’s camp director. Get my kids' input.If it was up to me we would sit on the deck eating nachos and reading novels all summer—but I want them to have a summer they are excited about too. So we have been talking lots about what they want to do and I’ve been adding it to a big list of ideas. Then I’m gonna plan out the big things I know are happening.This includes: swim lessons, the time at Grandmas, and the big events and outings we have planned with my bestie or with Conor when he’s off work. Then I have random chunks of days left.What I’m going to try is to theme my days. I’m gonna probably have a craft day, library day, science day, hike day, a nothing day, and a food day where they get to think of something to make and we buy the stuff for it. So if I’m looking at my calendar, I know we are gonna do maybe 5-8 science experiments. I’ll pick some and the kids will pick some and I’ll get the stuff for it. Simple Family | Family Rhythm Family rhythm is in the things you find yourselves doing each week; the routines, the activities, the rituals—all those things that now happen out of habit as a way of getting things done, or having fun, or unwinding. They are actually quite important to a family and to your kids. They provide consistency, comfort, belonging, expectations and a flow of getting things done. The things we do most often are what matter the most. (Side note: did you know this is how you spell rhythm? I've been spelling it rhythym my whole adult life!) Free Coaching on Decluttering I am working on a course to take you through the evaluation, planning and doing to RECLAIM YOUR HOME. I thought it would be so beneficial to add in some real coaching calls from people who are struggling with simplifying their space. So, I want to ask for volunteers of people who are willing to do a (free) 45 minute coaching call on these topics: Someone who HASN'T STARTED decluttering yet, but they are ready to get serious about it and need some motivation/clarity to get started Someone who is IN the process of decluttering and is feeling stuck/need motivation/facing hurdles And someone who is DONE decluttering and ready for the next steps to simplify their life I will accept a couple volunteers for each of these categories. The calls will be over SKYPE and will be recorded as part of course training material. You can remain anonymous and use a fake and fabulous made up name if you like. APPLY HERE FOR COACHING ON RECLAIMING YOUR HOME Links mentioned: When did I stop enjoying my kids? (blog post) When did I stop enjoying my kids? (podcast episode) Awesome Summer List: 2019 Sorta Awesome podcast about theming your days A year of family meetings How to build the culture of your family Plan your day, change your life Family Rhythms worksheet TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook, or email me here.   Part of the reason I'm planning my summer on purpose is I'm working on my efforts to ENJOY MY KIDS. And when there is a season change I know I need to take a hot minute and plan out a structure that makes sure fun is happening without me feeling overwh...


Ready to plan your summer on purpose?
In this episode I'm sharing about the family rhythms we have in our house on a daily and weekly basis. I also have a worksheet for you! It will help you set rhythms for your family that are effective, fun and working towards the values and vision you have for your family.
Simple Life | How to Plan Your Summer on Purpose
My summer master plan is titled: “How To Summer With Kids and Enjoy This Time So You Aren’t Googling ‘How to petition for year-round school‘ After Two Weeks of Picking Up Popsicle Wrappers and Refereeing Sprinkler Fights.”
Here's how I will put it into action without feeling like an understaffed kid’s camp director.

* Get my kids' input.If it was up to me we would sit on the deck eating nachos and reading novels all summer—but I want them to have a summer they are excited about too. So we have been talking lots about what they want to do and I’ve been adding it to a big list of ideas.
* Then I’m gonna plan out the big things I know are happening.This includes: swim lessons, the time at Grandmas, and the big events and outings we have planned with my bestie or with Conor when he’s off work.
* Then I have random chunks of days left.What I’m going to try is to theme my days. I’m gonna probably have a craft day, library day, science day, hike day, a nothing day, and a food day where they get to think of something to make and we buy the stuff for it. So if I’m looking at my calendar, I know we are gonna do maybe 5-8 science experiments. I’ll pick some and the kids will pick some and I’ll get the stuff for it.

Simple Family | Family Rhythm
Family rhythm is in the things you find yourselves doing each week; the routines, the activities, the rituals—all those things that now happen out of habit as a way of getting things done, or having fun, or unwinding.

They are actually quite important to a family and to your kids. They provide consistency, comfort, belonging, expectations and a flow of getting things done. The things we do most often are what matter the most.
(Side note: did you know this is how you spell rhythm? I've been spelling it rhythym my whole adult life!)
Free Coaching on Decluttering
I am working on a course to take you through the evaluation, planning and doing to RECLAIM YOUR HOME.

I thought it would be so beneficial to add in some real coaching calls from people who are struggling with simplifying their space. So, I want to ask for volunteers of people who are willing to do a (free) 45 minute coaching call on these topics:

* Someone who HASN'T STARTED decluttering yet, but they are ready to get serious about it and need some motivation/clarity to get started
* Someone who is IN the process of decluttering and is feeling stuck/need motivation/facing hurdles
* And someone who is DONE decluttering and ready for the next steps to simplify their life

I will accept a couple volunteers for each of these categories. The calls will be over SKYPE and will be recorded as part of course training material. You can remain anonymous and use a fake and fabulous made up name if you like.
APPLY HERE FOR COACHING ON RECLAIMING YOUR HOME
Links mentioned:

* When did I stop enjoying my kids? (blog post)
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27. Lessons from the first year of decluttering, live your values and live your vision. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss27/ Sat, 08 Jun 2019 04:45:16 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8703 Have you spent time decluttering your home? Decluttering WILL be an emotional process because it means separating the life you want from the life you are building by default. Moreover, decluttering is emotional because your eyes are opened to where you have been living on default and also what it has cost you or cost the world around you. In this episode of Simple Saturdays I share how I reframed my view on decluttering's role as well as some great freebies from the Life on Purpose workbook. Simple Home | Decluttering Here are 8 things I realized/learned/relearned from spending the year decluttering my family home: The line between ‘enough’ and ‘excess’ is easily crossed I’ve wasted so much money I’m filling space for the sake of filling space I’ve made so much waste This is all just a distraction Life is still messy It is a mindset, not an end goal It leads to more Simple Life | Life on Purpose Workbook I have some really great freebies I’m excited to share with you. To help you get started with setting out your LIFE ON PURPOSE, I took some of the content from the Life on Purpose workbook and condensed it into two starter worksheets. Links below. Links mentioned: Harlem Globetrotters People Are Awesome 5-Minute Crafts I Decluttered My Home for a Year, Here is What I Learned Identity Clutter Life on Purpose workbook Why Values Matter (free worksheet) Why Vision Setting Matters (free worksheet) Working Through Unhappiness in Motherhood, Life Coaching Steps for Handling a Bad Day. Bonus Q+A Episode 25 Having Personal Goals and Dreams While Mothering Small Kids. Bonus Q+A Episode 26 TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook, or email me here.   Have you spent time decluttering your home? Decluttering WILL be an emotional process because it means separating the life you want from the life you are building by default. Moreover, decluttering is emotional because your eyes are opened to where you...


Simple Home | Decluttering
Here are 8 things I realized/learned/relearned from spending the year decluttering my family home:

* The line between ‘enough’ and ‘excess’ is easily crossed
* I’ve wasted so much money
* I’m filling space for the sake of filling space
* I’ve made so much waste
* This is all just a distraction
* Life is still messy
* It is a mindset, not an end goal
* It leads to more

Simple Life | Life on Purpose Workbook
I have some really great freebies I’m excited to share with you. To help you get started with setting out your LIFE ON PURPOSE, I took some of the content from the Life on Purpose workbook and condensed it into two starter worksheets. Links below.
Links mentioned:



*
Harlem Globetrotters
* People Are Awesome
* 5-Minute Crafts
* I Decluttered My Home for a Year, Here is What I Learned
* Identity Clutter
* Life on Purpose workbook
* Why Values Matter (free worksheet)
* Why Vision Setting Matters (free worksheet)
* Working Through Unhappiness in Motherhood, Life Coaching Steps for Handling a Bad Day. Bonus Q+A Episode 25
* Having Personal Goals and Dreams While Mothering Small Kids. Bonus Q+A Episode 26



TO SEND IN YOUR QUESTION/TOUCH BASE WITH ME
Simply reply to the Simple Saturdays email, message me on Instagram, message me on Facebook, or email me here.

 

]]> Simple on Purpose clean 12:27 26. Having personal goals and dreams while mothering small kids. Bonus Q+A Episode https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss26/ Thu, 30 May 2019 18:13:25 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8691 In the last episode, I answered a reader question on feeling unhappiness in motherhood and gave life coaching advice on working through a bad day. (Find that here) In this episode, I will answer this great question: Right now I am struggling with motivation - for bigger goals for myself (and motivation in general). After I became a mom I had to shut down the BIG dreamer in me because it was taking away from me being able to be present and content with where I am now. So...it’s this conundrum...don’t want more than you can accomplish but want just enough that challenges you to stay motivated to grow and move towards those goals. If you had any input on this balancing act, I would sure appreciate it.   Links mentioned: Push and Pull of Motherhood (featured in Huffington Post) Swinging too far away from motherhood when you are trying to reclaim yourself 33 and Restless in Motherhood The first time we ever sat down and set out some vision for our life and family That time I decided to bring out the sewing machine Embroidering with my kids Enneagram 101 Facebook Instagram Email     In the last episode, I answered a reader question on feeling unhappiness in motherhood and gave life coaching advice on working through a bad day. (Find that here) In this episode, I will answer this great question: Right now I am struggling with motiv... In the last episode, I answered a reader question on feeling unhappiness in motherhood and gave life coaching advice on working through a bad day. (Find that here)
In this episode, I will answer this great question: Right now I am struggling with motivation - for bigger goals for myself (and motivation in general). After I became a mom I had to shut down the BIG dreamer in me because it was taking away from me being able to be present and content with where I am now. So...it’s this conundrum...don’t want more than you can accomplish but want just enough that challenges you to stay motivated to grow and move towards those goals. If you had any input on this balancing act, I would sure appreciate it.
 
Links mentioned:
Push and Pull of Motherhood (featured in Huffington Post)
Swinging too far away from motherhood when you are trying to reclaim yourself
33 and Restless in Motherhood
The first time we ever sat down and set out some vision for our life and family
That time I decided to bring out the sewing machine
Embroidering with my kids
Enneagram 101
Facebook
Instagram
Email

 
 

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25. Working through unhappiness in motherhood, life coaching steps for handling a bad day. Bonus Q+A Episode https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss25/ Thu, 30 May 2019 17:31:39 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8684   Answering a reader question: What you do when you feel like you want to cry, feel you're not doing what you plan to do? All your plans are a disaster? Your children are not listening or following the rules? In this episode I will answer this question and discuss the following points: How our judgements on feeling 'unhappiness' makes moving through it difficult Doubling down on the stress How we handle our 'negative emotions' Managing stress in motherhood Assessing your day to see what needs to shift Resetting with our kids while taking our own emotional responsibility Keeping a bad day bad or letting everyone move on Center in on the mom you want to be.  Links mentioned: Mom Martyr Life Coaching with Shawna In the next episode, I will answer Question 2 all about shutting down that big dreamer in your when you become a mom.      - Answering a reader question: What you do when you feel like you want to cry, feel you're not doing what you plan to do? All your plans are a disaster? Your children are not listening or following the rules? -
 

Answering a reader question: What you do when you feel like you want to cry, feel you're not doing what you plan to do? All your plans are a disaster? Your children are not listening or following the rules?

In this episode I will answer this question and discuss the following points:

* How our judgements on feeling 'unhappiness' makes moving through it difficult
* Doubling down on the stress
* How we handle our 'negative emotions'
* Managing stress in motherhood
* Assessing your day to see what needs to shift
* Resetting with our kids while taking our own emotional responsibility
* Keeping a bad day bad or letting everyone move on
* Center in on the mom you want to be. 

