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Type 1 – The Reformer/Perfectionist
Concerned with good wholesome, right and wrong. Motivated by the desire to ‘be good’, the need to live life ‘the right way’
At their best: Ethical, reliable, standards, self-controlled
At their worst: Judgmental, dogmatic, critical
They may not be a perfectionist in the traditional sense of lining up their environment, but struggle with this internal critic causing anxiety of things they ‘should do’
They are probably unaware that they push people away with judgements about what the world should look like and how they or others should behave.
When they are healthy they move to the traits of a Type 7 (this is called the direction of integration). When they are stressed they move to the traits of a Type 4Healthy 7 (the direction of disintegration)
We need 1s because they are our moral compass and remind us to maintain healthy standards in our lives
Type 2 – The Helper
Motivated by the need to be needed, need to feel they are lovable and valuable
At their best: loving, generous, enthusiastic, warm, giving
At their worst: martyr, over-accommodating, indirect
A two may not realize that they are putting themselves in a service role to others as a way to feel valuable. They may not even realize that through all of their serving they are creating a relationship where they are needed and hoping to also be served in return. When they feel taken advantage of they can feel a lot of anger and resentment which shows up as martyrdom.
Because they are so busy helping and supporting others, they often put themselves on the back burner.
Healthy move towards type 4
Stress move towards type 8
We need 2s because they remind us that those around us are in need and we can serve them and show up for them in many different ways
Type 3 – The Achiever/The Performer
Motivated by the need to be successful, believe that their value lies in their achievements
At their best: optimistic, practical, efficient, they get things done
At their worst: narcissistic, workaholic, deceptive in times where their ability to succeed is at risk or to maintain their image
A struggle the three will have is identifying who they are from what they do. They have difficulties getting in touch with their own thoughts and feelings – success comes at the expense of your feelings.
In Stress move to type 9
In health move to type 6
We need 3s because they remind us that setting and accomplishing our goals is a rewarding and worthwhile thing
Type Four – The Individualist/The Romantic/The Creative
Motivated by the need to be themselves, to understand their feelings and be understood
At their best: warm and heart-centred, introspective, they want to contribute something unique to the world, they are willing to deal with the hard stuff to find the deeper purpose
At their worst: depressed, self-conscious, they find it hard to separate the feelings from the facts, because they are focussed on this higher meaning in life they can sometimes let them be a gap between themselves and others and can silo themselves
Fours may not realize how they get wrapped up in themselves and their own thoughts.
When healthy they move to type 1
When in stress they move to type 2
We need 4s because they can walk us through suffering and teach us how to pay attention, honour and express our emotions
Type Five – The Observer/The Investigator
Motivated by the need to be capable, self-sufficient, to know everything
At their best: analytical, wise, objective, perceptive
At their worst: arrogant, distant, critical
This is another type that can really get in their own head. They will focus more on thoughts and knowledge rather than feeling and deeper meaning like a four. They even substitute feelings for facts. They are at risk of alienating themselves because they conserve their energy and knowledge – they are worried about these things being depleted
When healthy, move to a type 8
When in stress, move to a type 7
We need 5s because they remind us to stop and gather information, make decisions based on rationale, and to learn our craft well
Type Six – The Questioner/The Skeptic/The Loyalist
Motivated by the need to have support, need security
At their best: loyal, responsible, caring, devoted, prepared
At their worst: paranoid, controlling, rigid, defensive
They can be so focussed on the worst case scenario that others may think they are very negative. The six may not realize that they are projecting their fears and stresses onto those around them – which prevents the six from actually learning the skills and developing the emotional capacity to deal with them on their own.
When they are healthy they move to type 9
When they are unhealthy they move to type 3
We need 6s because they believe in and establish support systems and communities. They remind us to steward our basic needs.
Type Seven – The Enthusiast/The Adventurer
Motivated by the need to be content, be happy, avoid suffering
At their best: fun, spontaneous, confident, flexible,
At their worst: rebellious, impulsive, self-destructive, unpredictable,
The seven may not realize that because they are constantly moving from one thing to the next – those around them feel like they might not be seen or heard in the moment. They might come across as flaky.
When they are healthy they move to type 5
When they are in stress they move to type 1
We need 7s because they remind us that life is short and the party is where you make it. They know how to have fun and make us feel more free when we are with them – like anything is possible
Type Eight – The Asserter/The Challenger/The Maverick/The Rebel
Motivated by the need to protect themselves, be self-reliant, strong and independent
At their best: direct, advocate for others, courageous, leader, influential
At their worst: controlling, domineering, rebellious, over-extend themselves – this can be like a self-destruct mode for an 8 who never wants to be vulnerable and keeps muscling and steamrolling their agenda in a situation instead of surrendering
The eights can quickly judge others who they view as weak or indecisive and may push them away without giving them a chance.
When they are healthy they move towards type 2
When they are in stress they move towards type 5
We need 8s because they are great leaders who can use their powerful nature combined with truth and love to make amazing changes in this world.
Type Nine – The Peacemaker/ The Mediator
Motivated by the need to keep the peace and avoid conflict
At their best: diplomatic, open, calming, they are welcoming
At their worst: stubborn, apathetic, judgmental, they are very out of touch with their own anger
Because a nine avoids being controversial and is so accommodating they can lose touch with themselves and the things they actually want in life. When they constantly avoid conflict in their relationships, they are driving a pretty wedge in the intimacy.
When they are healthy they move towards type 3
When they are in stress they move towards type 6
We need 9s because they are mediators who can see viewpoints of all others. They remind us to seek harmony and to live out our lives from a place of peace
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