67. Making motherhood harder than it needs to be (Mom Martyr)

Motherhood is hard, but sometimes we make it harder than it needs to be by becoming a Mom Martyr. 

I would know, I was one. 

I was knee-deep in the work and struggles of motherhood and I needed everyone to know it. However, the way I was showing up and handling life and motherhood was actually making my life harder (cue the marriage counselling!)

Reflecting back on where I was at, what I see I actually needed was to address my own personal doubts and fears and lack of enjoyment in motherhood. 

I am sharing 15 ways that mom martyrdom can show up for you.

As you are listening keep in mind that these are extreme examples and I don’t think everyone will be doing all these things – though I felt like I sure way. These points may be hard to hear and that is ok, I felt the same way when these things were pointed out to me. 

But, I want to encourage you that there are steps you can take if you want to try something new. 

Read the related blog post: How to know if you are a Mom Martyr and what you can do about it. 

What to do about being a mom martyr?

  1. Ask yourself what you do want in motherhood, what do you want it to look like?
    • How do you want to show up (live your values)
    • What do you want to move towards (live your vision)
  2. Focus on relationships that help you thrive in motherhood 
    • 12 ways to strengthen and heal your marriage
    • How to be a good Mom Friend
  3. Practice self- awareness to see how you are showing up. I love to use the Enneagram for this
  4. Get proactive – plan your day to make more peace and purpose for yourself. 
  5. Get some support – counselling or life coaching (the Life on Purpose Academy is a great and affordable option for this)


Other links mentioned

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The Moms30for30 wardrobe challenge

When Did I Stop Enjoying Motherhood

Life on Purpose Academy

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