Links mentioned:

Mom Martyr

Life Coaching with Shawna

In the next episode, I will answer Question 2 all about shutting down that big dreamer in your when you become a mom. 



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24. Why minimalism changes lives, life coach advice on uncomfortable change, eye brows matter https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss24/ Sat, 25 May 2019 04:21:42 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8630 WHY does everyone say that minimalism changed their lives? A reader's story with decluttering and making space for the life that matters Eyebrows matter and simple makeup tips to help you Life coaching advice on uncomfortable change in our lives (health, decluttering, marriage, etc).    MENTIONED My pep talk on Instagram Stories “HAPPINESS IS AVAILABLE TO ME TODAY”-- look under the Mom on Purpose Highlights Catch up with the May On Purpose posts (even if you don’t participate, they are interesting to read through)   SIMPLE LIFE Why minimalism works at changing your life For all the talk we give to minimalism, it must make you wonder what the big deal is. Why do people rave about it and want to start blogs and podcasts all about? The reason you will often hear that it has changed their lives. I couldn’t agree more. But (in true over-thinker fashion) I started to ask WHY. Why does minimalism change our lives? LINKS MENTIONED: Six Types of Minimalists Read the blog post for WHY minimalism works at changing your life. Reader's story on making space for the life that matters (by Leisell)   (And if you have a story you want to share, email me and let’s talk!)   SIMPLE STYLE Eyebrows matter  LINKS MENTIONED: #moms30for30 Style Tips for the reluctant mom Grave’s disease (autoimmune thyroid condition) Brow School (by Maskcara) Natural filler (a simple way to fill with brown powder) The IT eyebrow pencil (my fave, it lasts forever - unless you drop it - and it stays on when you swim) The Sephora brow powder (it’s a good price and gives you a natural look)   LIFE COACHING Choose your discomfort  (read the transcribed post here) LINKS MENTIONED: How to really show up for your life WHY does everyone say that minimalism changed their lives? - A reader's story with decluttering and making space for the life that matters - Eyebrows matter and simple makeup tips to help you - Life coaching advice on uncomfortable change in our liv...
A reader's story with decluttering and making space for the life that matters

Eyebrows matter and simple makeup tips to help you

Life coaching advice on uncomfortable change in our lives (health, decluttering, marriage, etc). 


 
MENTIONED
My pep talk on Instagram Stories “HAPPINESS IS AVAILABLE TO ME TODAY”-- look under the Mom on Purpose Highlights

Catch up with the May On Purpose posts (even if you don’t participate, they are interesting to read through)

 
SIMPLE LIFE
Why minimalism works at changing your life
For all the talk we give to minimalism, it must make you wonder what the big deal is. Why do people rave about it and want to start blogs and podcasts all about? The reason you will often hear that it has changed their lives.

I couldn’t agree more.

But (in true over-thinker fashion) I started to ask WHY.

Why does minimalism change our lives?

LINKS MENTIONED:

Six Types of Minimalists

Read the blog post for WHY minimalism works at changing your life.

Reader's story on making space for the life that matters (by Leisell)

 

(And if you have a story you want to share, email me and let’s talk!)

 
SIMPLE STYLE
Eyebrows matter 
LINKS MENTIONED:

#moms30for30

Style Tips for the reluctant mom

Grave’s disease (autoimmune thyroid condition)

Brow School (by Maskcara)

Natural filler (a simple way to fill with brown powder)

The IT eyebrow pencil (my fave, it lasts forever - unless you drop it - and it stays on when you swim)

The Sephora brow powder (it’s a good price and gives you a natural look)

 
LIFE COACHING
Choose your discomfort 
(read the transcribed post here)

LINKS MENTIONED:

How to really show up for your life

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23. Identity Clutter, Abundance Mindset, Declutter tip, Oil Cleansing. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss23/ Fri, 10 May 2019 05:25:25 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8535 When we have so much stuff we lose track of ourselves. We have built up a false identity in THINGS.      SIMPLE HOME IDENTITY CLUTTER These things take up our space and cause us a lot of emotional, mental and physical burden.  We need to shift our mindsets from SCARCITY TO ABUNDANCE (there will always be enough for you) READ MORE HERE Also mentioned: the workbook on tolerations and the blog post about decision fatigue and choices   SIMPLE TIP We can't always spend a weekend decluttering. But we can declutter on the go. Keep a bag or box in your home to collect things you are ready to let go to the thrift.    SIMPLE WELLNESS OIL CLEANSING For almost 7 years I have not used face wash. Instead, I do the oil cleansing method. My sis in law told me about when I told her my skin was oily. The oil ABSORBS the oil without stripping moisture off your skin! READ MORE HERE   When we have so much stuff we lose track of ourselves. We have built up a false identity in THINGS.  -     SIMPLE HOME IDENTITY CLUTTER These things take up our space and cause us a lot of emotional, mental and physical burden.
 


 
SIMPLE HOME
IDENTITY CLUTTER
These things take up our space and cause us a lot of emotional, mental and physical burden.  We need to shift our mindsets from SCARCITY TO ABUNDANCE (there will always be enough for you) READ MORE HERE

* Also mentioned: the workbook on tolerations and the blog post about decision fatigue and choices

 
SIMPLE TIP
We can't always spend a weekend decluttering. But we can declutter on the go. Keep a bag or box in your home to collect things you are ready to let go to the thrift. 

 
SIMPLE WELLNESS
OIL CLEANSING
For almost 7 years I have not used face wash. Instead, I do the oil cleansing method.

My sis in law told me about when I told her my skin was oily. The oil ABSORBS the oil without stripping moisture off your skin! READ MORE HERE

 

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22. Mindsets for Tired Moms, A Quick Way to Simplify Your Life, the Currently List. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss22/ Fri, 26 Apr 2019 12:45:30 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8475 How I handled the lack of sleep with three kids under 4, a quick way to simplify your life, and a fun list of current things I'm loving and trying.    ++ simple family ++ When I was two babies in, sleep became such a focus for me. Of course, we were dealing with marriage issues and I was struggling to find value in my motherhood - so sleep seemed like the most appropriate thing to fixate on. I was tired all the time, I felt like I was failing at parenting, and I didn’t know how to solve these negative feelings There was something I learned by the time Dawson came along, three babies in, that I want to share to any mom in this stage. links mentioned: Mom Martyr The Sweet Sleep Facebook Live Mindsets for Tired Moms (and if you are very tired, seriously check out the Sweet Sleep Parenting Facebook group by my Sierra of Sweet Sleep Consulting).   ++ simple life ++ One of the quickest ways you can simplify ANY AREA of your life is to give yourself fewer choices. Related book: The Paradox of Choice So take any area of your life and give yourself fewer choices to make. Here are a few ways to try it out: Less clothes Read more: 6 Unexpected Ways That Having Less Clothes Has Made My Life Easier Less food Less toys Read more: What happened when I took away half of my kids’ toys Read more: Practical advice for purging kids’ toys Less activity Read the full post on areas of your life you can simplify with fewer choices, click here   ++ the currently list ++ EATING This Quinoa Thai Peanut Salad for lunch. I was having a few gluten free weeks to see if it helped some health issues, so I made this to have on hand for lunches USING The jumping juniper shampoo bar by LUSH. It was discontinued and brought back again. I love it because it is zero waste AND it helps me stretch my hair washing (I wash my hair about twice a week, read more here) READING Run Hide Repeat. A bestie recommended this book. Then I heard this authour on CBC talk about how her mom was really secretive and they moved around a lot. Then as an adult her mom and her childhood Pastor told her they were being hunted by the Mafia all these years. As she gets brought into this new secret she realizes it could all be a lie. It is GOOD (and Canadian!) DISCUSSING The Q&A A Day book. My SIL gave this to us, just in time for us to finish our 5 year One Line A Day book. We bring it out and ask a question at dinner. The kids love it and it brings up some interesting conversation. LISTENING TO the Abide App. This is a Christian meditation app. I am confused by what meditation means, but I’m seeing it means quieting your mind and just being open to what God wants to share with you. This app guides you through some really great questions to meditate on and it really helps keep you in the moment. RECONNECTING WITH My love of being outside. I went to college for Environmental Planning and we were outside EVERY DAY! I forgot how much I loved it all and hope to do more hikes with my bestie and the kids.   ++ May on Purpose ++ MAY 1st! Be on Instagram and join in for the Instagram photo a day #MayOnPurpose. The prompts are right here. It is such a great way to get real purposeful about how you use social media, and it gives me a chance to see what my Simple Saturday friends are up to and have these conversations with you on Instagram.   How I handled the lack of sleep with three kids under 4, a quick way to simplify your life, and a fun list of current things I'm loving and trying.    ++ simple family ++ When I was two babies in, sleep became such a focus for me.
How I handled the lack of sleep with three kids under 4, a quick way to simplify your life, and a fun list of current things I'm loving and trying. 




 
++ simple family ++
When I was two babies in, sleep became such a focus for me. Of course, we were dealing with marriage issues and I was struggling to find value in my motherhood - so sleep seemed like the most appropriate thing to fixate on. I was tired all the time, I felt like I was failing at parenting, and I didn’t know how to solve these negative feelings

There was something I learned by the time Dawson came along, three babies in, that I want to share to any mom in this stage.
links mentioned:
Mom Martyr

The Sweet Sleep Facebook Live

Mindsets for Tired Moms

(and if you are very tired, seriously check out the Sweet Sleep Parenting Facebook group by my Sierra of Sweet Sleep Consulting).

 
++ simple life ++
One of the quickest ways you can simplify ANY AREA of your life is to give yourself fewer choices.

Related book: The Paradox of Choice

So take any area of your life and give yourself fewer choices to make. Here are a few ways to try it out:
Less clothes
Read more: 6 Unexpected Ways That Having Less Clothes Has Made My Life Easier
Less food
Less toys
Read more: What happened when I took away half of my kids’ toys

Read more: Practical advice for purging kids’ toys
Less activity
Read the full post on areas of your life you can simplify with fewer choices, click here
 
++ the currently list ++
EATING

This Quinoa Thai Peanut Salad for lunch. I was having a few gluten free weeks to see if it helped some health issues, so I made this to have on hand for lunches

USING

The jumping juniper shampoo bar by LUSH. It was discontinued and brought back again.

I love it because it is zero waste AND it helps me stretch my hair washing (I wash my hair about twice a week,  clean 15:09
21. Parenting books that changed my mothering, your future self, #MayOnPurpose Instagram challenge. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss21/ Sat, 13 Apr 2019 05:40:57 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8408 Three parenting books and why I loved them, how to support your "future self" (a lesson from your nerdy life coach (me!)), connect with me on Instagram in the Photo a Day challenge   ++ simple family ++ My parenting has been all over the map in my humble 8 years of doing it. I have failed and learned and when I got the hang of something, things would change. I am far from a parenting expert, but as I have relied on other moms to do with me, I will take the opportunity to share what has worked for me in my mothering journey. I'm sharing THREE BOOKS THAT CHANGED MY MOTHERING right here.  My highlights: NEVER SAY NO Raising Big-Picture Kids (see it here) This book helps me say yes to the opportunities my kids have to practice who they are and how they show up in the world.  We all have that little creative and curious voice inside - we all have probably shut it down over time. I know I shut it down in childhood and then in high school looked to others to be that voice. Then I became and adult and worked hard to unearth that voice and tune my ears to listen closer to my own heart.  RAISING AN EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT CHILD (by John Gottman! Find it here) This one was so impactful for me that I wrote a whole blog post about it. It transformed a relationship with one of my kids - You can read it here. This book showed me how I was disciplining, dismissing or avoiding my kid's negative emotions and ways I could actually get closer to them and help coach them through these emotions and process them in healthier ways.   -- read three books that changed my mothering right here   ++ simple life ++ I told my life coaching client the same thing I needed to hear, “your future self has whatever you give her today”. She doesn’t have some magical wisdom or quick fix or grand inheritance that suddenly made life what you dreamed of. She has the hard work you put in now. Listen to how I approached this in motherhood with three small kids.    ++ simple community ++ I will be hosting a photo a day challenge on Instagram for the month of MAY. Will you join me? Click here to view and get a copy of the photo prompts.           Three parenting books and why I loved them, how to support your "future self" (a lesson from your nerdy life coach (me!)), connect with me on Instagram in the Photo a Day challenge -   ++ simple family ++


 
++ simple family ++
My parenting has been all over the map in my humble 8 years of doing it. I have failed and learned and when I got the hang of something, things would change.

I am far from a parenting expert, but as I have relied on other moms to do with me, I will take the opportunity to share what has worked for me in my mothering journey. I'm sharing
THREE BOOKS THAT CHANGED MY MOTHERING right here. 

My highlights:
NEVER SAY NO
Raising Big-Picture Kids
(see it here)

This book helps me say yes to the opportunities my kids have to practice who they are and how they show up in the world. 

We all have that little creative and curious voice inside - we all have probably shut it down over time. I know I shut it down in childhood and then in high school looked to others to be that voice. Then I became and adult and worked hard to unearth that voice and tune my ears to listen closer to my own heart. 
RAISING AN EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT CHILD
(by John Gottman! Find it here)

This one was so impactful for me that I wrote a whole blog post about it. It transformed a relationship with one of my kids - You can read it here.

This book showed me how I was disciplining, dismissing or avoiding my kid's negative emotions and ways I could actually get closer to them and help coach them through these emotions and process them in healthier ways. 
 -- read three books that changed my mothering right here
 
++ simple life ++
I told my life coaching client the same thing I needed to hear, “your future self has whatever you give her today”. She doesn’t have some magical wisdom or quick fix or grand inheritance that suddenly made life what you dreamed of. She has the hard work you put in now.

Listen to how I approached this in motherhood with three small kids. 

 
++ simple community ++
I will be hosting a photo a day challenge on Instagram for the month of MAY. Will you join me? Click here to view and get a copy of the photo prompts.

 



 

 

 

 ]]> Simple on Purpose clean 13:29 20. Q+A (Creating Space, Capsule Wardrobe, Decluttering with Kids, Family Meetings, Being Creative) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss20/ Sat, 06 Apr 2019 03:19:11 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8375 How to 'create space' when you are a mom with side hustle, decluttering kids' stuff, how to start family meetings, how to be more creative without it feeling like a chore.  Welcome to a bonus Q+A episode of Simple Saturdays . I am sharing the As to some of your Qs.     LIFE ON PURPOSE: My current dilemma is how do I fit it all in? I work 40+ hours a week, love on my three boys, try to get to the gym three times a week. I am up at 4:30 every morning to work on my side hustle and fall into bed every night. Where/how do I "create space"? Yes, I would be asking you the same question, where do you fit it all in? One thing that I am seeing is that you have a side hustle going. Which many people start as a way to eventually become a full-time job. If this is the case for you then it seems like this is a very intense season for you where you are trying to build up a business as well as still doing your day job. Side hustles actually suck when you have kids and a day job. It takes a lot of boundaries to protect these different areas of your life. There are a lot of people telling you to build up your side hustle but they don’t often tell you that the rest of your life can suffer from it if we don’t get really intentional about it. BUT when the side hustle is helping us build up the life we want to be living they are something that needs our time and attention. Think about the other really demanding seasons of your life (new job, school, new baby) and the areas of your life that you had to put on the back burner for a bit. When we have these really intense times, we do have to make sacrifices. So my advice to you is to firstly, become aware about what you are sacrificing and take ownership of that I know, it isn’t fun. But there is a saying: we can do anything but we can’t do everything. You are in a season where you have to make choices about where you will spend your time. And if you want to create more space, something else has to go. If your schedule is too much, you have to give yourself permission to make sacrifices. maybe you don’t go to the gym one morning, or you are making everyone frozen pizzas for a week, or you hire a babysitter to come over for a Saturday morning. But own it. During this time, stay present and own your decisions that are helping you build up the life you want. An approach you might want to take is from the book Pick Three by Randi Zuckerberg. She divides life into five categories: work, sleep, family, friends and fitness. She says, in a perfect world, we would all do every one of those things every day. But her book is the encouragement to pick three things to focus on each day and rotate them so your week has some of everything in it. There is no secret I can offer you to create space, because it really sounds like there is no space. There is no trick to it, it is just the number of hours in the day and how we fill them. We must choose, we must make choices. We must own those choices.  Which brings me to my last point. Keep the end in mind. Get really clear about what you are doing and why it matters to you, and to the world. When we lose sight of our mission, we lose steam and we start getting restless. Keep your mission in the front of your mind. Get back to why this all matters to you and what the benefits of this hard season will be.   SIMPLE HOME: How do I declutter kids’ stuff? I have so much to say here,  but the major thing I have learned is to model it for them. They need to see us doing it and see the benefits. They need to see it is a way of managing stuff.  It depends on their age if you do it for them or let them do it.  About age 5 and under you can probably do it for them.  When they get older you want to start giving them the responsibility to manage their own stuff.  This is a skill they need to learn, with guidance and opportunities to practice.  If you do it with them it will be like trainin... How to 'create space' when you are a mom with side hustle, decluttering kids' stuff, how to start family meetings, how to be more creative without it feeling like a chore.  - Welcome to a bonus Q+A episode of Simple Saturdays .
Welcome to a bonus Q+A episode of Simple Saturdays . I am sharing the As to some of your Qs.




 


 
LIFE ON PURPOSE: My current dilemma is how do I fit it all in? I work 40+ hours a week, love on my three boys, try to get to the gym three times a week. I am up at 4:30 every morning to work on my side hustle and fall into bed every night. Where/how do I "create space"?

* Yes, I would be asking you the same question, where do you fit it all in?
* One thing that I am seeing is that you have a side hustle going. Which many people start as a way to eventually become a full-time job. If this is the case for you then it seems like this is a very intense season for you where you are trying to build up a business as well as still doing your day job.
* Side hustles actually suck when you have kids and a day job. It takes a lot of boundaries to protect these different areas of your life. There are a lot of people telling you to build up your side hustle but they don’t often tell you that the rest of your life can suffer from it if we don’t get really intentional about it. BUT when the side hustle is helping us build up the life we want to be living they are something that needs our time and attention.
* Think about the other really demanding seasons of your life (new job, school, new baby) and the areas of your life that you had to put on the back burner for a bit. When we have these really intense times, we do have to make sacrifices. So my advice to you is to firstly, become aware about what you are sacrificing and take ownership of that
* I know, it isn’t fun. But there is a saying: we can do anything but we can’t do everything.
* You are in a season where you have to make choices about where you will spend your time. And if you want to create more space, something else has to go.
* If your schedule is too much, you have to give yourself permission to make sacrifices. maybe you don’t go to the gym one morning, or you are making everyone frozen pizzas for a week, or you hire a babysitter to come over for a Saturday morning.
* But own it. During this time, stay present and own your decisions that are helping you build up the life you want.
* An approach you might want to take is from the book Pick Three by Randi Zuckerberg. She divides life into five categories: work, sleep, family, friends and fitness. She says, in a perfect world, we would all do every one of those things every day. But her book is the encouragement to pick three things to focus on each day and rotate them so your week has some of everything in it.
* There is no secret I can offer you to create space, because it really sounds like there is no space. There is no trick to it, it is just the number of hours in the day and how we fill them. We must choose, we must make choices. We must own those choices. 
* Which brings me to my last point. Keep the end in mind.
* Get really clear about what you are doing and why it matters to you, and to the world.
* When we lose sight of our mission, we lose steam and we start getting restless.
* Keep your mission in the front of your mind.
* Get back to why this all matters to you and what the benefits of this hard season will be.

 
SIMPLE HOME: How do I declutter kids’ stuff?

I have so much to say here,  but the major thing I have learned is to model it for them. They need to see us doing it and see the benefits.]]>
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19. Tips to get stuff done, when goals don’t work, recently decluttered (with kids). https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss19/ Sat, 30 Mar 2019 03:55:53 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8350 Productivity and practical tips for moms, decluttering with kids, when goals and habits don't work     ++ what do you think? ++ Before we jump in, I want to remind you guys about the Reader Feedback Survey. I want to thank the handful of you that have already done this - and remind the other (thousands) of you that I would relish in your feedback! (See what I did there, that is a mama-jedi-mind trick - but I know you guys are out there and I really value your input!) Your feedback helps me know how best to plan out my year ahead and show up with the content you need! Plus, it is always nice to hear some feedback.   ++ recently decluttered ++ Continual decluttering is part of our life around here.  We may not always purge a lot, but we do get rid of what isn’t needed, take an inventory of what is there and organize things (which means we put them back in their proper homes.) These past couple weeks I decluttered . . . My daughter’s room. Usually the kids clean their rooms on Saturdays. But her room felt like it needed extra help, which she always asks for. So helped her work through a mountain of stuff in her bedroom.  I view it as practice for her to learn how to declutter. She wants to keep everything, but with practice she is able to let go of more things each time we do this.   My bathroom ensuite Anyone who has a private ensuite off their bedroom knows that this is the inner sanctum. You don’t enter another woman’s ensuite unless you have been present while she gave birth or are on the same cycle. Cause what happens in an ensuite? Everything and nothing. It is where everything happens to get ready for the day and then it is forgotten about. Covered in a layer of hair products and q-tips. I understand I might be alone on having an ensuite I never get around to cleaning. But I did this week! And I added a tray to hold all the little lotions that I think will delay wrinkles (they don’t). It feels more put together with a simple tray here. And it keeps me from bringing more stuff onto the counter. It won’t fit in the tray.   ++ simple home ++ Let’s talk about all the chores, errands, tasks that we moms want to get done in our day. . . . Now let’s talk about how it feels when we sit on our favourite dent in the couch and turn on the Food Network right after lunch. Yeah, getting stuff done is hard! BUT we know it is so important for us to feel like we have been productive. As moms we want to know we are effective at the job before us. We also know it is important to have the results of errands that are completed and home that feels clear and clean. I’ve tried tricks to getting stuff done: calendar alerts, detailed time table, mega to-do lists. They didn’t work for me, but these tips I’m sharing have worked for me. There are 15 practical tips I have in this new blog post . On the podcast I'm sharing my favourites and how it works with kids around.   ++ simple life ++ Knowing your life vision is something I am so passionate about. If you watched the Values and Vision workshop, or have the Life on Purpose workbook - you know that the power in knowing your vision is that you have a destination, something you are working towards. So often we want to take some action in our life so set some goals and try to change habits, and they don’t work. We weren’t really invested in them, or we fizzle out, or we finish them and still feel unsatisfied about our life. We have been really productive, on the wrong things or in the wrong ways. Check out this recent post where I talk about how our productivity needs a purpose. AND IF YOU DO HAVE A LIFE ON PURPOSE WORKBOOK - make sure to sign up for the free email bonuses right here!   ++ stay tuned ++ Here are a couple of fun things I’ve been working on: The Q&A podcast episode I asked you to send me your questions and I will start working through them. Stay tuned for a bonus podcast episode (on April 6th) where I will ... Productivity and practical tips for moms, decluttering with kids, when goals and habits don't work -     ++ what do you think? ++ Before we jump in, I want to remind you guys about the Reader Feedback Survey.


 


 


++ what do you think? ++
Before we jump in, I want to remind you guys about the Reader Feedback Survey. I want to thank the handful of you that have already done this - and remind the other (thousands) of you that I would relish in your feedback! (See what I did there, that is a mama-jedi-mind trick - but I know you guys are out there and I really value your input!)



Your feedback helps me know how best to plan out my year ahead and show up with the content you need! Plus, it is always nice to hear some feedback.

 
++ recently decluttered ++
Continual decluttering is part of our life around here.  We may not always purge a lot, but we do get rid of what isn’t needed, take an inventory of what is there and organize things (which means we put them back in their proper homes.)

These past couple weeks I decluttered . . .
My daughter’s room.
Usually the kids clean their rooms on Saturdays. But her room felt like it needed extra help, which she always asks for. So helped her work through a mountain of stuff in her bedroom. 

I view it as practice for her to learn how to declutter. She wants to keep everything, but with practice she is able to let go of more things each time we do this.

 
My bathroom ensuite
Anyone who has a private ensuite off their bedroom knows that this is the inner sanctum. You don’t enter another woman’s ensuite unless you have been present while she gave birth or are on the same cycle. Cause what happens in an ensuite? Everything and nothing. It is where everything happens to get ready for the day and then it is forgotten about. Covered in a layer of hair products and q-tips.

I understand I might be alone on having an ensuite I never get around to cleaning. But I did this week!

And I added a tray to hold all the little lotions that I think will delay wrinkles (they don’t). It feels more put together with a simple tray here. And it keeps me from bringing more stuff onto the counter. It won’t fit in the tray.
 
++ simple home ++
Let’s talk about all the chores, errands, tasks that we moms want to get done in our day. . . . Now let’s talk about how it feels when we sit on our favourite dent in the couch and turn on the Food Network right after lunch.

Yeah, getting stuff done is hard! BUT we know it is so important for us to feel like we have been productive. As moms we want to know we are effective at the job before us. We also know it is important to have the results of errands that are completed and home that feels clear and clean.

I’ve tried tricks to getting stuff done: calendar alerts, detailed time table, mega to-do lists. They didn’t work for me, but these tips I’m sharing have worked for me.

There are 15 practical tips I have in this new blog post . On the podcast I'm sharing my favourites and how it works with kids around.

 
++ simple life ++
Knowing your life vision is something I am so passionate about. If you watched the Values and Vision workshop, or have the Life on Purpose workbook - you know that the power in knowing your vision is that you have a destination, something you are working towards.

So often we want to take some action in our life so set some goals and try to change habits, and they don’t work.]]>
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18. How to start LIFE ON PURPOSE (values, vision, goals), styling an outfit, the enneagram replay. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss18/ Sat, 16 Mar 2019 04:16:50 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8266 Routine decluttering, get started with your life on purpose, styling an outfit, the enneagram workbook bonuses ++ recently decluttered ++ The initial decluttering of our house five years ago was sure dramatic. Now we are in the routine cleaning of places (decluttering, putting things back to their proper homes, recycling broken and useless stuff) It is important because it helps us maintain the hard work we put in. It also helps reacquaint ourselves with our things and take an inventory of what we do have.  PHOTOS INCLUDED IN THE SIMPLE SATURDAYS EMAIL - to join in the email, subscribe at the bottom of this page.  My medicine cabinet. There were expired ones and ones I didn’t really use that I am returning to the pharmacist for disposal. There were also things that didn’t belong in the cupboard (spices, candy stashes, etc.)  My closet. I’m obviously not here to impress you with the most Pinterest-worthy closet. I store clothes to let go of in the closet (purging as I get dressed in the mornings), as well as all the laundry baskets and apparently a broken guitar…...So I needed to clear out the mess on the floor.  The kitchen shelf. This shelf in the kitchen becomes this weird holding pen for random items (much like our bedroom dresser). It is so easy to spend 10 minutes here taking things away that don’t belong and putting them in their right home.   ++ simple life ++ This past week I hosted my first online workshop called KNOWING YOUR VISION AND VALUES. This is based on the Life on Purpose workbook. It is, in my opinion, the first step in living your life on purpose. Life on Purpose is what I have been digging into for the past five years and I have found that SETTING GOALS will not be enough. If you want to really live your life on purpose, you need to start with your vision and values.  Then you can set goals that have longevity and effectiveness and are naturally motivating.  You can access the workshop replay right here:   IF YOU BOUGHT A LIFE ON PURPOSE WORKBOOK and you haven’t cracked it open yet - this workshop will help you put a pen to paper in that workbook. You can follow along the workshop using the workbook or the FREE WORKSHEETS provided to you.    ++ simple style ++ Fashion was something that was daunting to me. Then when I had my second baby, I found myself spending a lot of midnight nursing session scrolling Pinterest. I was pinning cute outfits, reading fashion blogs, just enjoying the virtual experience. So, I started to get dressed each day. I started doing the  I started to try new things and I found that I was enjoying it. Maybe at the time it felt like the one thing I could possibly control and enjoy in my rocky life. #moms30for30 (blog posts) (instagram hashtag) Style for the Reluctant Mom series Wearing Clothes vs Wearing an Outfit (read the post here)   ++ simple heart ++ The Enneagram isn’t about personality, it is about the story we tell ourselves, and our motives, and how we navigate the world because of these two things. There are nine Enneagram types and knowing your type can give you so much insight into yourself - your stress habits and your strengths.  I recommend EVERYONE learn their type! You can listen to the podcast or watch the video right here.   ++ what would you like more of? ++ It has been a year since the last Reader Feedback Survey and they are so valuable to me. They help me understand what is helping you and what you need more of/less of. They help me direct my energy and time in planning out the year ahead and how I can best serve you! So please take a moment right now and fill out this (anonymous) survey.   ++ do you have the life on purpose workbook? ++ Did you purchase a LIFE on PURPOSE orkbook? Click here to sign up for your free bonus goodies.           Routine decluttering, get started with your life on purpose, styling an outfit, the enneagram workbook bonuses ++ recently decluttered ++ The initial decluttering of our house five years ago was sure dramatic.

++ recently decluttered ++
The initial decluttering of our house five years ago was sure dramatic. Now we are in the routine cleaning of places (decluttering, putting things back to their proper homes, recycling broken and useless stuff) It is important because it helps us maintain the hard work we put in. It also helps reacquaint ourselves with our things and take an inventory of what we do have. 
PHOTOS INCLUDED IN THE SIMPLE SATURDAYS EMAIL - to join in the email, subscribe at the bottom of this page. 
My medicine cabinet. There were expired ones and ones I didn’t really use that I am returning to the pharmacist for disposal. There were also things that didn’t belong in the cupboard (spices, candy stashes, etc.) 

My closet. I’m obviously not here to impress you with the most Pinterest-worthy closet. I store clothes to let go of in the closet (purging as I get dressed in the mornings), as well as all the laundry baskets and apparently a broken guitar…...So I needed to clear out the mess on the floor. 

The kitchen shelf. This shelf in the kitchen becomes this weird holding pen for random items (much like our bedroom dresser). It is so easy to spend 10 minutes here taking things away that don’t belong and putting them in their right home.

 
++ simple life ++
This past week I hosted my first online workshop called KNOWING YOUR VISION AND VALUES. This is based on the Life on Purpose workbook. It is, in my opinion, the first step in living your life on purpose.

Life on Purpose is what I have been digging into for the past five years and I have found that SETTING GOALS will not be enough. If you want to really live your life on purpose, you need to start with your vision and values.  Then you can set goals that have longevity and effectiveness and are naturally motivating. 

You can access the workshop replay right here:

 

IF YOU BOUGHT A LIFE ON PURPOSE WORKBOOK and you haven’t cracked it open yet - this workshop will help you put a pen to paper in that workbook. You can follow along the workshop using the workbook or the FREE WORKSHEETS provided to you. 

 
++ simple style ++
Fashion was something that was daunting to me. Then when I had my second baby, I found myself spending a lot of midnight nursing session scrolling Pinterest. I was pinning cute outfits, reading fashion blogs, just enjoying the virtual experience.

So, I started to get dressed each day. I started doing the 

I started to try new things and I found that I was enjoying it. Maybe at the time it felt like the one thing I could possibly control and enjoy in my rocky life.
#moms30for30 (blog posts) (instagram hashtag)
Style for the Reluctant Mom series
Wearing Clothes vs Wearing an Outfit (read the post here)
 
++ simple heart ++
The Enneagram isn’t about personality, it is about the story we tell ourselves, and our motives, and how we navigate the world because of these two things.

There are nine Enneagram types and knowing your type can give you so much insight into yourself - your stress habits and your strengths.  I recommend EVERYONE learn their type!]]>
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Enneagram 101 (what is it and what are the nine types) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/enneagram101/ Tue, 05 Mar 2019 20:37:28 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8153 Over the years I have talked (and talked and talked) about the Enneagram. It has been a personal growth tool that has helped me make such positive changes in my own life! I love it so much that I also use it with my life coaching clients.   I've been asked by different people to share some info on the basics to help people get started with learning their own Enneagram type.   So I shared this video on Facebook and wanted to give it a place on my site where you could listen to it in podcast form, watch the video, or read through it. Whatever you prefer, it is a content smorgasbord!  LISTEN TO THE PODCAST WATCH THE VIDEO   READ THE POST Type 1 - The Reformer/Perfectionist Concerned with good wholesome, right and wrong. Motivated by the desire to ‘be good’, the need to live life ‘the right way’ At their best: Ethical, reliable, standards, self-controlled At their worst: Judgmental, dogmatic, critical They may not be a perfectionist in the traditional sense of lining up their environment,  but struggle with this internal critic causing anxiety of things they 'should do' They are probably unaware that they push people away with judgements about what the world should look like and how they or others should behave. When they are healthy they move to the traits of a Type 7 (this is called the direction of integration). When they are stressed they move to the traits of a Type 4Healthy 7 (the direction of disintegration) We need 1s because they are our moral compass and remind us to maintain healthy standards in our lives   Type 2 - The Helper Motivated by the need to be needed, need to feel they are lovable and valuable At their best:  loving, generous, enthusiastic, warm, giving At their worst: martyr, over-accommodating, indirect A two may not realize that they are putting themselves in a service role to others as a way to feel valuable. They may not even realize that through all of their serving they are creating a relationship where they are needed and hoping to also be served in return. When they feel taken advantage of they can feel a lot of anger and resentment which shows up as martyrdom.  Because they are so busy helping and supporting others, they often put themselves on the back burner. Healthy move towards type 4 Stress move towards type 8 We need 2s because they remind us that those around us are in need and we can serve them and show up for them in many different ways   Type 3 - The Achiever/The Performer Motivated by the need to be successful, believe that their value lies in their achievements At their best: optimistic, practical, efficient, they get things done At their worst: narcissistic, workaholic, deceptive in times where their ability to succeed is at risk or to maintain their image A struggle the three will have is identifying who they are from what they do. They have difficulties getting in touch with their own thoughts and feelings - success comes at the expense of your feelings. In Stress move to type 9 In health move to type 6 We need 3s because they remind us that setting and accomplishing our goals is a rewarding and worthwhile thing   Type Four – The Individualist/The Romantic/The Creative Motivated by the need to be themselves, to understand their feelings and be understood At their best: warm and heart-centred, introspective, they want to contribute something unique to the world, they are willing to deal with the hard stuff to find the deeper purpose At their worst: depressed, self-conscious, they find it hard to separate the feelings from the facts, because they are focussed on this higher meaning in life they can sometimes let them be a gap between themselves and others and can silo themselves Fours may not realize how they get wrapped up in themselves and their own thoughts. When healthy they move to type 1 When in stress they move to type 2 We need 4s because they can walk us through suf... Over the years I have talked (and talked and talked) about the Enneagram. It has been a personal growth tool that has helped me make such positive changes in my own life! I love it so much that I also use it with my life coaching clients.   - Over the years I have talked (and talked and talked) about the Enneagram. It has been a personal growth tool that has helped me make such positive changes in my own life!
I love it so much that I also use it with my life coaching clients.


 


I've been asked by different people to share some info on the basics to help people get started with learning their own Enneagram type.

 

So I shared this video on Facebook and wanted to give it a place on my site where you could listen to it in podcast form, watch the video, or read through it. Whatever you prefer, it is a content smorgasbord! 
LISTEN TO THE PODCAST


WATCH THE VIDEO
 

READ THE POST
Type 1 - The Reformer/Perfectionist
Concerned with good wholesome, right and wrong. Motivated by the desire to ‘be good’, the need to live life ‘the right way’

At their best: Ethical, reliable, standards, self-controlled

At their worst: Judgmental, dogmatic, critical

They may not be a perfectionist in the traditional sense of lining up their environment,  but struggle with this internal critic causing anxiety of things they 'should do'

They are probably unaware that they push people away with judgements about what the world should look like and how they or others should behave.

When they are healthy they move to the traits of a Type 7 (this is called the direction of integration). When they are stressed they move to the traits of a Type 4Healthy 7 (the direction of disintegration)
We need 1s because they are our moral compass and remind us to maintain healthy standards in our lives
 
Type 2 - The Helper
Motivated by the need to be needed, need to feel they are lovable and valuable

At their best:  loving, generous, enthusiastic, warm, giving

At their worst: martyr, over-accommodating, indirect

A two may not realize that they are putting themselves in a service role to others as a way to feel valuable. They may not even realize that through all of their serving they are creating a relationship where they are needed and hoping to also be served in return. When they feel taken advantage of they can feel a lot of anger and resentment which shows up as martyrdom. 

Because they are so busy helping and supporting others, they often put themselves on the back burner.

Healthy move towards type 4

Stress move towards type 8
We need 2s because they remind us that those around us are in need and we can serve them and show up for them in many different ways
 
Type 3 - The Achiever/The Performer
Motivated by the need to be successful, believe that their value lies in their achievements

At their best: optimistic, practical, efficient, they get things done

At their worst: narcissistic, workaholic, deceptive in times where their ability to succeed is at risk or to maintain their image

A struggle the three will have is identifying who they are from what they do. They have difficulties getting in touch with their own thoughts and feelings - success comes at the expense of your feelings.

In Stress move to type 9

In health move to type 6
We need 3s because they remind us that setting and accomplishing our goals is a rewarding and worthwhile thing
 
Type Four – The Individualist/The Romantic/The Creative
Motivated by the need to be themselves, to understand their feelings and be understood

At their best: warm and heart-centred, introspective, they want to contribute something unique to the world, they are willing to deal with the hard stuff to find the deeper pur...]]>
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16. When did I stop enjoying my kids? Knowing your vision and values. The best waffles ever. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss16/ Sat, 02 Mar 2019 06:25:08 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8136 To get the bonus Simple Saturdays content, sign up for the email list below: Success! Now check your email to confirm your subscription. There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. Email Address I'd like to receive the free email course. SUBSCRIBE to SIMPLE SATURDAYS /* Layout */ .ck_form.ck_naked { /* divider image */ background: transparent; line-height: 1.5em; overflow: hidden; color: #665366; font-size: 16px; border: none; -webkit-box-shadow: none; -moz-box-shadow: none; box-shadow: none; clear: both; margin: 20px 0px; text-align: center; } .ck_form.ck_naked p { padding: 0px; } .ck_form, .ck_form * { -webkit-box-sizing: border-box; -moz-box-sizing: border-box; box-sizing: border-box; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_form_fields { width: 100%; float: left; padding: 5%; } /* Form fields */ .ck_errorArea { display: none; /* temporary */ } #ck_success_msg { padding: 10px 10px 0px; border: solid 1px #ddd; background: #eee; } .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked input[type="email"] { font-size: 18px; padding: 10px 8px; width: 34%; border: 1px solid #d6d6d6; /* stroke */ -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ background-color: #fff; /* layer fill content */ margin-bottom: 5px; height: auto; float: left; margin: 0px; margin-right: 1%; height: 42px; } .ck_form input[type="text"]:focus, .ck_form input[type="email"]:focus { outline: none; border-color: #aaa; } .ck_form.ck_naked .ck_subscribe_button { width: 100%; color: #fff; margin: 0px; padding: 9px 0px; font-size: 18px; background: #12b9cc; -moz-border-radius: 0px; -webkit-border-radius: 0px; border-radius: 0px; /* border radius */ cursor: pointer; border: none; text-shadow: none; width: 30%; float: left; height: 42px; } .ck_converted_content { display: none; padding: 5%; background: #fff; } /* max width 500 */ .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 .ck_subscribe_button { width: 100%; float: none; margin-top: 5px; } .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="email"] { width: 49%; } .ck_form.ck_naked.width500 input[type="email"] { margin-right: 0px; width: 50%; } /* max width 400 */ .ck_form.ck_naked.width400 .ck_subscribe_button, .ck_form.ck_naked.width400 input[type="text"], .ck_form.ck_naked.width400 input[type="email"] { width: 100%; float: none; margin-top: 5px; } .ck_slide_up, .ck_modal, .ck_slide_up .ck_naked, .ck_modal .ck_naked { min-width: 400px; } .page .ck_form.ck_naked { margin: 50px auto; max-width: 700px; }   ++ simple heart ++ Over a year ago I realized that I had come to a place in my daily life where I constantly thought about getting a break for my kids. I was struck with this shameful realization that I stopped enjoying my kids and being a mother. This past year I had one goal in parenting, to focus on enjoying my kids.  I shared my story with what that looked like and what I learned from it. It is a long post (read it here), so I can't cover it all in the podcast episode. Three big takeaways are  1/ We find what we are looking for. When all I looked for was a break, that was the problem my brain wanted to solve. I needed to give my brain a new problem to solve, one that empowered me.  2/ I am more fun than I thought. Through enjoying my kids, I am enjoying my life more because I am having more fun in my daily life 3/ This is a daily practice. I still struggle with and new problems come up that I need to work through, but I am practicing the only thing I can. The only thing I actually do have control over -  how I show up. To get the bonus Simple Saturdays content, sign up for the email list below: Success! Now check your email to confirm your subscription. There was an error submitting your ...

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++ simple heart ++
Over a year ago I realized that I had come to a place in my daily life where I constantly thought about getting a break for my kids. I was struck with this shameful realization that I stopped enjoying my kids and being a mother. This past year I had one goal in parenting, to focus on enjoying my kids. 

I shared my story with what that looked like and what I learned from it.

It is a long post (read it here), so I can't cover it all in the podcast episode. Three big takeaways are 

1/ We find what we are looking for. When all I looked for was a break, that was the problem my brain wanted to solve. I needed to give my brain a new problem to solve, one that empowered me. 

2/ I am more fun than I thought. Through enjoying my kids, I am enjoying my life more because I am having more fun in my daily life...]]>
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15. Intentional Living (what I’ve learned), Mom Retreats (mom office hours), Food Uniforms. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss15/ Sat, 16 Feb 2019 07:00:28 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=8077 What I have learned about intentional living, why moms need office hours and how a mom's retreat can help, eating the same food every day - the Food Uniform - and a great dinner idea.       ++ simple heart ++ What is intentional living? Simply put, it is living your life ON PURPOSE.  I break it down like this: Knowing what is important to you (your values, your vision, your priorities) Making choices inline with what is important to you (how you spend your money, your time, your resources, how you use your space) And beyond knowing what you want and making choices in how you live, it also means making choices in how you show up.  (the hard work) We started out with Intentional Parenting (it was hard) and it grew into Intentional Living (LIFE ON PURPOSE).  I am sharing FIVE THINGS I HAVE LEARNED ABOUT INTENTIONAL LIVING I am not a victim of my life It doesn't come naturally It changes and grows It is a daily practice It is empowering Read the full blog post here   ++ simple life ++ I propose that running a home is also like running a business. There is an 'admin' side to home management (the people, the supplies, the errands, the appointments, the bills, etc.) When do you have Mom Office Hours?  Maybe a mom retreat is a great time for you to take care of the to-do list. Read more about my recent mom/work retreat and some tips for planning yours.    ++ simple food ++ We have turned to using the 'Food Uniform' - the same thing every meal. Breakfast and Lunch are brainless for me because they are always the same.  Dinner recently: yam, kale and sausage hash with THESE mega easy sourcream chocolate chip scones!    Have a great weekend! Don't forget to subscribe (BELOW) to the email newsletter and get Simple Saturdays in your inbox every two weeks (with bonuses!) What I have learned about intentional living, why moms need office hours and how a mom's retreat can help, eating the same food every day - the Food Uniform - and a great dinner idea.   -     ++ simple heart ++ What is intentional living?  

 


 
++ simple heart ++
What is intentional living? Simply put, it is living your life ON PURPOSE.  I break it down like this:

Knowing what is important to you (your values, your vision, your priorities)
Making choices inline with what is important to you (how you spend your money, your time, your resources, how you use your space)
And beyond knowing what you want and making choices in how you live, it also means making choices in how you show up.  (the hard work)

We started out with Intentional Parenting (it was hard) and it grew into Intentional Living (LIFE ON PURPOSE). 

I am sharing FIVE THINGS I HAVE LEARNED ABOUT INTENTIONAL LIVING

* I am not a victim of my life
* It doesn't come naturally
* It changes and grows
* It is a daily practice
* It is empowering

Read the full blog post here

 
++ simple life ++
I propose that running a home is also like running a business. There is an 'admin' side to home management (the people, the supplies, the errands, the appointments, the bills, etc.) When do you have Mom Office Hours? 

Maybe a mom retreat is a great time for you to take care of the to-do list. Read more about my recent mom/work retreat and some tips for planning yours. 

 
++ simple food ++
We have turned to using the 'Food Uniform' - the same thing every meal. Breakfast and Lunch are brainless for me because they are always the same. 

Dinner recently: yam, kale and sausage hash with THESE mega easy sourcream chocolate chip scones

 

Have a great weekend! Don't forget to subscribe (BELOW) to the email newsletter and get Simple Saturdays in your inbox every two weeks (with bonuses!)]]>
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14. Currently decluttering, tips to plan your day, date your friends, a vision for the bedroom means decluttering. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss14/ Sat, 02 Feb 2019 05:00:27 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7983 Spaces I decluttered this week, tips to plan your day, plan a friend date, decluttering our bedroom to work towards our home vision DECLUTTERING In the email newsletter, I shared some pics of my decluttered sweater collection. Anytime you think you don't have enough of something - take an inventory (says the woman who thought she didn't have 'enough' sweaters).   SIMPLE LIFE If you are an Enneagram Type 9, like me, you probably just planned along with whatever everyone else had planned.  Then I had two small kids at home and found if I could plan my day it would make my life easier. Planning your day can help you feel more proactive and relaxed. Plan your day, change your life.  And this is how we plan together when Conor has the week off work. A list of fun things to do with your kiddos. Enjoying your downtime without feeling like you are a lazy mom  Tips to plan your day: Brain dump Putting goals into action (setting a weekly focus) Have running lists (meal planning book)   SIMPLE HEART I feel that friendship is like a marriage, you fall in and out of love and you need to put the work in it to keep that love alive! My case for dating your friends.   SIMPLE HOME What are things in your home that are a toleration? (blog post and worksheets here) We used the Life on Purpose workbook and set out some vision for our home.  Our bedroom is a space we have a vision for and we can take steps to work towards that! In the email newsletter, you will see photos of the decluttered dresser. It can be very empowering to make progress towards the vision you have for a space.   FACEBOOK Q+A I'd love to take this great conversation over to Facebook. Email me or message me on social media and let me know what questions you'd like to see addressed on Facebook and any stories you'd like to share. Spaces I decluttered this week, tips to plan your day, plan a friend date, decluttering our bedroom to work towards our home vision DECLUTTERING In the email newsletter, I shared some pics of my decluttered sweater collection.

DECLUTTERING
In the email newsletter, I shared some pics of my decluttered sweater collection. Anytime you think you don't have enough of something - take an inventory (says the woman who thought she didn't have 'enough' sweaters).

 
SIMPLE LIFE
If you are an Enneagram Type 9, like me, you probably just planned along with whatever everyone else had planned.  Then I had two small kids at home and found if I could plan my day it would make my life easier.

Planning your day can help you feel more proactive and relaxed. Plan your day, change your life. 

And this is how we plan together when Conor has the week off work.

A list of fun things to do with your kiddos.

Enjoying your downtime without feeling like you are a lazy mom 
Tips to plan your day:
Brain dump

Putting goals into action (setting a weekly focus)

Have running lists (meal planning book)

 
SIMPLE HEART
I feel that friendship is like a marriage, you fall in and out of love and you need to put the work in it to keep that love alive! My case for dating your friends.

 
SIMPLE HOME
What are things in your home that are a toleration? (blog post and worksheets here)

We used the Life on Purpose workbook and set out some vision for our home.  Our bedroom is a space we have a vision for and we can take steps to work towards that!

In the email newsletter, you will see photos of the decluttered dresser. It can be very empowering to make progress towards the vision you have for a space.

 
FACEBOOK Q+A
I'd love to take this great conversation over to Facebook. Email me or message me on social media and let me know what questions you'd like to see addressed on Facebook and any stories you'd like to share.]]>
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13. Family Culture, Thoughts on Tidying Up, the Currently List. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss13/ Sat, 19 Jan 2019 05:05:39 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7938     ++simple family++ It started with a pivotal NEW YEAR's Eve vision setting session. We started by asking ourselves what we want our kids to grow up to be, and what we wanted to do with our kids. Since then, we have been working on 'intentional parenting' or as I call it 'mom on purpose'. The day to day living out of your vision for your family will show itself in your Family Culture. That unique way you do life as a family. I've written about it here Build Up Your Family Culture and loved this article by Kindred Grace on Building a Home Your Kids Want to Come Home To   ++ simple home ++ My thoughts on Tidying Up on Netflix, the reverence we have for our stuff, and how we approach decluttering. Marie Kondo's Book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up (I'm sure I botched this title in the episode) Decluttering in waves Reasons why we can't let go of stuff   ++ the currently list++ READING: North of Normal. 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I am reading it as part of a Book Club with A Little Light. The Last Letter from Your Lover.  LOVING: My electric pencil sharpener. WEARING: This outfit (but with boots not heels #obvi). I just want to formally thank all the fellow moms who don’t call me out for wearing what are basically Fancy Pajamas. DOING: Working through the Life on Purpose Workbook with Conor. So far we have set a vision for four areas of our life and have five left to go. We have had some really great conversations and have gotten on the same page about a lot of things. LISTENING TO: Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel. My bestie told me about this marriage therapist who has a podcast of her actual sessions. It is so interesting LEARNING: That playing Jenga with my kids really stresses me out. It is probably the Type 9 in me.  My kids are actually here to PLAY the game and I am learning from them how to really do that.   SIGN UP FOR THE EMAIL BELOW AND NEVER MISS A SIMPLE SATURDAY!         -   ++simple family++ It started with a pivotal NEW YEAR's Eve vision setting session. We started by asking ourselves what we want our kids to grow up to be, and what we wanted to do with our kids. - Since then,
 



 
++simple family++
It started with a pivotal NEW YEAR's Eve vision setting session. We started by asking ourselves what we want our kids to grow up to be, and what we wanted to do with our kids.

Since then, we have been working on 'intentional parenting' or as I call it 'mom on purpose'.

The day to day living out of your vision for your family will show itself in your Family Culture. That unique way you do life as a family.

I've written about it here Build Up Your Family Culture and loved this article by Kindred Grace on Building a Home Your Kids Want to Come Home To

 
++ simple home ++
My thoughts on Tidying Up on Netflix, the reverence we have for our stuff, and how we approach decluttering.

* Marie Kondo's Book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up (I'm sure I botched this title in the episode)
* Decluttering in waves
* Reasons why we can't let go of stuff

 
++ the currently list++
READING: North of Normal.

7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I am reading it as part of a Book Club with A Little Light.

The Last Letter from Your Lover. 

LOVING: My electric pencil sharpener.

WEARING: This outfit (but with boots not heels #obvi). I just want to formally thank all the fellow moms who don’t call me out for wearing what are basically Fancy Pajamas.

DOING: Working through the Life on Purpose Workbook with Conor. So far we have set a vision for four areas of our life and have five left to go. We have had some really great conversations and have gotten on the same page about a lot of things.

LISTENING TO: Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel. My bestie told me about this marriage therapist who has a podcast of her actual sessions. It is so interesting

LEARNING: That playing Jenga with my kids really stresses me out. It is probably the Type 9 in me.  My kids are actually here to PLAY the game and I am learning from them how to really do that.

 
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12. New Year’s meh, manage overspending, the top ten of 2018. Episode 12 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss12/ Sat, 05 Jan 2019 06:17:56 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7903 Are you feeling MEH about the New Year? The top strategy we found to help us prevent overspending. The top ten posts of 2018. An update on the Life on Purpose Workbook     ++ simple life ++ Are you starting the New Year feeling totally MEH? There can be a lot of pressure to have your resolutions and goals all sorted before Jan 1st is over, but I want to remind you that you can start slow! If you are like me, and starting your New Year with a fizzle, I encourage you to take it slow, and I have a tip for you to prepare for when you are ready to put a plan into place for living your LIFE ON PURPOSE   ++ simple finances ++ We have tried apps, mottos, strategies to be better at managing our money. Not that we are frivolous or reckless with our money, but the little things add up and we find ourselves regularly overspending. Two things that have helped us the most: 1. Tracking our spending, and 2. This approach from Fun Cheap or Free  (her video is below). In the podcast, I tell you exactly why it works so well for us! ++ top ten of 2018 ++ I love to reflect on what guys read the most this past year. Here is the top ten post of the year! The top three were (3) How a Minimalist Thinks (2) Hygge vs Minimalism and (1) I Decluttered My Home For A Year, This Is What I Learned   ++ the life on purpose workbook ++ Stay tuned to the email list (subscribe below) for sneak peeks and updates on when this bad boy will be available! It is jam-packed with a lot of big ideas to tackle and help you identify, organize and plan the life you want to live!   Are you feeling MEH about the New Year? The top strategy we found to help us prevent overspending. The top ten posts of 2018. An update on the Life on Purpose Workbook -   -   ++ simple life ++
 





 
++ simple life ++
Are you starting the New Year feeling totally MEH? There can be a lot of pressure to have your resolutions and goals all sorted before Jan 1st is over, but I want to remind you that you can start slow!

If you are like me, and starting your New Year with a fizzle, I encourage you to take it slow, and I have a tip for you to prepare for when you are ready to put a plan into place for living your LIFE ON PURPOSE

 
++ simple finances ++
We have tried apps, mottos, strategies to be better at managing our money. Not that we are frivolous or reckless with our money, but the little things add up and we find ourselves regularly overspending.

Two things that have helped us the most:

1. Tracking our spending, and

2. This approach from Fun Cheap or Free  (her video is below). In the podcast, I tell you exactly why it works so well for us!

++ top ten of 2018 ++
I love to reflect on what guys read the most this past year. Here is the top ten post of the year!

The top three were (3) How a Minimalist Thinks (2) Hygge vs Minimalism and (1) I Decluttered My Home For A Year, This Is What I Learned

 
++ the life on purpose workbook ++
Stay tuned to the email list (subscribe below) for sneak peeks and updates on when this bad boy will be available! It is jam-packed with a lot of big ideas to tackle and help you identify, organize and plan the life you want to live!

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11. The Finnish Art of Sisu and Pantry Epiphany https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss11/ Fri, 21 Dec 2018 20:41:37 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7882 Did you know you can DIY microwave popcorn? The Finnish art of Sisu. My Pantry epiphany.     ++ simple food ++ Did you know you can DIY microwave popcorn!? I saw it on Instagram stories and started searching Pinterest. Here is a pin to get you started.  Also, check out my Easy Entertaining Pinterest Board   ++ simple home ++ I shared photos in the email newsletter of the pantries we moved from the kitchen to the basement. What have I learned by reducing my kitchen pantry storage in half? (Subscribe to the newsletter below so you don't miss the special email content)   ++ simple life ++ The Finnish Way by Katja Pantzar is about the people of Finland and the quality of sisu, a certain inner resilience and grit, that they have. This book has made me think about my daily life and inspired me to make some changes.    ++ the life on purpose workbook ++ This planner will guide you through setting a life vision and putting it into action. It is a compilation of my own experience, my life coaching lessons, the Year on Purpose booklet, and the Whole Life Vision exercise I do with my clients. This book is being formatted and designed as we speak and should be available in January!       Did you know you can DIY microwave popcorn? The Finnish art of Sisu. My Pantry epiphany.     ++ simple food ++ Did you know you can DIY microwave popcorn!? I saw it on Instagram stories and started searching Pinterest.
 

 
++ simple food ++
Did you know you can DIY microwave popcorn!? I saw it on Instagram stories and started searching Pinterest. Here is a pin to get you started. 
Also, check out my Easy Entertaining Pinterest Board
 
++ simple home ++
I shared photos in the email newsletter of the pantries we moved from the kitchen to the basement. What have I learned by reducing my kitchen pantry storage in half?
(Subscribe to the newsletter below so you don't miss the special email content)
 
++ simple life ++
The Finnish Way by Katja Pantzar is about the people of Finland and the quality of sisu, a certain inner resilience and grit, that they have. This book has made me think about my daily life and inspired me to make some changes. 
 
++ the life on purpose workbook ++
This planner will guide you through setting a life vision and putting it into action. It is a compilation of my own experience, my life coaching lessons, the Year on Purpose booklet, and the Whole Life Vision exercise I do with my clients.
This book is being formatted and designed as we speak and should be available in January!
 
 
 

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10. Minimalist Christmas, Time Management and Decluttering for Christmas. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss10/ Sat, 08 Dec 2018 06:38:04 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7797 How to move towards a more minimalist Christmas, a great resource for time management advice and decluttering to prepare for Christmas simple family I was recently interviewed for info on having a minimalist Christmas with my fave station: the CBC. Click here to listen, go to 1 hour and 49 minutes. I have so much more to say on what is a minimalist Christmas and you can get started. You can read the full blog post about a minimalist Christmas right here [What is a Minimalist Christmas and how to get started] >> GET THE SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER << simple life In Life Coaching, we often touch on time management in the lives of moms. I loved everything that Alison had to say in this episode of Awesome with Alison simple home I've been decluttering some places to prepare for Christmas. In the last Simple Saturday, I told you about the baking cupboard (and how I link it to 'identity clutter'). I've also shared some photos of the pantry with you in the Simple Saturday email. Decluttering for Christmas is helping me do an inventory of what we DO have and make better shopping lists for food, crafts, gifts, etc.  Decluttering the decorations is also helping me learn more about what I want my Christmas aesthetic to be. To catch up on the Simple Christmas bonus episodes check them out here: Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 How to move towards a more minimalist Christmas, a great resource for time management advice and decluttering to prepare for Christmas simple family I was recently interviewed for info on having a minimalist Christmas with my fave station: th...



simple family
I was recently interviewed for info on having a minimalist Christmas with my fave station: the CBC. Click here to listen, go to 1 hour and 49 minutes.

I have so much more to say on what is a minimalist Christmas and you can get started. You can read the full blog post about a minimalist Christmas right here [What is a Minimalist Christmas and how to get started]

>> GET THE SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER <<
simple life
In Life Coaching, we often touch on time management in the lives of moms. I loved everything that Alison had to say in this episode of Awesome with Alison
simple home
I've been decluttering some places to prepare for Christmas. In the last Simple Saturday, I told you about the baking cupboard (and how I link it to 'identity clutter'). I've also shared some photos of the pantry with you in the Simple Saturday email.

Decluttering for Christmas is helping me do an inventory of what we DO have and make better shopping lists for food, crafts, gifts, etc.  Decluttering the decorations is also helping me learn more about what I want my Christmas aesthetic to be.

To catch up on the Simple Christmas bonus episodes check them out here:



Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Part 4]]>
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9. Being a Good Hostess (Simple Christmas Part 4). https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss9/ Wed, 05 Dec 2018 19:54:28 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7783 I used to be a stress ball hostess, now I have an open door policy. Here are myths I had to bust through about being a 'good hostess'.   Links in this episode: Simple Advent Activities for Toddlers (older kids like them too) 42 Ways to Spread the Love This Christmas (random acts of kindness and ways to love on others this season) Myths I Had to Bust About Being A 'Good Hostess' Bread and Wine by Shauna Niequist The Simple Christmas Series >> GET YOUR SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER <<   I used to be a stress ball hostess, now I have an open door policy. Here are myths I had to bust through about being a 'good hostess'. -   - Links in this episode: Simple Advent Activities for Toddlers (older kids like them too) -
 



Links in this episode:
Simple Advent Activities for Toddlers (older kids like them too)

42 Ways to Spread the Love This Christmas (random acts of kindness and ways to love on others this season)

Myths I Had to Bust About Being A 'Good Hostess'

Bread and Wine by Shauna Niequist

The Simple Christmas Series

>> GET YOUR SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER <<

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8. Family Traditions and Shop Your Closet (A Simple Christmas Part 3). https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss8/ Sat, 01 Dec 2018 09:06:51 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7752 Why family traditions are important and ideas on simple ones to try. How to shop your closet to get dressed for that holiday party!   Welcome to Part 3 of the podcast series on A Simple Christmas. Part 1 is here, Part 2 is here. All the Simple Christmas posts can be found here.  In this podcast I'm sharing a bit from these two posts: Why and how to make unique Christmas traditions for your family How to shop your closet for great holiday outfits   Other links mentioned in this episode Moving from frump to fashion  Know your colours Take photos of your outfits  Rule of three for putting outfits together  GET THE SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER  Make sure to subscribe to Simple Saturdays (below) to stay up to date and get all the insider content for the Simple Saturdays podcast!   Why family traditions are important and ideas on simple ones to try. How to shop your closet to get dressed for that holiday party! -   Welcome to Part 3 of the podcast series on A Simple Christmas. Part 1 is here, Part 2 is here.
 




Welcome to Part 3 of the podcast series on A Simple Christmas. Part 1 is here, Part 2 is here. All the Simple Christmas posts can be found here. 
In this podcast I'm sharing a bit from these two posts:
Why and how to make unique Christmas traditions for your family

How to shop your closet for great holiday outfits


 
Other links mentioned in this episode
Moving from frump to fashion 

Know your colours

Take photos of your outfits 

Rule of three for putting outfits together 

GET THE SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER 
Make sure to subscribe to Simple Saturdays (below) to stay up to date and get all the insider content for the Simple Saturdays podcast!

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7. Decluttering ‘identity’ items, Getting Comfortable with Discomfort, Family Meetings. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss7/ Sat, 24 Nov 2018 06:45:53 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7726 Hello Simple Saturday Friends! Welcome to another bi-weekly email and podcast where I share some ideas and updates to encourage you to declutter your life, your home and your mind. Since the last email, there have been a couple bonus episodes on the podcast. I’m unpacking my Simple Christmas series for you there.   Check out Episode 5 on how to mentally prepare to have a simpler and enjoyable Christmas. Also,  Episode 6 is on simplifying the gift giving and giving thoughtful gifts. --> Make sure to subscribe to the podcast to get those bonus episodes.  ++ simple home ++ I'm sharing something I recently decluttered. I had to have a real talk with myself on why I was holding onto it and never making use of it.  I had to have a real talk with myself about letting go this 'identity' I wanted to have by owning this item. I need to USE it to have the identity. And it is hard, it is hard to get real with yourself. But it is also freeing. It frees up physical space and it frees up the mental burden that you ‘still haven’t done that craft’ ‘still haven’t worn that dress’ ‘still haven't found a spot for that art you don’t really love’. So, if you are sitting quietly having a real lady chat with yourself, what is something you have been holding on to but never use/wear/do? What are you ready to let go of? Email me and let me know!   ++ simple heart ++ I laid out some heavy stuff on the blog this week. . . . getting comfortable with discomfort. I’ve been spending the past year leaning into this and it has been life changing. The biggest change is how it lets me show up as a parent. Because parenting is one of the most frustrating and overwhelming roles I’ve ever been in. And it is every day. And I wasn’t coping well.  Read the post here [Getting Comfortable with Discomfort] If you are interested in life coaching on this, stop by here and click apply.  ++ simple family ++ We brought team meetings/family meetings into our life over a year ago. I'm sharing how we run them and what the outcomes have been. (Read more here)     Hello Simple Saturday Friends! Welcome to another bi-weekly email and podcast where I share some ideas and updates to encourage you to declutter your life, your home and your mind. Since the last email,



Since the last email, there have been a couple bonus episodes on the podcast. I’m unpacking my Simple Christmas series for you there.   Check out Episode 5 on how to mentally prepare to have a simpler and enjoyable Christmas. Also,  Episode 6 is on simplifying the gift giving and giving thoughtful gifts. --> Make sure to subscribe to the podcast to get those bonus episodes. 
++ simple home ++
I'm sharing something I recently decluttered. I had to have a real talk with myself on why I was holding onto it and never making use of it.  I had to have a real talk with myself about letting go this 'identity' I wanted to have by owning this item. I need to USE it to have the identity.

And it is hard, it is hard to get real with yourself. But it is also freeing.

It frees up physical space and it frees up the mental burden that you ‘still haven’t done that craft’ ‘still haven’t worn that dress’ ‘still haven't found a spot for that art you don’t really love’.

So, if you are sitting quietly having a real lady chat with yourself, what is something you have been holding on to but never use/wear/do? What are you ready to let go of?

Email me and let me know!

 
++ simple heart ++
I laid out some heavy stuff on the blog this week. . . . getting comfortable with discomfort.

I’ve been spending the past year leaning into this and it has been life changing. The biggest change is how it lets me show up as a parent. Because parenting is one of the most frustrating and overwhelming roles I’ve ever been in. And it is every day. And I wasn’t coping well.  Read the post here [Getting Comfortable with Discomfort]

If you are interested in life coaching on this, stop by here and click apply. 
++ simple family ++
We brought team meetings/family meetings into our life over a year ago. I'm sharing how we run them and what the outcomes have been. (Read more here)

 

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6. Simplify the gift giving. Thoughtful Gifts (Simple Christmas Part 2). https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss6/ Wed, 21 Nov 2018 04:41:47 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7710 Tips to simplify the gift-giving and ways to give more thoughtful gifts Today I'm sharing two posts on gift giving: Simplify the gift giving (make sure to read the post as I don't cover all the tips in the podcast) Gift giving is such a focal point of the holidays but it doesn't have to overwhelm us. We don't have to buy for everyone and we don't have to stick to convention. Nine Ways to Make Your Gifts More Thoughtful I KNOW that Jesus is the reason for the season, but it is also a chance for us to spoil and love on our people. I've had some gifts in my life that made me feel like my family or friends really had no clue about me. It stings, and it has pushed me away from making gifts a 'thing'. Then I have had some very amazing gifts that were spot on. They made me reclaim that gifts can be an amazing thing we share at the holidays. I love gifts, they make me feel seen. It can be quite powerful to give something meaningful to someone that fills a gap in their life or lets them know you know them well. Also mentioned:  How to Bullet Journal    GET YOUR SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER   Tips to simplify the gift-giving and ways to give more thoughtful gifts - Today I'm sharing two posts on gift giving: - Simplify the gift giving (make sure to read the post as I don't cover all the tips in the podcast) -


Today I'm sharing two posts on gift giving:

Simplify the gift giving (make sure to read the post as I don't cover all the tips in the podcast)

Gift giving is such a focal point of the holidays but it doesn't have to overwhelm us. We don't have to buy for everyone and we don't have to stick to convention.

Nine Ways to Make Your Gifts More Thoughtful

I KNOW that Jesus is the reason for the season, but it is also a chance for us to spoil and love on our people. I've had some gifts in my life that made me feel like my family or friends really had no clue about me. It stings, and it has pushed me away from making gifts a 'thing'. Then I have had some very amazing gifts that were spot on. They made me reclaim that gifts can be an amazing thing we share at the holidays. I love gifts, they make me feel seen. It can be quite powerful to give something meaningful to someone that fills a gap in their life or lets them know you know them well.

Also mentioned: 

How to Bullet Journal 

 
GET YOUR SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER
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5. Simplifying Christmas, from one mom to another (Part 1) https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss5/ Sat, 17 Nov 2018 13:00:38 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7665 a simple Christmas series part 1: finding your simple Christmas and 5 tips to help you make it simpler Welcome to a special episode of Simple Saturdays, part 1 in the Simple Christmas series A Simple Christmas is a series I have had on the blog for a few years and I wanted to offer it in podcast form as well. It is about a dozen posts all about ways to make your Christmas more simple, from the practical to the mental preparations.   In this episode I share: Finding Your Simple Christmas - writing these two lists, paying attention to what they tell you and building it into a personal Christmas motto 5 Tips to Make Christmas Simpler - tips to make any event more simple in terms of mentally preparing for what you want to happen, how to show up and how to just enjoy the Christmas that IS instead of stressing over the Christmas ideals that aren't happening.   GET YOUR SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER HERE   -- Make sure to subscribe to Simple Saturdays below! a simple Christmas series part 1: finding your simple Christmas and 5 tips to help you make it simpler - Welcome to a special episode of Simple Saturdays, part 1 in the Simple Christmas series - A Simple Christmas is a series I have had on the bl...


Welcome to a special episode of Simple Saturdays, part 1 in the Simple Christmas series

A Simple Christmas is a series I have had on the blog for a few years and I wanted to offer it in podcast form as well.

It is about a dozen posts all about ways to make your Christmas more simple, from the practical to the mental preparations.

 

In this episode I share:

Finding Your Simple Christmas - writing these two lists, paying attention to what they tell you and building it into a personal Christmas motto

5 Tips to Make Christmas Simpler - tips to make any event more simple in terms of mentally preparing for what you want to happen, how to show up and how to just enjoy the Christmas that IS instead of stressing over the Christmas ideals that aren't happening.

 

GET YOUR SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER HERE

 

-- Make sure to subscribe to Simple Saturdays below!]]>
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4. Decluttering kids’ toys, getting ready for a Simple Christmas, easy food for a crowd. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss4/ Fri, 09 Nov 2018 21:09:02 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7654 We declutter our kids' toys a few times a year, getting prepped to have a Simple Christmas, easy ham sliders for a crowd and a reminder that you are enough, you have enough, you do enough! Welcome to another bi-weekly Simple Saturday, an email newsletter also available in podcast form. Be sure to subscribe to the newsletter (at the end of this post) so you can get Simple Saturday, full notes and photos in your inbox!   ++ links++ Optimal Living Daily Relationships Episode 394 " I Stopped Calling Myself a Lazy Mom" See all Optimal Living Daily Episodes    ++ simple home ++ In the emails, I like to share with you what we are working on decluttering (because you know it is an ongoing process!). This past week we decluttered our kids' toys. What are strategy was for decluttering, and why we prefer to declutter their toys without them. [Why We Declutter Our Kids' Toys Without Them]   ++ simple life ++ I have started Christmas shopping, I'm not an over-achiever, I just want my future self to have a more peaceful and organized entrance into the season. The Simple Christmas series has been around for a couple years and this year I will also release some of the top posts in podcast form. Look out for those bonus episodes coming shortly!   ++ simple food ++ There is a simple dish that I have made for a crowd and now include it in our family meals. Also, can anyone really say Worcestershire sauce? Sometimes I am just better in the written form, please have mercy on my word-fails. Ham Sliders Pizza Sliders Zucchini Sliders   >> GET THE SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER <<   Thanks for joining in this week! If you liked this podcast please make sure to subscribe and leave a rating in your podcast player!     We declutter our kids' toys a few times a year, getting prepped to have a Simple Christmas, easy ham sliders for a crowd and a reminder that you are enough, you have enough, you do enough! - Welcome to another bi-weekly Simple Saturday,


Welcome to another bi-weekly Simple Saturday, an email newsletter also available in podcast form. Be sure to subscribe to the newsletter (at the end of this post) so you can get Simple Saturday, full notes and photos in your inbox!

 
++ links++
Optimal Living Daily Relationships Episode 394 " I Stopped Calling Myself a Lazy Mom"

See all Optimal Living Daily Episodes 

 
++ simple home ++
In the emails, I like to share with you what we are working on decluttering (because you know it is an ongoing process!). This past week we decluttered our kids' toys. What are strategy was for decluttering, and why we prefer to declutter their toys without them. [Why We Declutter Our Kids' Toys Without Them]

 
++ simple life ++
I have started Christmas shopping, I'm not an over-achiever, I just want my future self to have a more peaceful and organized entrance into the season.

The Simple Christmas series has been around for a couple years and this year I will also release some of the top posts in podcast form. Look out for those bonus episodes coming shortly!

 
++ simple food ++
There is a simple dish that I have made for a crowd and now include it in our family meals. Also, can anyone really say Worcestershire sauce? Sometimes I am just better in the written form, please have mercy on my word-fails.

Ham Sliders

Pizza Sliders

Zucchini Sliders

 
>> GET THE SIMPLE CHRISTMAS PLANNER <<
 

Thanks for joining in this week!

If you liked this podcast please make sure to subscribe and leave a rating in your podcast player!

 

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3. Brain dump, kid’s clothes storage, minimum baseline to change habits. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss3/ Sat, 27 Oct 2018 06:05:20 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7606 Declutter your mind and time with a brain dump, keep track of all the seasonal kid's clothes and handmedowns, change your habits using minimum baseline. Welcome to another Simple Saturday! This is a bi-weekly email newsletter that has been running for 2 years! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY FRIENDS!! Thank you for being along with me on this journey and giving me a space in your inbox!   In this Simple Saturday we are talking about: ++ simple life ++ If you’ve been around Simple Saturdays for a while you know that I will often recommend doing a brain dump.  A brain dump is a list of all the stuff in your brain. It helps you to get all those thoughts and tasks swirling in your mind out onto paper. Then you can use this list to set yourself some priorities for the day. Check out the post here for how I use Brain Dumps and how they help you do life better   ++ simple family ++ If you have kids you know that there are parts of your home designated as holding pens for stuff coming and going.  I thought I was solving this problem by labelling the bags and bins in the closet, but then I would never go in there and check. Mostly because all the bins and bags are in a huge pile that has to be all pulled out to get to the bottom (yes, we need shelves in there!). So, I realized I needed a better way to track what is in there.  I can’t believe it took me over 7 years to figure this out. Keeping track of the inventory in my notes app! Check out my solution here   ++ simple wellness ++ You guys know I’m a big habit nerd. I think habits are what change your life more than anything (for good or for bad). [This Simple Hack Will Help You Change Your Habits] A couple of years back I decided to challenge myself to change some habits. I called it #onesmallhabit and made the habits so simple that they wouldn’t take a lot of energy or thought to do them. I share with you a couple of the habits I worked on shifting. As I continually look for ways to shift to healthier habits I am finding success with something called MINIMUM BASELINE. I think I was missing this when I tried the #onesmallhabit. Because this is even simpler than that - it is the bare minimum. It is so dang low impact that you can’t NOT do it when you are challenged with it. How I used minimum baseline Here’s an example from my life:  I wanted to start getting the dishes tackled twice a day but I had a lot of more fun things to do instead. So I set a minimum baseline for myself: one dish. I can do one dish. I would put a cup away. Then I would laugh at myself and put another dish away. Then I would do the dishes. As I went through this process I was learning that I had some limiting mindsets that actually stopped me from getting my dishes done (that’s a whole other post!). Starting with this minimum baseline helped me to capture these thoughts that I subconsciously had that were keeping me from doing this simple daily chore. Now I do the dishes twice a day, for the most part. If I don’t feel like it then I challenge myself with a minimum baseline. How you can start with minimum baseline The minimum baseline can apply to anything you want to bring into your life. Want to eat more vegetables? Eat 1 carrot stick. Want to try exercise at home? Do one push up. One.   Want to declutter your closet? Get rid of one thing. Want to read more books? Pick up any book in your house and read one page.   And if you are like me and are learning you have a lot of negative thought patterns in this process, then check out my life coaching, I can help you get unstuck!    ++ blog posts ++ Shut Up and Dance With Me - a story about meeting my husband and dancing and singing with him - and how this atmosphere has grown in our family How a Minimalist Thinks - if you think it is just a physical decluttering then you might miss out on the mindsets that make minimalism come naturally Declutter your mind and time with a brain dump, keep track of all the seasonal kid's clothes and handmedowns, change your habits using minimum baseline. - Welcome to another Simple Saturday! - This is a bi-weekly email newsletter that has bee...


Welcome to another Simple Saturday!



This is a bi-weekly email newsletter that has been running for 2 years! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY FRIENDS!! Thank you for being along with me on this journey and giving me a space in your inbox!

 

In this Simple Saturday we are talking about:
++ simple life ++
If you’ve been around Simple Saturdays for a while you know that I will often recommend doing a brain dump.  A brain dump is a list of all the stuff in your brain. It helps you to get all those thoughts and tasks swirling in your mind out onto paper. Then you can use this list to set yourself some priorities for the day. Check out the post here for how I use Brain Dumps and how they help you do life better

 
++ simple family ++
If you have kids you know that there are parts of your home designated as holding pens for stuff coming and going.  I thought I was solving this problem by labelling the bags and bins in the closet, but then I would never go in there and check. Mostly because all the bins and bags are in a huge pile that has to be all pulled out to get to the bottom (yes, we need shelves in there!).

So, I realized I needed a better way to track what is in there.  I can’t believe it took me over 7 years to figure this out. Keeping track of the inventory in my notes app! Check out my solution here

 
++ simple wellness ++
You guys know I’m a big habit nerd. I think habits are what change your life more than anything (for good or for bad).

[This Simple Hack Will Help You Change Your Habits]

A couple of years back I decided to challenge myself to change some habits. I called it #onesmallhabit and made the habits so simple that they wouldn’t take a lot of energy or thought to do them. I share with you a couple of the habits I worked on shifting.

As I continually look for ways to shift to healthier habits I am finding success with something called MINIMUM BASELINE.

I think I was missing this when I tried the #onesmallhabit. Because this is even simpler than that - it is the bare minimum. It is so dang low impact that you can’t NOT do it when you are challenged with it.
How I used minimum baseline
Here’s an example from my life:  I wanted to start getting the dishes tackled twice a day but I had a lot of more fun things to do instead. So I set a minimum baseline for myself: one dish. I can do one dish.

I would put a cup away.

Then I would laugh at myself and put another dish away.

Then I would do the dishes.

As I went through this process I was learning that I had some limiting mindsets that actually stopped me from getting my dishes done (that’s a whole other post!). Starting with this minimum baseline helped me to capture these thoughts that I subconsciously had that were keeping me from doing this simple daily chore.

Now I do the dishes twice a day, for the most part. If I don’t feel like it then I challenge myself with a minimum baseline.
How you can start with minimum baseline
The minimum baseline can apply to anything you want to bring into your life.]]>
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2. Decluttering the kitchen, meal planning book, capsule wardrobes and the currently list. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss2/ Sat, 13 Oct 2018 02:16:31 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7549 In this Simple Saturday we are talking about: SIMPLE HOME decluttering the kitchen to make space for a planning station SIMPLE FOOD how to make a DIY meal planning book that will save you effort planning what to eat for the week SIMPLE STYLE a fabulous episode from Sorta Awesome about setting up your capsule wardrobe THE CURRENTLY LIST heated socks (by Flambeau) By the Book podcast, decluttering old clothes, and Daughter of Fortune Simple Saturdays is a bi-weekly email newsletter full of tips, insights, and encouragement to help you declutter and live your life on purpose.  The podcast is another way to get your dose of Simple Saturday. Subscribe for Simple Saturdays below to make sure you don't miss it and get all the links discussed. In this Simple Saturday we are talking about: SIMPLE HOME decluttering the kitchen to make space for a planning station SIMPLE FOOD how to make a DIY meal planning book that will save you effort planning what to eat for the ...
In this Simple Saturday we are talking about:



* SIMPLE HOME

* decluttering the kitchen to make space for a planning station


* SIMPLE FOOD

* how to make a DIY meal planning book that will save you effort planning what to eat for the week


* SIMPLE STYLE

* a fabulous episode from Sorta Awesome about setting up your capsule wardrobe


* THE CURRENTLY LIST

* heated socks (by Flambeau)
* By the Book podcast,
* decluttering old clothes,
* and Daughter of Fortune







Simple Saturdays is a bi-weekly email newsletter full of tips, insights, and encouragement to help you declutter and live your life on purpose.  The podcast is another way to get your dose of Simple Saturday. Subscribe for Simple Saturdays below to make sure you don't miss it and get all the links discussed.]]>
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1. What is Simple Saturdays by Simple on Purpose. https://simpleonpurpose.ca/ss1/ Fri, 12 Oct 2018 03:06:39 +0000 https://simpleonpurpose.ca/?p=7554 Simple Saturdays is a bi-weekly email newsletter that many of you lovely readers subscribe to. It is full of little tips, encouragement and insights into making minimalism and purposeful living work for you. Now I am offering the Simple Saturday newsletter in podcast form as well because I'm nerdy like that. In this first episode, I share with you how I got started blogging, my journey into minimalism, how it brought me to 'life on purpose' and what that looks like on a daily basis for me. Things mentioned in this episode: My C-Section story The Joy of Less by Francine Jay Growing up with clutter Things that hold us back from letting go of our stuff On realizing how complacent I've been, living on auto-pilot Tricking my husband into a vision setting session The email with the values worksheet   If you want to stick around the podcast, I suggest you subscribe to the podcast (so the podcast player knows I exist for people) Simple Saturdays newsletter below so you don't miss any episodes and keep all the show links handy     Simple Saturdays is a bi-weekly email newsletter that many of you lovely readers subscribe to. It is full of little tips, encouragement and insights into making minimalism and purposeful living work for you. -
Now I am offering the Simple Saturday newsletter in podcast form as well because I'm nerdy like that.





In this first episode, I share with you how I got started blogging, my journey into minimalism, how it brought me to 'life on purpose' and what that looks like on a daily basis for me.

Things mentioned in this episode:

My C-Section story

The Joy of Less by Francine Jay

Growing up with clutter

Things that hold us back from letting go of our stuff

On realizing how complacent I've been, living on auto-pilot

Tricking my husband into a vision setting session

The email with the values worksheet

 

If you want to stick around the podcast, I suggest you subscribe to the podcast (so the podcast player knows I exist for people) Simple Saturdays newsletter below so you don't miss any episodes and keep all the show links handy

 

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